Neutral Perspective: Masturbation is “good” and “bad”?

March 20, 2017 at 5:01 am | Posted in bad, good, masturbation, Netural, Perespective, Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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GOOD

10 Reasons To Make Masturbation Part Of Your Wellness Routine by Alexandra JamiesonMay 5, 2015 10:42 AM mindbodygreen.com
“..Through working with thousands of women as a health coach (in addition to my own personal experience), masturbation has been both an uncomfortable topic to talk about — while also being a powerful healing technique. It’s time to finally embrace it.

Masturbation has gotten a bad reputation, mainly because religion and culture tell us it’s a sin. The Bible doesn’t explicitly talk about masturbation, although there is some stern warning against “spilling your seed on the ground.” The Catholic Church decided that masturbation (sometimes referred to as “onanism” after Onin, a Biblical character) was a sin deserving of eternal damnation.

By the time World War I came around, onanism was being called “self-abuse” and described in medical texts as more dangerous to young boys than lying or stealing. Girls and women aren’t even mentioned, as if “the fairer sex” couldn’t even possibly do something so dirty.

So it stands to reason that most of us would feel some traces of shame, guilt, or even fear when practicing this very natural act. But take heart from the animal world and modern science! Dozens of mammal, bird, and insect species have been documented to masturbate in captivity and in the wild. From penguins, to dolphins, horses, and even porcupines, mother nature has no judgment when it comes to wrapping your hand, wing, or fin, around your own personal magic wand. ..”

NEUTRAL

Masturbation Debate (Part 1) , from youtube.com
“..Published on Aug 17, 2012

One of the most common topics that gets debated in our ministry is masturbation. Is it a sin? Does the Bible say anything about it? Does it even matter when talking about sexual purity? These and many other questions come up over and over. This 3-part series will help shed light on this issue from a biblical perspective…”

WOMEN

Masturbation: Is It Wrong? Dr. Juli Slattery todayschristianwoman.com
Yes . . . and no. Guidelines for sorting out a complicated question.
“.. 1. What are you thinking about?

While masturbation itself isn’t immoral, the sexual fantasies that usually go with it may be. Most women only masturbate when they are thinking about or looking at something sexual. Sexual fantasies about someone you are not married to are, as Jesus stated, “adultery of the heart.”

“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman [or man] with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)

If you are single, fantasizing even about some fictional sexy guy is promoting lustful thoughts. If you are married and fantasizing about another man, you are violating, in your mind and heart, your promise to give yourself sexually only to your husband. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with a married woman fantasizing about her own husband…

2. What is your motive?

The Bible makes it clear that God is very concerned about our motives. For example, giving money to your church might be a wonderful act of worship or an empty gesture, depending upon the attitude of your heart. The same can be true of masturbation.
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3. Is it mastering you? (No pun intended.)

The apostle Paul taught that “nothing should master” us. In other words, we shouldn’t be controlled or addicted to anything…

4. Am I honoring God with my body?

“Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)….

BAD

Can Christians Masturbate?

“Published on Jun 9, 2013

This video uses common Protestant theology to show that masturbation for Christians does not need to be such a guilt-ridden, condemning act as it is often treated.

For my regular subscribers, please note that I am not using a skeptical method of analyzing doctrine but am staying within the bounds of commonly accepted Protestant beliefs.
(Essence of Spring by Jeff Woodall licensed by http://www.ambientsoundgarden.com)”

Christian girls talking about sex and masturbation

“Published on Jul 18, 2014

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Negative Effects of Masturbation
September 24, 2012 by Andrew Michell howtostopmasturbation.com
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Does masturbation have negative effects? Scientists published this very revealing graph in the Archives of Sexual Behavior here. You can see that as masturbation increases the satisfaction with life decreases. The more a person masturbates the more dissatisfied a person may become. This leads to depression, unhappiness, lack of motivation, and other problems. (click to enlarge picture)

If masturbation is so healthy as so many claim then why are so many people here complaining of pain and negative effects from masturbating? Religion has nothing to do with it because even non religious people experience the same pains and negative side effects. Actually %100 of the data from this study came from Sweden, which is the most atheistic country* in the western world! The more often atheists masturbate the worse they feel. Some will reply “But masturbation is okay unless you are doing it 10 times a day.” Look at the graph. People who feel the worst masturbate only 10 times a month. ..”

Others:

Health: Benefits of Masturbation? goodnewshealthandfitness.wordpress.com

What are your thoughts?

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Why do people cheat on their partners?

August 2, 2015 at 2:52 am | Posted in adultery, Cheating, Couples, marriage, Partners | Leave a comment
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There seems to be a theme lately on this topic, which is why I decided to do this. I’m currently not in a relationship, so I really don’t have any credibility. However, I can share some instances where I’ve been tempted to “go along” with someone trying to cheat their partner. I’ll share that later. Here are some headlines I’ve noticed lately by the “mainstream media”..

Sports

Why Did WNBA Stars Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson Annul Their Marriage?, 06.11.155:20 AM ET from thedailybeast.com
“…Johnson, No. 25 for the WNBA team the Tulsa Shock, and Brittney Griner, No. 42 for the Phoenix Mercury, have announced the annulment of their wedding a mere 28 days after it occurred.

The announcement comes one day after the couple announced that Johnson was pregnant on Instagram and just weeks after they were both arrested for an April domestic violence incident in their Goodyear, Arizona home…

But the couple’s story also touches on one of the most underresearched public health problems in the LGBT community: domestic abuse in same-sex relationships between two women…

Comparatively little is known about domestic violence in the LGBT community but initial research on the subject has indicated that rates of physical violence are roughly the same for same-sex couples as they are for opposite-sex couples….


Brittney Griner’s sad tale: Estranged wife cheated with man
July 26, 2015 9:57pm
MARK W. SANCHEZNY Post perthnow.com.au

Does the media have an influence on “cheating” each other ? How so?

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Casting Crowns – Slow Fade

Have you ever been tempted to cheat? Why? How to battle temptation?

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-Peace

How to Recover From Husband’s Adultery with Prostitutes marriagemissions.com
“QUESTION: I’ve only been married 4 years. I just learned my husband committed adultery on at least 2 occasions with a prostitute. He says he is sorry and wants to salvage the marriage. I have conflicting emotions from moment to moment. If we as Christians are supposed to forgive others for their sins, why does God allow for divorce when a spouse is unfaithful?…

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How to deal with temptation?

May 2, 2015 at 2:26 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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I’m not an expert on this topic, but just wanted to share my on-going “every day” battle with this to the world as we are all not immune to this.  First, what is temptation?

temptation“: a strong urge or desire to have or do something

: something that causes a strong urge or desire to have or do something and especially something that is bad, wrong, or unwise”

We all have a desire for “something”, just what is it for? Is it for selfish reasons? What causes us to have those particular “desires”? Do we ever think of the consequences of these “selfish-desires”? I went to a conference that challenged me to write this. The message (see Ephesians 4 on “generations”) was about what “we” do now will affect the future generations. This really spoke to me because sometimes we don’t consider the affects of our “selfish choices” . This message inspired me because I struggled with my “selfish desires” (temptations) and needed a “good kick in the butt” to think about the consequences of my “selfish actions” (not just in my lifetime, but by future lineage or younger generations overall).

This reminds me of this song…

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If you start getting tempted, “STOP” the temptation right now before it gets bigger as the song says..”slow fade”! I know, it’s not that easy, right? Of course it isn’t, which is why we need help. Who and where we get that help from?…

Jesus…”savior”!



I just chatted with a “friend” dealing with “heavy” sin (e.g. sexual immorality). She feels God doesn’t love her because of her lifestyle. I just told her to ask Him for forgiveness and that God does love her (John 3)”

9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.11 Give us this day our daily bread.12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+6%3A9-13&version=KJVTeachings http://smu.gs/1O6DZuZThe Gospel of Matthew - [4/26] http://youtu.be/RWOpPj9gr_w?t=6m27smore..http://prayer.goodnewseverybody.comPrayer grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/609542502392314/

Lord’s Prayer

I “try” to remember to “sing”/pray this daily each morning-along with meditating (repeating) on “putting the Armor of God” (Ephesians 6)…

http://prayer.goodnewseverybody.com/intercessory.htmlThe Armor of Godhttp://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=ephesians%206&version=NIV

Another tip that has helped me is “fasting” 3 meals a week, which is a faith booster. What other ways do you deal with temptation to help readers and me to “fight this battle” with God’s help?

When you sin, just ask God for forgiveness and ask His help to “sin” no more. Also, I encourage you to ask a brother or sister in Christ (after being connected to a local church family) to help you keep accountable. We can’t do this on our own. We need each other. I “try” to meet with friends/brothers in Christ in a regular (weekly/monthly/etc..) basis on this as we share our struggles and pray for one another.

Before going to bed, I “try” to ask God to show me my sins I need to ask for forgiveness-just like taking a physical shower because we all get dirty in this “dark” increasing world. I’ve been in to health lately and one of the things they recommend is “daily/weekly/monthly detoxification“. This means, we need to cleanse (e.g. colon, pineal gland-mind, etc..) ourselves regularly because of the daily chemicals/pollutants we sometimes “ignorantly” consume in a regular basis. This is the same with sin, we need to ask our Heavenly Father to cleanse us regularly.

I read a health article about we don’t have to colon cleanse as much if we “stop” eating “unhealthy foods”. The less you eat “junk food”, the “less” you have to keep detoxifying our own bodies. As I mentioned earlier in this blog, think about the future and younger generations in everything we do!

Please share any suggestions, comments, feedback, etc.. on anything related to what’s written above. Remember, I’m no expert, just sharing my own personal tips on this “global epidemic”. We all need each other and God’s help!…your not alone, so let’s share each other’s struggles and tips to help each other out! 🙂

Struggling with Sexual Temptation

July 13, 2012 at 6:12 pm | Posted in addiction, Devil, Sex, temptation, Uncategorized | 1 Comment
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Yes, this is a very interesting topic, which I’ve been meaning to write about a long time ago. It’s been a really increasing “issue” in our society and it’s very rarely talked about.  I decided to share my personal “on-going” story on how I deal with “sexual temptation”, which we can all agree it’s been a “epedimic”! Our actions (e.g. sexually abuse) can “negatviely” affect others, which is why I call it an “epedimic”.

First of all, I would have to share some personal background on how I got to where I am right now. I used to struggle with pornography (see http://issues.goodnewseverybody.com/pornography.html) at a young age (probably during my years of puberty, so around 14-16-can’t remember the exact age).

Well, the reason for sharing my past is that I notice that a lot of the people I’ve “chatted” with has opened-up to me that their “early years” play a significant role in their “sexual tendencies”. For example, an extreme story is of a lady who is 22nd now and she was so-called “rape” at age 7 by her dad’s “so-called friends”. She’s now very sexually active and told me she was actually “ok” with what happened when she was young.

Anyways, I can share more stories that are less “extreme” to the one above, but many get curious about their sexual identity or “activity” during the transitioning “puberty stages”. I’m not an expert on this topic, but based on my own experience and hearing from others-it seems like a “signficant” season in peoples’ lives. I feel it’s important for “kids” around this age to be educated about this stuff.

Ok, what do we do now? We are sexual beings-some are more active than others. I’m here to just share my own personal tips and hoping you can learn from this. I welcome any other ideas (e.g. suggestions, comments, questions, etc..).

I knew I didn’t want to keep doing what I was doing as a young “immature” kid, so when I found my Christian faith. I learned to avoid temptation. The number one for me growing up was media (e.g. television). I haven’t had cable since 2006, which has been very helpful. Unfortunately, pornography is everywhere (e.g. computers). I “try” to avoid any pornography (e.g. pop-ups in computer websites) as I delete it or just run/flee..


Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.
1 Corinthians 6

However, it’s not easy as we read it in the Bible (God’s Word), so what has helped me since I became a Christian is several disciplinary tactics. I “try” to meditate (morning and evening) in God’s Word as it helps me “renew my mind” (keep my mind pure).
I then “try” to daily put the “Armor of God” (see Prayer: Intercession, Spiritual Warfare, etc…
) as life’s a battle everyday! Have others you can be accountable to, which means sharing your “dark secrets” with each other and cover each other in prayer. Lastly, keeping faithful or keeping that convenant/promise I made to my Heavenly Father that I will keep that “sexual purity” until marriage!

Still not conninced sexual temptation doesn’t effect others. Check this out…

Human Sex Slaves/Human Trafficking

Others:

How to “fight” all the sexual temptations in this world? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Thoughts, suggestions, feedback, personal stories, prayer requests, etc..?

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Getting out of self-focus

August 9, 2010 at 12:30 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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I have been pondering about this topic lately on “getting rid of self-focus” (e.g. self-pity). When we tend to focus on ourselves (e.g. pondering about our past: mistakes, hurts, etc..), we forget about whose (e.g. God, family, friends, etc..) around us. Do you ever get this? Do you feel this can be a distraction (e.g. staring down or hitting more obstacles that can be avoided in life) to “moving-on” or “moving ahead” in (a fulfilling) life?

Distractions In Life – Everything

“This is a slideshow I made being deeply moved by the Lifehouse Skits’ posted here, on Godtube and many other video-hosting sites. Sometimes, when we fail, we ignore God’s helping hand and instead seek these things, unknown to the fact that they bring us down even lower. We fall to them, we get attached to them and ultimately, get destroyed by them. Only God’s unfailing love can wash us from these sins and inspire us to move on. Only in God’s presence can we find true joy, peace and everlasting love.”

What are some ways to re-direct this “focus”?

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