Deep Thought: What causes “sexual harassment” and what can be done?

Understanding Sexual Harassment | Sexual Harassment

Stats

You Are Not Alone: Statistics on Sexual Harassment in the Workplace bushlewis.com
“Statistics on Sexual Harassment in the Workplace
Determining the true extent of sexual harassment in the workplace is impossible because many victims never come forward. In fact, approximately 70% of workers who say they have experienced sexual harassment never report it. Many more people may experience it but be unaware the unwelcome workplace conduct constitutes sexual harassment. Nevertheless, research confirms that:

Approximately 7,000-8,000 sexual harassment claims are filed with the EEOC every year.
The figure rises by about another 3,000-4,000 when claims from local and state agencies included…”

Study: Sexual Harassment Frequent Among Middle School Students By Allie Bidwell, Staff Writer |April 6, 2014, at 4:05 p.m. usnews.com
The most common act was unwanted physical touching, reported by more than 1 in 5 kids.
“…

At least 1 in 4 middle school students say they’ve experienced unwanted verbal or physical sexual harassment on school grounds, often in the hallway or even in the classroom, according to new research published Sunday.

Researchers from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign surveyed nearly 1,400 students from four Midwestern middle schools on whether they had experienced unwanted sexual harassment. Overall, 27 percent of girls and 25 percent of boys reported they had experienced verbal or physical sexual harassment or violence.
..”

Archives

Why Sexual Harassment Is Still An Issue And Why So Many Get Away With It 06.25.14 strong female lead fastcompany.com
Recent sexual harassment headlines look like something out of Mad Men. Why is this still happening? And what can we do about it?
“…Sexual harassment affects both men and women, but data from the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) shows more than 83% of cases are brought by women in 2011 (the latest year data is available).
How does this still happen?

“I see many cases of serious sexual harassment where the victim can’t get any relief because society hasn’t deemed it a serious problem,” says workplace discrimination expert Patricia G. Barnes, Esq., author of Surviving Bullies, Queen Bees, and Psychopaths at the Workplace.

While people are dramatically more aware of sexual harassment than they were a few decades ago, Barnes says it’s still too prevalent. Women who seek redress through the Equal EEOC or lawsuits face long, drawn-out proceedings that often don’t end in their favor…”

Awareness

‘Me Too’ draws attention to sexual assault and harassment KARE 12:51 PM. CDT October 16, 2017 kare11.com
“..Milano says on her Twitter account that she got the idea from a friend. Milano says her friend told her such a tweet “might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.”

In another tweet that links to a blog post, Milano, who was one of the stars of the long-running sitcom “Who’s the Boss,” writes the following about film producer Harvey Weinstein: “While I am sickened and angered over the disturbing accusations of Weinstein’s sexual predation and abuse of power, I’m happy – ecstatic even – that it has opened up a dialogue around the continued sexual harassment, objectification and degradation of women. “..”

Causes

Sexual Harassment – Causes of Sexual Harassment hrlibrary.umn.edu

Causes of Sexual Harassment

“Sexual harassment is, above all, a manifestation of power relations � women are much more likely to be victims of sexual harassment precisely because they more often than men lack power, are in more vulnerable and insecure positions, lack self confidence, or have been socialized to suffer in silence.� In order to understand why women endure the vast majority of sexual harassment, it is important to look at some of the underlying causes of this phenomenon…”

Workplace

Causes of Workplace Sexual Harassment lawyercentral.com
“..In many cases, the cause of sexual harassment is rooted in the structure and nature of the workplace. The following factors can contribute to instances of sexual harassment at work:

Dependency on other co-workers for support and teamwork
Reliance on supervisors for career success and approval
Abuse of authority
Workplace bullying
Poor management
Job instability
Personal problems, such as divorce

Regardless of the cause, sexual harassment is illegal. ..”

-Hollywood Scene

Howard Stern: I Knew Harvey Weinstein Was Lying When He Denied There Was A Casting Couch Newsweek Harriet Sinclair,Newsweek 3 hours ago (10.16.17) yahoo.com
“..Radio host Howard Stern told his listeners he “knew” Harvey Weinstein was lying to him in a 2014 interview in which the movie mogul claimed there was no “casting couch.”

In the interview, Stern had asked Weinstein if he could “walk into the room, pull your pants off and say ‘Okay, honey let’s talk business.'”

“Howard, I wish,” Weinstein said at the time. “The movies are too expensive, the risks are too great. It doesn’t happen that way anymore…”
What causes sexual workplace harassment? – Jun 16, 2016 thecaspiantimes

“..So what basically is being said here is that sexual workplace harassment has nothing to do with sexual desire but it’s about protecting a male domain. Some men think of sexual workplace harassment as a tool to show women that the workplace is their territory. Responses to this theory are that this is an act of nature or what should be thought of as the traditional difference between men and women. But all authorities agree on the fact that when we see the root cause of this, it will be the key to a successful prevention of sexual workplace harassment…”
38 Women Accuse Director James Toback Of Sexual Misconduct Matthew Jacobs 2 hours 24 minutes ago (10.22.17) yahoo.com
‘…It’s long been said that Toback was a sexual predator. In 1989, Spy Magazine reported that he would approach women, brag about being a Hollywood director, ask whether they’d like to consider a role in one of his forthcoming films and then ask them to meet him at late hours. Gawker echoed these claims in 2008, 2010 and 2012. Now, days after the #MeToo hashtag encouraged survivors of sexual assault to speak out on social media, more than three dozen women told the Los Angeles Times that Toback ejaculated in front of them, probed their masturbation habits, demanded they disrobe and/or rubbed his groin against their bodies. These incidents allegedly occurred in hotel rooms, on movie sets and in offices.

Toback was a notorious name in Hollywood circles, even though he never achieved widespread household fame. In 1991, he received an Oscar nomination for writing the Warren Beatty gangster movie “Bugsy.” Many of his films, including “Fingers,” “The Pick-Up Artist,” “Two Girls and a Guy” and “Harvard Man,” revolve around womanizers, the mafia or both. “The idea is not to have a separation between my life and my movies,” Toback said in a 2002 Salon interview.
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Legal Cases

Top 5 Most Absurd Cases of Sexual Harassment
https://youtu.be/dF2ckaKp3yE
Published on Jan 1, 2017

Some of the biggest cases of sexual harassment that landed the victims large sums of money.

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*includes Bill Clinton settled the Paula Jones case. He wasn’t fined.
Weinstein Helped Pay For Bubba’s Legal Fees During Monica Lewinsky Scandal ByPaul Bois @PaulBois39 October 16, 2017 politico.com
Contributed $10,000 to Bill Clinton’s legal defense fund
“..Records indicate that back when President Bill “Bubba” Clinton was embroiled in his own sex scandal against former White House intern Monica Lewinsky, he received a bit of financial help from none other than his good pal Harvey Weinstein, an alleged rapist and sexual harasser.

As noted by Fox News, a recently uncovered 1998 story in The Washington Post reveals that Weinstein donated the maximum contribution of $10,000 Bill Clinton’s legal defense fund.

The now-disgraced movie mogul’s relationship with America’s former President and First Lady has come under severe scrutiny in recent days as the allegations against Weinstein have stacked up. Naturally, the Clintons have pleaded ignorance in regards to his behavior…”

Actions:

Dressing “Modestly”??

Street Harassment: Sidewalk Sleazebags and Metro Molesters

Mayim Bialik Responds to ‘Vicious’ Criticism Over Her Harvey Weinstein Editorial
Entertainment Tonight Leena Tailor‍,Entertainment Tonight Sun, Oct 15 1:38 PM CDT yahoo.com

“..“I still make choices every day as a 41-year-old actress that I think of as self-protecting and wise,” she wrote. “I have decided that my sexual self is best reserved for private situations with those I am most intimate with. I dress modestly. I don’t act flirtatiously with men as a policy.”..”

“Dress modestly” to avoid sexual harassment!? –
IndiaTimes July 13, 2012 Indiatimes.com<
“..A public debate has erupted in China after Shanghai subway bosses requested women to “dress modestly” and avoid sexual harassment.
According to China Daily, in the country’s sweltering summer season, it makes sense for people to wear thin and cool clothes. The debate over scantily clad women, however, came to the fore after the company running the Shanghai Metro posted a notice on its official microblog.
It urged female passengers to dress modestly to avoid sexual harassment while warning about the “many perverts” using the subway system, the daily said. This set off a storm of protests on China’s social networking sites as women criticised the company for apparently suggesting that they, and not the men who harassed them, were the guilty parties…”

Missouri Interns Told To Dress ‘Modestly’ To Avoid Sexual Harassment by Lydia Morrish | 2 years ago konbini.com

“..Maybe the right route to go down is to educate everyone on the importance of not harassing each other so, you know, maybe the interns won’t have to wear high collars and chunky knit cardigans to avoid being groped…”
Research on the Relationship between Rape and Dressing anabagail.wordpress.com
“..From this study we may be moved to conclude that the more provocatively dressed a woman is dressed the less likely she is to be harassed. This finding seems to agree with this feed shared by @Cherox in which I was copied http://www.buzzfeed.com/jtes/sexual-assault-survivors-answer-the-question-what-were-you-w. Most of the women in this interview were definitely not provocatively dressed.

Does this however provide conclusive evidence that dressing plays no role in rape cases? No, in fact, sociopathic rapists profile their victims through their demeanour such that women who appear to lack confidence or are looking more vulnerable are often targeted. ..”

Sexual Harassment and Provocative Dress at Work – YouTube

Workplace

Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace

“Published on Mar 17, 2017

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Sexual Harassment: Causes, Consequences and Cures westerncape.gov.za
“..his document gives guidelines on how to deal with sexual harassment within the workplace, its causes, consequences and cures.
Contents:

What is Harassment?
Causes
Types of Harassers
Typical Victims
Consequences
Cures
For Help with the Handling of Harassment

Related

Stopping Sexual Harassment at School – For Learners (Public Information) (File type: pdf; size: 388.51 KB)
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Healing

-Documentary

Telling Stories of Sexual Assault Survivors and Their Journey To Healing in VR June 1, 2017 by Bobby Carlton vrscout.com
‘..Testimony is a documentary that tells the stories of five sexual assault survivors (four women and one male) using virtual reality to bring the viewer into each individual story being told. But it doesn’t use VR to make you a part of the story. Instead, VR is used in a more intimate way, by placing you face to face with rape survivors, where you listen to each person talk very openly about what had happened to them and what follows after their assault; such as the years of suffering and pain, the PTSD, the self medicating, the isolation, and the shame.

“This technique [using VR] allows the audience to make their own connections, resisting the fixed conclusions that are often a part of linear documentary filmmaking and turning the viewers into active participants,” described in a statement from the creators of Testimony. “Testimony is less about story “telling” and more about story discovery…

Testimony-How God helped in recovery from sexual abuse … – YouTube

“Healing Begins” Recovery from Rape / Sexual Assault … – YouTube

Jason’s story – survivor of sexual assault – YouTube

HEALING INSIGHTS FOR THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED AS A CHILD – Jeff Mills Christian Testimony
https://youtu.be/NHq1aQQKU0A
*see Deep Thought: Why is sexual abuse common? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Other Resources

Healing in the Workplace by L’Orangerie Crawford & Terri Harrison

Deep Thought: Why is sexual abuse common? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Struggling with Sexual Temptation How to “fight” all the sexual temptations in this world?, goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

This is an on-going issues, so feel free to check back of any additions. Till then, feel free to share your personal stories, comments, suggestions, feedback, etc…

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Neutral Perspective: Masturbation is “good” and “bad”?

GOOD

10 Reasons To Make Masturbation Part Of Your Wellness Routine by Alexandra JamiesonMay 5, 2015 10:42 AM mindbodygreen.com
“..Through working with thousands of women as a health coach (in addition to my own personal experience), masturbation has been both an uncomfortable topic to talk about — while also being a powerful healing technique. It’s time to finally embrace it.

Masturbation has gotten a bad reputation, mainly because religion and culture tell us it’s a sin. The Bible doesn’t explicitly talk about masturbation, although there is some stern warning against “spilling your seed on the ground.” The Catholic Church decided that masturbation (sometimes referred to as “onanism” after Onin, a Biblical character) was a sin deserving of eternal damnation.

By the time World War I came around, onanism was being called “self-abuse” and described in medical texts as more dangerous to young boys than lying or stealing. Girls and women aren’t even mentioned, as if “the fairer sex” couldn’t even possibly do something so dirty.

So it stands to reason that most of us would feel some traces of shame, guilt, or even fear when practicing this very natural act. But take heart from the animal world and modern science! Dozens of mammal, bird, and insect species have been documented to masturbate in captivity and in the wild. From penguins, to dolphins, horses, and even porcupines, mother nature has no judgment when it comes to wrapping your hand, wing, or fin, around your own personal magic wand. ..”

NEUTRAL

Masturbation Debate (Part 1) , from youtube.com
“..Published on Aug 17, 2012

One of the most common topics that gets debated in our ministry is masturbation. Is it a sin? Does the Bible say anything about it? Does it even matter when talking about sexual purity? These and many other questions come up over and over. This 3-part series will help shed light on this issue from a biblical perspective…”

WOMEN

Masturbation: Is It Wrong? Dr. Juli Slattery todayschristianwoman.com
Yes . . . and no. Guidelines for sorting out a complicated question.
“.. 1. What are you thinking about?

While masturbation itself isn’t immoral, the sexual fantasies that usually go with it may be. Most women only masturbate when they are thinking about or looking at something sexual. Sexual fantasies about someone you are not married to are, as Jesus stated, “adultery of the heart.”

“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman [or man] with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)

If you are single, fantasizing even about some fictional sexy guy is promoting lustful thoughts. If you are married and fantasizing about another man, you are violating, in your mind and heart, your promise to give yourself sexually only to your husband. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with a married woman fantasizing about her own husband…

2. What is your motive?

The Bible makes it clear that God is very concerned about our motives. For example, giving money to your church might be a wonderful act of worship or an empty gesture, depending upon the attitude of your heart. The same can be true of masturbation.
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3. Is it mastering you? (No pun intended.)

The apostle Paul taught that “nothing should master” us. In other words, we shouldn’t be controlled or addicted to anything…

4. Am I honoring God with my body?

“Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)….

BAD

Can Christians Masturbate?


“Published on Jun 9, 2013

This video uses common Protestant theology to show that masturbation for Christians does not need to be such a guilt-ridden, condemning act as it is often treated.

For my regular subscribers, please note that I am not using a skeptical method of analyzing doctrine but am staying within the bounds of commonly accepted Protestant beliefs.
(Essence of Spring by Jeff Woodall licensed by http://www.ambientsoundgarden.com)”

Christian girls talking about sex and masturbation


“Published on Jul 18, 2014

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Negative Effects of Masturbation
September 24, 2012 by Andrew Michell howtostopmasturbation.com
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Does masturbation have negative effects? Scientists published this very revealing graph in the Archives of Sexual Behavior here. You can see that as masturbation increases the satisfaction with life decreases. The more a person masturbates the more dissatisfied a person may become. This leads to depression, unhappiness, lack of motivation, and other problems. (click to enlarge picture)

If masturbation is so healthy as so many claim then why are so many people here complaining of pain and negative effects from masturbating? Religion has nothing to do with it because even non religious people experience the same pains and negative side effects. Actually %100 of the data from this study came from Sweden, which is the most atheistic country* in the western world! The more often atheists masturbate the worse they feel. Some will reply “But masturbation is okay unless you are doing it 10 times a day.” Look at the graph. People who feel the worst masturbate only 10 times a month. ..”

Others:

Health: Benefits of Masturbation? goodnewshealthandfitness.wordpress.com

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Why do people cheat on their partners?

There seems to be a theme lately on this topic, which is why I decided to do this. I’m currently not in a relationship, so I really don’t have any credibility. However, I can share some instances where I’ve been tempted to “go along” with someone trying to cheat their partner. I’ll share that later. Here are some headlines I’ve noticed lately by the “mainstream media”..

Sports

Why Did WNBA Stars Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson Annul Their Marriage?, 06.11.155:20 AM ET from thedailybeast.com
“…Johnson, No. 25 for the WNBA team the Tulsa Shock, and Brittney Griner, No. 42 for the Phoenix Mercury, have announced the annulment of their wedding a mere 28 days after it occurred.

The announcement comes one day after the couple announced that Johnson was pregnant on Instagram and just weeks after they were both arrested for an April domestic violence incident in their Goodyear, Arizona home…

But the couple’s story also touches on one of the most underresearched public health problems in the LGBT community: domestic abuse in same-sex relationships between two women…

Comparatively little is known about domestic violence in the LGBT community but initial research on the subject has indicated that rates of physical violence are roughly the same for same-sex couples as they are for opposite-sex couples….


Brittney Griner’s sad tale: Estranged wife cheated with man
July 26, 2015 9:57pm
MARK W. SANCHEZNY Post perthnow.com.au

Does the media have an influence on “cheating” each other ? How so?

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Casting Crowns – Slow Fade

Have you ever been tempted to cheat? Why? How to battle temptation?

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-Peace

How to Recover From Husband’s Adultery with Prostitutes marriagemissions.com
“QUESTION: I’ve only been married 4 years. I just learned my husband committed adultery on at least 2 occasions with a prostitute. He says he is sorry and wants to salvage the marriage. I have conflicting emotions from moment to moment. If we as Christians are supposed to forgive others for their sins, why does God allow for divorce when a spouse is unfaithful?…

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How to deal with temptation?

I’m not an expert on this topic, but just wanted to share my on-going “every day” battle with this to the world as we are all not immune to this.  First, what is temptation?

temptation“: a strong urge or desire to have or do something

: something that causes a strong urge or desire to have or do something and especially something that is bad, wrong, or unwise”

We all have a desire for “something”, just what is it for? Is it for selfish reasons? What causes us to have those particular “desires”? Do we ever think of the consequences of these “selfish-desires”? I went to a conference that challenged me to write this. The message (see Ephesians 4 on “generations”) was about what “we” do now will affect the future generations. This really spoke to me because sometimes we don’t consider the affects of our “selfish choices” . This message inspired me because I struggled with my “selfish desires” (temptations) and needed a “good kick in the butt” to think about the consequences of my “selfish actions” (not just in my lifetime, but by future lineage or younger generations overall).

This reminds me of this song…

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If you start getting tempted, “STOP” the temptation right now before it gets bigger as the song says..”slow fade”! I know, it’s not that easy, right? Of course it isn’t, which is why we need help. Who and where we get that help from?…

Jesus…”savior”!



I just chatted with a “friend” dealing with “heavy” sin (e.g. sexual immorality). She feels God doesn’t love her because of her lifestyle. I just told her to ask Him for forgiveness and that God does love her (John 3)”

9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.11 Give us this day our daily bread.12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+6%3A9-13&version=KJVTeachings http://smu.gs/1O6DZuZThe Gospel of Matthew - [4/26] http://youtu.be/RWOpPj9gr_w?t=6m27smore..http://prayer.goodnewseverybody.comPrayer grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/609542502392314/

Lord’s Prayer

I “try” to remember to “sing”/pray this daily each morning-along with meditating (repeating) on “putting the Armor of God” (Ephesians 6)…

http://prayer.goodnewseverybody.com/intercessory.htmlThe Armor of Godhttp://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=ephesians%206&version=NIV

Another tip that has helped me is “fasting” 3 meals a week, which is a faith booster. What other ways do you deal with temptation to help readers and me to “fight this battle” with God’s help?

When you sin, just ask God for forgiveness and ask His help to “sin” no more. Also, I encourage you to ask a brother or sister in Christ (after being connected to a local church family) to help you keep accountable. We can’t do this on our own. We need each other. I “try” to meet with friends/brothers in Christ in a regular (weekly/monthly/etc..) basis on this as we share our struggles and pray for one another.

Before going to bed, I “try” to ask God to show me my sins I need to ask for forgiveness-just like taking a physical shower because we all get dirty in this “dark” increasing world. I’ve been in to health lately and one of the things they recommend is “daily/weekly/monthly detoxification“. This means, we need to cleanse (e.g. colon, pineal gland-mind, etc..) ourselves regularly because of the daily chemicals/pollutants we sometimes “ignorantly” consume in a regular basis. This is the same with sin, we need to ask our Heavenly Father to cleanse us regularly.

I read a health article about we don’t have to colon cleanse as much if we “stop” eating “unhealthy foods”. The less you eat “junk food”, the “less” you have to keep detoxifying our own bodies. As I mentioned earlier in this blog, think about the future and younger generations in everything we do!

Please share any suggestions, comments, feedback, etc.. on anything related to what’s written above. Remember, I’m no expert, just sharing my own personal tips on this “global epidemic”. We all need each other and God’s help!…your not alone, so let’s share each other’s struggles and tips to help each other out! 🙂

Struggling with Sexual Temptation

Yes, this is a very interesting topic, which I’ve been meaning to write about a long time ago. It’s been a really increasing “issue” in our society and it’s very rarely talked about.  I decided to share my personal “on-going” story on how I deal with “sexual temptation”, which we can all agree it’s been a “epedimic”! Our actions (e.g. sexually abuse) can “negatviely” affect others, which is why I call it an “epedimic”.

First of all, I would have to share some personal background on how I got to where I am right now. I used to struggle with pornography (see http://issues.goodnewseverybody.com/pornography.html) at a young age (probably during my years of puberty, so around 14-16-can’t remember the exact age).

Well, the reason for sharing my past is that I notice that a lot of the people I’ve “chatted” with has opened-up to me that their “early years” play a significant role in their “sexual tendencies”. For example, an extreme story is of a lady who is 22nd now and she was so-called “rape” at age 7 by her dad’s “so-called friends”. She’s now very sexually active and told me she was actually “ok” with what happened when she was young.

Anyways, I can share more stories that are less “extreme” to the one above, but many get curious about their sexual identity or “activity” during the transitioning “puberty stages”. I’m not an expert on this topic, but based on my own experience and hearing from others-it seems like a “significant” season in peoples’ lives. I feel it’s important for “kids” around this age to be educated about this stuff.

Sexual Purity Into the Light – A Testimony in HD – YouTube

Escaping Sexual Sin: Consider the Consequences cbn.com
“…Through Paul, God is warning us not to be deceived into thinking that sin does not have disastrous consequences.

Please take a few moments right now, and invite the Holy Spirit to show you how sexual sin would seriously damage your life.

First, consider how it would affect your relationship with the Lord. Would you want to jeopardize your relationship with Jesus, who loves you more than anyone and gave His life to set you free from sin and death?..”

Kay Arthur – Pt 1 – Her Story of Sexual Sin & Freedom in Christ

I was just Tempted to Sin Hardcore BUT Overcame Through Christ …

Ok, what do we do now? We are sexual beings-some are more active than others. I’m here to just share my own personal tips and hoping you can learn from this. I welcome any other ideas (e.g. suggestions, comments, questions, etc..).

A Biblical Guide for Overcoming Sexual Temptation – YouTube

I knew I didn’t want to keep doing what I was doing as a young “immature” kid, so when I found my Christian faith. I learned to avoid temptation. The number one for me growing up was media (e.g. television). I haven’t had cable since 2006, which has been very helpful. Unfortunately, pornography is everywhere (e.g. computers). I “try” to avoid any pornography (e.g. pop-ups in computer websites) as I delete it or just run/flee..


Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.
1 Corinthians 6

However, it’s not easy as we read it in the Bible (God’s Word), so what has helped me since I became a Christian is several disciplinary tactics. I “try” to meditate (morning and evening) in God’s Word as it helps me “renew my mind” (keep my mind pure).
I then “try” to daily put the “Armor of God” (see Prayer: Intercession, Spiritual Warfare, etc…
) as life’s a battle everyday! Have others you can be accountable to, which means sharing your “dark secrets” with each other and cover each other in prayer. Lastly, keeping faithful or keeping that convenant/promise I made to my Heavenly Father that I will keep that “sexual purity” until marriage!

Still not convinced sexual temptation doesn’t effect others. Check this out…

Human Sex Slaves/Human Trafficking

Others:

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Getting out of self-focus

I have been pondering about this topic lately on “getting rid of self-focus” (e.g. self-pity). When we tend to focus on ourselves (e.g. pondering about our past: mistakes, hurts, etc..), we forget about whose (e.g. God, family, friends, etc..) around us. Do you ever get this? Do you feel this can be a distraction (e.g. staring down or hitting more obstacles that can be avoided in life) to “moving-on” or “moving ahead” in (a fulfilling) life?

Distractions In Life – Everything


“This is a slideshow I made being deeply moved by the Lifehouse Skits’ posted here, on Godtube and many other video-hosting sites. Sometimes, when we fail, we ignore God’s helping hand and instead seek these things, unknown to the fact that they bring us down even lower. We fall to them, we get attached to them and ultimately, get destroyed by them. Only God’s unfailing love can wash us from these sins and inspire us to move on. Only in God’s presence can we find true joy, peace and everlasting love.”

What are some ways to re-direct this “focus”?

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