Holidays without your love ones?

As we approach Christmas, my heart goes out to those without their love ones. I can ‘t imagine going through the holidays without someone you’ve been with for many years. I’ve been thinking about this at times during the holiday season and wanted to find someway to encourage those who will be spending the holidays without their love ones. There is a popular Christmas song that goes…”It’s the best time of the year..”. It might be for others, but may NOT be all the time for those that are without their love ones.

Grieving Through the Holidays livinglifecounseling.com
Giving Holiday Hope to the Grieving By Mary May Larmoyeux familylife.com
Encouraging those who have lost a loved one.
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The gift of listening

One of the most precious gifts is the simple act of listening.

Jane and Roger Palmer’s 19-year-old son, Patrick, died unexpectedly in the fall of 2003 from acute bronchial pneumonia. He went into a coma and died in his sleep while at college. Jane says, “Just being there and listening is so important. Well meaning people at times feel that they must do something, quote scriptures, or have the answers.”

Instead of answers, Jane says the grieving are comforted by people with understanding hearts whose sheer presence says, “I care.”
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How to Remember a Loved One at the Holidays By Nancy Copeland-Payton beliefnet.com
“”…This holiday season, gift yourself with time set aside to intentionally remember and celebrate your loved one. Choose one or more of the following remembrances to observe alone or to share with others who also loved the one you lost. ..”
Annie’s “How to Cope with Grief and the Holidays” Page, annieshomepage.com
Grieving During The Holidays © Ferna Lary Mills rfgifts.com
Surviving the Holidays After a Loved One’s Death christiannewswire.com/
I always get depressed over the holidays
Written by Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC powertochange.com
“Advice: Many people suffer from bouts of depression or the blues at different times during the year. During the holiday season people encounter memories of loved ones they have lost through death or divorce or friends who have moved away. People experience stress and difficult family reunions over the holidays. Depression is a growing problem. In fact, psychologists have said that we live in an “age of depression.”

…I know personally that when I am obeying Christ and trusting in His love for me, I have an inner joy that overflows, a zest for living, and a love for other people. Practically, here are some steps to help you cope and overcome the depression that might set-in after the holidays:..”
Coping with Grief at Christmas Stacie Ruth Stoelting cbn.com

Mark Schultz – Different Kind of Christmas (Live)


“Written in honor of Mark’s late father-in-law, Different Kind of Christmas resonates with those who have ever had to go through the holiday season after losing a loved one. Join Mark in honoring the legacy they left behind by celebrating the life of those who are no longer with us.

What are some ways to comfort them?

Good News Death
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Is it really the “Most Wonderful Time Of The Year “?

It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
http://www.youtube-nocookie.com/v/gFtb3EtjEic?version=3&hl=en_US&rel=0

Is it really the “Most Wonderful Time Of The Year”? I recently “really” doubted this earlier this month while volunteering to do a shift with a couple of my co-workers for the Salvation Army at a local (Morris, Minnesota) store. I grew up passing those bell ringers all the time before my family went shopping each holiday season. I finally volunteered doing this for the first time last year at a local grocery store. My co-worker and I enjoyed it so much that we decided to do it again this holiday (2011) season. It’s an interesting perspective when ringing the bell watching (staying “still” during the “busy” holiday season is a lot different than “participating” in going with the “busy” and “hustle” of the crowds of people in this increasingly “commercialized” holiday!) shoppers pass by. This year my co-worker and I noticed how “sad” people were this year compared to last year. Is it because of the so-called “tougher” economic times (despite better reports this year than last year when it came to shopping??)? Is it because certain individuals going through some personal challenges (e.g. financial challenges, flood victims in the Philippines, those without love ones due to health, past away, or unfortunate circumstances, etc..)?…

Santas fighting facebook.com

12 Days of Christmas. 12 Drunk Santas Fighting. Santacon NYC 2012

George Bailey’s prayer
http://www.youtube-nocookie.com/v/vRn26I2Bzd8?version=3&hl=en_US

Is it because of the “pagan” origins of Christmas (as we are uncertain the date of Jesus’ actually day of birth, but that doesn’t matter)?…

When my parents immigrated here to the US in the early 70’s, we didn’t have much. We had a small two bedroom apartment in Oakdale, Minnesota. We had one bed that most of us slept together while my younger brother slept in a crib in the other bedroom. As we got older, we got “better” financially and moved to a townhouse in St. Paul. We couldn’t afford a Christmas tree, so I remember finding a big branch of a tree and we took it home to make a “makeshift” (we stuck it in a bucket of toys to stand it easier) Christmas tree. Then as we got older as kids my parents were able to afford to buy “better” gifts. I would look forward to opening Christmas gifts, but would then go “downhill” if I didn’t get the presents “I wanted” (see selfish). Is it because?…

Making Room for the Unexpected – Inspirational Videos
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Have we lost focus of the “true” meaning of CHRISTmas?…

The Christmas Story – as told by the cutest kids! – Cute Video
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Jesus, “He’s” the “real” reason for the season. Find out how He is and this will help all of us find that joy (e.g. “count your blessings” -not just Thanksgiving!-before you go to bed, which I do during my nightly time of meditation) throughout “every” season!

Is Christmas “merry” for you this season?

Andy Williams – It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year – YouTube

Is it “really” the “MOST” “wonderful” time of the year?

“Merry Christmas!???” I’ve been getting this a lot lately, like every year. However, it just don’t feel like “merry” this year for some reason. It is probably for many different reasons (e.g. been to 4 funeral services the past 2 months, learning more and more that Jesus wasn’t born the 25th (read down below the site), growing in my “daily” personal relationship with Heavenly Father and knowing Jesus is all “season” (everyday) for me and not just during a “holiday” this season. It also hurts me to hear sad news (e.g. Violence Against Iraqi Christians Escalates-pbs.org: Iraq) that makes me more grateful of “freedom of religion” living in this “unperfect” (no nation is perfect) nation. Does this cause me to just “forget” this day of celebration? I choose to live this day “joyfully” (with “careful” awareness of others around me) like any day in life because life is too short to be wasted by being “stubborn”, “angry”, “depressed”, etc… Enjoy each single “second” with family, friends, and/or love ones because tomorrow is never promised with the uncertainties of our current world. I say the “spirit of giving” (doesn’t have to me always materialism) should not just be a one-day event, but an “everyday” event as one lives for Christ (see “Christ-like”-especially with all the “negativity” in the world. Instead of conforming to the increasing “negativity” of our world, why not do the opposite and “try” to be a light? How can we all each individually do this or why would we want to do this?

more…
http://holidays.goodnewseverybody.com/christmas.html

I use this time of the season to also reflect why we celebrate Jesus’ birth even though he wasn’t born on this particular day..

Should Christians Celebrate Christmas?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GlPLhSLXrB8

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Published on Oct 29, 2012
http://www.worldslastchance.com/ – Should Christians Celebrate Christmas? It is very inconsistent for Christians who claim to follow the Bible alone to celebrate pagan holidays (e.g Christmas).

“And the times of this ignorance Yahuwah winked at; but now commandeth all men everywhere to repent.” (Acts 17:30)

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*see Now You Know: Various Christmas Symbolism goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Should Christians Celebrate Christmas and Easter?

Santa | Parents Explain to Their Kids Santa Isn’t Real | Cut – YouTube

Was Jesus really born on December 25th (Christmas Lies)

Was Jesus born on December 25? | When was Jesus Born? – YouTube

When Was Jesus REALLY Born? Is Christmas December 25th Not The Birthday Of Jesus?

Should Christians celebrate Christmas? – YouTube

Jesus Birth being celebrated all-year round

The Nativity Story 1/10

The Star, Trailer

*see Now You Know: Who was/is Jesus…to “you”? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

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