How Safe is Your Information When You Use a DNA Testing Kit?
by Jessa Barron October 22, 2015 nextadvisor.com
“..They can help us discover more about our origins and even help us connect to family members we didn’t know we had. While there are questions about how these tests are completed, one of the more pertinent questions relates to the security of these tests. Many are concerned with who has access to your DNA test once it’s sent back into the lab and what the lab can legally do with your DNA. To help you determine how safe your information is if you use a DNA testing kit, we answer some of the most common questions when it comes to protecting your information and test results…”
Risks of DNA Testing in Search for Ancestors May 30, 20069:00 AM ET npr.org
“..I should point out that, when you look at the mitochondria and you look at the Y chromosome, it is only looking at one chapter in the 23 chapters of the DNA history. And DNA is, if you want to think about it in a more practical term, it’s like a tape recorder. And it records all of your ancestral migrations, and it has nothing to do with politics, or race, or religion. It is only recording those events, and half of it comes from your mother and half of it comes from your father. But it’s not always equal.
So, that being said, parents and children do not necessarily always inherit, let’s say the minor components of a genetic ancestry. So you might have three children, and one child would inherit, let’s say, a 15 percent sub-Saharan African content, and the second child will inherit none. And that’s just the DNA shuffle, as we call it. ..
But we also know that this DNA and this racial categorization is used in forensics and in criminology, in ways that your own privacy might be subject to a court order, for example. To find out if any relatives in your family might be involved in some activity. “
Privacy risks lurk in DNA tests, experts warn By Patrick Cain National Online Journalist, News Global News August 15, 2016 8:00 am globalnews.ca
“..But others are curious about the complex, highly personal information about you coded in your DNA: drug companies, insurers, sometimes police.
And once you put your cheek swab in the mail, you risk permanently losing control over a complete copy of your genetic data, linked to your real identity.
Should insurers see the secrets locked in your genes?
Liberal MP Rob Oliphant announces bill to prevent genetic discrimination
Internet of Things our ‘biggest threat to privacy,’ expert warns
“I think you have to assume that you’re going to lose control over that information,” warns Ann Cavoukian, a former Ontario privacy commissioner who runs the Privacy and Big Data Institute at Ryerson University…
Closing a 23andMe account doesn’t necessarily mean the company’s copy of your genetic data will disappear:
“We allow customers to close their accounts. It’s a bit complicated by our regulatory compliance for laboratories in the United States, which requires that raw information be held for a minimum of 10 years. The information will be de-identified, but will continue to be stored for that set amount of time.”…”
…Your genetic data can show your odds of getting diseases, like the BRCA1 genetic mutation that can mean a much higher risk of breast and ovarian cancer. Some diseases, like Huntington’s disease, are genetic, and susceptibility can be read from someone’s genetic information. With the science of genetics in its infancy, it’s impossible to know what can be told about you from your DNA in the future.
“With genetic data, it is very concrete, in terms of a road map to your physical conditions,” Cavoukian says….
“We are very clear that users own and control their data,” ancestry.com spokesperson Patrick Erlich wrote in an e-mail. “They can download it, ask us to delete it and destroy the sample, and can revoke their opt-in consent to participate in research projects at any time.”
“As disclosed in our policies, DNA samples are stored without personally identifying information at either a testing laboratory or other storage facility and may be kept by us unless or until circumstances require us to destroy the sample, or it is no longer suitable for testing purposes. ”
So what should an individual do? Like any other decision about digital privacy, the answer really comes down to your own comfort level, and how you perceive the trade-off between some information now and a potential privacy breach in the future…”
CORRECTION: Ancestry.com Hands Over Client DNA Test Results to Cops Witho̶u̶t̶ a Warrant*-
A pretty good way to discourage people from using gene testing services
Ronald Bailey|May. 6, 2015 1:11 pm reason.com/blog
In the event of corporate bankruptcy, consumers’ genetic data would likely be considered a corporate asset and sold. That is what happened when deCODE, a prior competitor of 23andMe, went bankrupt in 2009. Pharmaceutical giant Amgen purchased the company in December 2012 for $415M, in part for its large data bank.
You may learn about your own health risks or carrier status and by extension the potential risks and carrier status of your relatives…”
Differences Between Companies
23andMe, Ancestry and Selling Your DNA Information 23andMe, Posted on December 30, 2015 dna-explained.com
“..However, opting out of his higher level DOES NOT stop the company from utilizing, sharing or selling your anonymized DNA and data. Anonymized data means your identity and what they consider identifying information has been removed.
Many people think that if you opt-out, your DNA and data is never shared or sold, but according to 23andMe and Ancestry’s own documentation, that’s not true. Opt-out is not truly opt-out. It’s only opting out of them sharing your non-anonymized data – meaning just the higher level of participation only. They still share your anonymized data in aggregated fashion…”
Uprooted: The dangers of DNA testing
Virginia Hughes | October 1, 2013 | MATTER geneticliteracyproject.org
“Searching your genetic ancestry can certainly be fun: You can trace the migration patterns of 10,000-year-old ancestors, or discover whether a distant relative ruled a continent or rode on the Mayflower. But the technology can just as easily unearth more private acts—infidelities, sperm donations, adoptions—of more recent generations, including previously unknown behaviors of your grandparents, parents, and even spouses. Family secrets have never been so vulnerable…”
Problems with AncestryDNA’s Genetic Ethnicity Prediction? Blaine Bettinger19 June 2012 201 Comments thegeneticgenealogist.com
Different Reference Populations and Algorithms
As I suggested above, different companies use different reference populations and algorithms to create a biogeographical estimate, which can result in varying estimates.
For example, in my previous review of AncestryDNA’s Genetic Ethnicity Prediction, I compared my genetic ethnicity results from three companies (Ancestry.com, 23andMe, and FTDNA), and found that their results varied considerably. I’m not surprised by this, but I do expect that over time – as the industry arrives at more standard reference populations and algorithms (which the cheap whole-genome sequencing revolution will enable) – that estimates from different companies will align much more closely. Be patient and enjoy being a pioneer…”
-Results didn’t show?
Ask Ancestry Anne: Where Is My Native American DNA? blogs.ancestry.com
“..So how much of your great-great-grandmother’s DNA are you likely to have? Probably around 1.5625%! And that may not be enough to detect Native American ethnicity.
If you can find older generations on that line to test, I recommend that. Also, get brothers, sisters and cousins tested. You never know who might have enough DNA to be detected.
Even if you find the DNA connection, you will still want to follow the paper trail. I recommend our Native American Research Guide to get you started.
Elie Dolgin January 18, 2011 Kurt Hoffman forward.com
DNA tests to uncover Jewish origins have been offered for decades by companies such as Houston-based Family Tree DNA and DNA Tribes of Arlington, Va. They have shown, for example, that many Hispanic Americans likely descended from Jews who were forced to convert or hide their religion more than 500 years ago in Spain and Portugal. Yet although standard ancestry-testing platforms can point to centuries-old Jewish origins, none would have flagged Pickrell’s relatively recent Semitic pedigree.
That’s because most DNA tests have traditionally relied on only two small parts of the genome: the Y-chromosome, which is passed down almost unchanged from father to son, and mitochondria, which mothers pass faithfully to their offspring. Because these stretches of DNA remain relatively consistent from one generation to the next, they are particularly useful for testing direct-line paternal and maternal ancestry, respectively; however, they essentially ignore the bulk of someone’s DNA ancestry and cannot detect genetic signatures that cross gender lines…
CeCe Moore, a 41-year-old amateur genealogist who runs a television production company in Orange County, Calif., is one such customer. In 2008, Moore tested her mitochondrial DNA and her father’s Y chromosome, but found no traces of Jewish heritage. Then, last year, she obtained her DNA readout from 23andMe and learned that a small but significant amount of her genome appeared to be of Ashkenazi origin…”
Ever got your DNA tested? Why or why not? What did you find out? Any other comments, suggestions, feedback, questions, etc… regarding the content above or not mentioned that you suggest me sharing here?
Beauty and the Beast (2017) imdb.com
“.. An adaptation of the Disney fairy tale about a monstrous-looking prince and a young woman who fall in love.
Director: Bill Condon
Writers: Stephen Chbosky (screenplay), Evan Spiliotopoulos (screenplay)
Stars: Emma Watson, Dan Stevens, Luke Evans |..”
“Published on Jan 30, 2017
The final trailer for Beauty and the Beast is here 🌹 On March 17, rediscover a tale as old as time. Get your tickets now at BeOurGuest.com
Disney’s “Beauty and the Beast” is a live-action re-telling of the studio’s animated classic which refashions the classic characters from the tale as old as time for a contemporary audience, staying true to the original music while updating the score with several new songs. “Beauty and the Beast” is the fantastic journey of Belle, a bright, beautiful and independent young woman who is taken prisoner by a beast in his castle. Despite her fears, she befriends the castle’s enchanted staff and learns to look beyond the Beast’s hideous exterior and realize the kind heart and soul of the true Prince within. The film stars: Emma Watson as Belle; Dan Stevens as the Beast; Luke Evans as Gaston, the handsome, but shallow villager who woos Belle; Oscar® winner Kevin Kline as Maurice, Belle’s eccentric, but lovable father; Josh Gad as Lefou, Gaston’s long-suffering aide-de-camp; Golden Globe® nominee Ewan McGregor as Lumiere, the candelabra; Oscar nominee Stanley Tucci as Maestro Cadenza, the harpsichord; Oscar nominee Ian McKellen as Cogsworth, the mantel clock; and two-time Academy Award® winner Emma Thompson as the teapot, Mrs. Potts.”
Beauty and the Beast (2017) rottentomatoes.com
Average Rating: 6.7/10
Reviews Counted: 212
Critics Consensus: With an enchanting cast, beautifully crafted songs, and a painterly eye for detail, Beauty and the Beast offers a faithful yet fresh retelling that honors its beloved source material.
Why Some Parents Say Christians Should Watch Disney’s Beauty and the Beast 03-19-2017 www1.cbn.com
“..When Disney announced it would feature an “exclusively gay moment” in its new “Beauty and the Beast” remake, Christians everywhere vowed to boycott the movie. Despite the backlash, some Christians say parents should think twice about prohibiting their children from seeing the film.
CBN News caught up with folks who saw the movie opening weekend to find out what they think about the controversy. Click the video above to see what they said.
One of those parents is Sarah Wallace, a blogger for The Gospel Centered Mom, and mother of four. She says the movie gives parents the opportunity to teach their children how to interract with a world that loves sin.
“This is the culture God has appointed for us to raise our children in. We need to know how to live in it and interact with it,” she says. Instead of ignoring a culture that celebrates homosexualtiy, Wallace argues that Christians should send their children out into the world with strong knowledge of what the Bible says. ..”
*see Homosexual Acts a Sin? Judge Not! goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com
Sal: I’ve seen various versions of this story, but somehow this particular movie inspired me to write about this one. One major reason was the character…
Hattie Morahan as Agathe /en.wikipedia.org
“..– a reclusive, old woman who lives in Villeneuve who, in reality, is a beautiful enchantress in disguise responsible for cursing the Prince. She watches and manipulates the events between Belle and the Prince, secretly acting as their guardian.
Morahan also narrates the prologue…”
I saw her as the “guardian” angel and a particular symbol in the Bible of someone we “humans” need to watch for in life. Can’t let looks disguise you as the theme of this movie pretty much teaches..
What’s Up With Agathe In ‘Beauty And The Beast’? She’s A Complicated Character, To Say The Least By Olivia Truffaut-Wong bustle.com
“..Just a nameless and vindictive creature in the animated film, the Enchantress depicted in the new Beauty and the Beast, as played by Hattie Morahan, has a life beyond just cursing a spoiled Prince who refused to give her shelter. Named Agathe, the Enchantress appears in the prologue scene to curse the Beast, but she also pops up throughout the film as a villager. Agathe makes her debut in the film as the provincial town’s local old maid. She is an unmarried woman left begging on the streets, used by Gaston as a cautionary tale after Belle tells him she doesn’t want to go out with him. Pointing to Agathe, Gaston warns Belle that, in this town, an unmarried woman is destined to end up on the street…
Perphas the most significant change to the story in the live action Beauty and the Beast is the presence of Agathe at the end of the film. In the movie, the last rose petal has already fallen when Belle tells the Beast that she loves him. Belle didn’t break the curse at all, Agathe did. When the townspeople rush the castle, she enters with them, slipping in among the angry mob and making her way up to the West Wing of the castle. After witnessing Belle’s declaration, Agathe makes the conscious decision to lift the curse. In other words, she plays an active role in creating their Happily Ever After. Ultimately, the power to break the curse is in her hands and hers alone. She’s not just a random witch, she’s a woman with agency….”
*see Deep Thought: What “causes” us to do “bad” (sin) stuff? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com
on breaking that “generational curse”
What other “life lessons” or any personal thoughts or reflections you got from this movie or any of the Beauty and the Beast versions?
(Music: Karaoke-“Tale as Old as Time” (Beauty & the Beast) from Crazy lil’ Sal creativemusicartsy.wordpress.com)
Beauty and the Beast (2017 soundtrack) From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia wikipedia.org
“…Condon originally planned on not only drawing inspiration from the original film, but he also planned to include most, if not all, of the songs composed by Alan Menken, Howard Ashman and Tim Rice from the Broadway musical, with the intention of making the film as a “straight-forward, live-action, large-budget movie musical”. Menken returned to score the film’s music, which features songs from the original film by him and Ashman, plus new material written by Menken and Rice. Menken said the film would not include songs that were written for the Broadway musical and instead, created four new songs. On January 19, 2017, it was confirmed by both Disney and Celine Dion, singer of the original title track, that she will perform one of the new original songs, “How Does a Moment Last Forever”, to play over the end titles. The film will also feature a new version of “Beauty and the Beast” by Ariana Grande and John Legend. Some songs contained Ashman’s unused lyrics that were cut from the animated version…”
Beauty and the Beast (From “Beauty and the Beast”/Official Video)
Music: Karaoke-“Be our guest” (Beauty & the Beast) by Crazy lil’ Sal creativemusicartsy.wordpress.com
Thoughts of the new version? Any similarities and differences that stood out for you between the old and new? Anything interesting you would like me to add on this subject?
What’s the State of the Church’s Child Abuse Crisis? February 25, 2014 /
by Sarah Childress Senior Digital Reporter, FRONTLINE Enterprise Journalism Group pbs.org
“..The first report that church officials received about Father Shawn Ratigan, compiled by a Kansas City Catholic school principal in May 2010, was troubling.
Ratigan had taken hundreds of photographs of children, Julie Hess, the principal, wrote to church officials. He had tried to interact with kids on Facebook, and sometimes had physical contact with children in ways that appeared to other adults to be “boundary violations.”A pair of girl’s underwear was found in a planter in his backyard…”
‘Spotlight’ portrayal of sex abuse scandal is making the Catholic Church uncomfortable all over again By Michelle Boorstein November 9, 2015 washingtonpost.com
“..“Sexual abuse of minors is a problem that affects many institutions in our society,” wrote Cesareo, head of the body charged with making sure the church enforces the rules it created after the scandal exploded. “In 2002, the Catholic Church recognized that it was not immune to this issue.”
Survivor advocates have bristled in the past when church leaders have declared the abuse crisis in Catholicism over, or have tried to remove focus from the institution itself. When Pope Francis this summer met in Philadelphia with survivors and included some people whose perpetrators were outside the church, many survivors who spoke out were angry at what they saw as a diluting of responsibility…”
Corey Haim Murdered Exposing Pedophiles in Hollywood , 14 September 2010 bbc.com
“..The Catholic Church has faced a raft of allegations of child sex abuse by priests and an inadequate response by bishops. Here is a round-up of some of those events:..”
“Published on Sep 18, 2010
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“An exhibition of abundant courage and great heart. Thank you.”
“A message of hope, healing and empowerment.”
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“An excellent film…
“This powerhouse of a film.. banishes shame & celebrates women’s power.”
Laura Davis, co-author, Courage to Heal
Features Former Miss America, Marilyn Van Derbur and her courageous story of healing from the child sexual abuse by her father, Janice Mirikitani, President of Glide Memorial Church, her inspiring story of healing and launching much needed support groups for women survivors of sexual abuse, also substance abusers, and Barbara Hamilton, who ended generations of child sexual abuse in her family by healing in her later years. Distributed by Tubemogul.”
Joyce Meyer Opens Up About Being Raped by Her Father Over 200 Times-“I Never Felt Safe” Posted on April 27, 2016 Kelsey StraeterKelsey Straeter faithit.com
“…Even as Joyce started to open up about her dark past, she always referred to it as “sexual abuse”—but in a recent interview posted on her website this week, she admits that term is truly not enough anymore. It was rape.
“Literally, what he did was rape me, every week, at least once a week, until the time I was 18. My father, who I was supposed to be able to trust, who was supposed to keep me safe, raped me a minimum of 200 times,” she said.
“He didn’t force me physically, but through lies, and manipulation, and fears, and threats, I was still forced,” she added. “My father did rape me, numerous times, at least 200 times.”..
The main reason she is being so transparent in her testimony now is because she’s grateful that God’s grace and freedom have released her from the “pretending game” she had to play for so much of her life.
Though the pain and suffering ran deep for many years, Joyce has now been able to find healing through the love of God, who has shown her what a true father’s heart looks like. She even fell in love with her adoring husband, Dave, who reaffirmed that a man’s hands can be gentle, respectful and kind.
“How can that have happened to me, and me be standing here today, if God is not alive and well?” she said. “I want people to know how good God is, and that your struggle is worth it, your journey is worth it. Don’t give up.”
Joyce now loves her life as a mother, grandmother and worldwide Christian speaker, and she hopes that in sharing her story, others may find healing….”
“Published on Sep 5, 2016
Joyce was abused by her father during her childhood and teenage years – here’s her story of healing and forgiveness.
Filmed and produced by Joyce Meyer Ministries. Edited with permission by Lens Stories for RealDeal Trust. All Rights Reserved.”
Corey Haim’s A-list rapist may finally be named — what took so long? 1 day ago (9.20.16) by Caroline Goddard sheknows.com
“..Feldman has been discussing the sick environment of Hollywood child sexual abuse for years, even detailing the abuse both he and Haim suffered in his memoir, Coreyography. Most recently, last spring he told The Hollywood Reporter about parties for preteen actors where predators groom their next victims, and said that he and Haim had attended many. And he’s not the only one speaking out.
Elijah Wood said he was protected from such predators because his mother would not allow him to attend the parties, and although he later denied firsthand knowledge of rampant sex abuse in the industry, he gave some very telling quotes to the Sunday Times.
“Clearly something major was going on in Hollywood. It was all organized. There are a lot of vipers in this industry, people who only have their own interests in mind,” he said.
“There is darkness in the underbelly. If you can imagine it, it’s probably happened.”
More: Corey Feldman details Hollywood sex abuse conspiracy
Even Alison Arngrim, who played Nellie Oleson on Little House on the Prairie, said the abuse was an open secret in Hollywood…”
Actor Corey Feldman Exposes Pedophile Hollywood Elite , from youtube.com
Corey Haim Murdered Exposing Pedophiles in Hollywood , from youtube.com
The Hollywood Sex Abuse Documentary That You Almost Couldn’t See Adam B. Vary
BuzzFeed News Reporter buzzfeed.com
The documentary creates a stark and sobering portrait of a loose network of Hollywood professionals — some outsize personalities like Collins-Rector, others Hollywood insiders with far smaller profiles — who use their positions of power and influence to sexually abuse and exploit underage (in the film’s case, male) actors whose nascent careers they’re supposed to be supporting. The movie, directed by the Oscar-nominated filmmaker Amy Berg (Deliver Us From Evil), premiered to some fanfare last November at the DOC NYC festival. But despite Berg’s pedigree and its startling, headline-grabbing subject matter, no top-tier distributors picked up the film for release…”
An Open Secret
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Pedophiles in Hollywood Conspiracy + Charlie Sheen + UK Stars + MUCH MORE , from youtube.com
“..Published on Dec 29, 2014
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Elijah Wood Clarifies Comments on Hollywood Pedophilia By DANIEL VICTORMAY 24, 2016 nytimes.com
“…The actor Elijah Wood clarified his remarks on Monday after suggesting in an interview with a London newspaper that sexual abuse of child stars was more widespread in Hollywood than had been reported.
After the interview with The Sunday Times drew international headlines and questions, Mr. Wood put out a statement emphasizing that his comments weren’t based on personal experience.
“Let me be clear: This subject of child abuse is an important one that should be discussed and properly investigated,” Mr. Wood said. “But as I made absolutely clear to the writer, I have no firsthand experience or observation of the topic, so I cannot speak with any authority beyond articles I have read and films I have seen.”..”
“Published on Apr 8, 2011
Paul tells his story of being sexually abused on the mission field from the age of 4 by the tribes his parents were trying to reach, and then by other kids at missionary boarding school. He discusses the consequent sexual addiction, porn use, and adultery that ensued.”
“Published on Feb 16, 2012
The aftermath of sexual abuse can be devastating. For Hannah, it manifested itself through alcoholism, eating disorders and even cutting herself… all before she turned 18. This is her story.”
Why Do People Sexually Use or Abuse Children? 1in6.org
A very important question, asked by many people.
And a question – a search or quest, even – that some will struggle with for years.
Fearing they somehow brought it on themselves, and hoping that understanding the other person will prove it wasn’t their fault.
Still loving the person who used or abused them, and hoping that understanding why they did it will bring healing to their relationship.
Hoping that understanding why the person who used or abused them will help them to prevent other children (perhaps their own), from ever being sexually abused.
Feeling that life is unfair, unjust, random and/or meaningless, and hoping that understanding how someone could sexually abuse a child will bring some order and meaning to life.
Focusing on the other person, including why they did it, can be a way of avoiding one’s own responsibility, as an adult, for dealing with harmful effects in one’s own life, including self-destructive and harmful behaviors. (We mention this possible reason with no criticism of those to whom it applies. It’s not uncommon, and totally understandable, among those still struggling with major negative effects.)
Importantly, people may not be fully aware of some reasons why they’re asking why the other person (or people) did this to them. They may not recognize some hopes they have for the benefits that such understanding could bring. That’s totally normal. Over time the full significance of this question in your life may become clearer – or completely change as other aspects of your life change…”
Why would an adult sexually abuse a child? stopitnow.org
“..Some adults sexually abuse a child to feel the power and control they don’t feel in their relationships with other adults. Sometimes, adults who have intimate sexual relationships with other adults may sexually abuse children in moments of unusual stress, such as after the loss a job or during a divorce. Some adults are primarily sexually attracted to children, and some never act on those feelings. Some adults act impulsively when presented with an unexpected opportunity to sexually abuse a child. Other people, particularly youth with high social status or with social or emotional delays, may not even fully understand the harmful impact of their actions…”
An Ongoing Sex Drive Directed Toward Children
What Causes Someone To Molest? childmolestationprevention.org
A few sexual abusers will sexually touch a child because they are profoundly intellectually disabled, or they have developed a brain disorder, or they are psychotic. Close supervision and, when appropriate, medications to control the disorder often stop child molesters in this group.
George does not fit here.
Some abusers will sexually touch a child because they have an antisocial personality disorder. Think “anti-society.” People with this disorder may be social, even glib. So why do we call them “antisocial?” Because they believe that the rules of society do not apply to them. They break many of society’s rules. Essentially, antisocials lack feelings for others. In the mind of an antisocial, all of the rest of us, including children, exist to be used. The child molesters in this group appear most often in horrific accounts you see on television and in the newspaper.
“Published on Nov 22, 2015
Have you or someone you love been sexually abused? Healing is on the way! #MotivationalMonday #RealPeople #RealStories
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We hear about forgiving our enemies when it comes to a political warfare or even bullies we grew up with. However, can we forgive those that we had a personal relationship (e.g. spouse, ex boyfriend/girlfriend, former friend, relative/family member, etc..)?
It Will Take Time to Forget Her Unfaithfulness
You will always look back on this as one of the hardest periods in your life, but again, that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to learn ‘how to get over my wife’s affair’, it just means it harder. The old mantra, forgive and forget, can NOT be applied to this situation. No matter how hard you try, the experience of this affair will remain in your mind…”
John & Lisa Bevere | How To Heal Your Marriage, from youtube.com
Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship
We are always called to forgive; but forgiveness should not be seen as a remedy to another’s character
“…Before we go any further, we must acknowledge that men can also be the victims of emotional abuse—but the statistics are difficult to interpret because men are even less likely than women to report emotional abuse.
We are always called to forgive; but forgiveness should not be seen as a remedy to another’s character, rather a soothing balm to protect our own hearts from bitterness.
But we see sisters and brothers letting destructive people into their lives, laboring under the fundamental misunderstanding that forgiveness equals being a doormat. It’s common as Christians to put ourselves in harm’s way, stay in abusive relationships and fail to set healthy boundaries—all under the banner of “forgiveness.” I know from experience.
Forgiveness and reconciliation are very different, yet often confused, perhaps because of the widespread teaching that God forgives us and doesn’t remember our sins. Are we to follow in His steps when we continue in toxic, abusive relationships?…
Dr. Bill Maier on Forgiveness and Restoration
By Bill Maier focusonthefamily.com
Saw her “live” in concert here in Morris years ago..
Cheri Keaggy on Her Divorce (A Story of God’s Restoration and Healing) , from youtube.com
“..Cheri tells her personal story of brokennes and restoration. Her story is similar to many other women’s stories who initially found their hopes and dreams shattered because of divorce.
For many, this is the greatest loss they have ever faced. It devastates them, and they desperately need emotional and spiritual help. They struggle with loneliness and shame. Many of them need to face the pain and begin to forgive themselves and others in order to move forward in life.
This 8-session Christian divorce recovery series covers topics such as loneliness, forgiveness, fear, rebuilding your life, dating, and moving past the shame and guilt to healing and wholeness. The complete Live Again kit comes with a DVD containing the eight 30-minute video sessions, 1 Leader Guide, 1 Participant Guide, and 1 Live Again Journal. Additional Participant Guides and Live Again Journal may be purchased separately. For more information, visit http://www.rose-publishing.com/Live-A…..”
To the Hurting Married Christian Woman: Why Women Stay
Elisabeth Klein Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer 2012 14 Jun crosswalk.com
“…Unless she gets to a place of moving on, of forgiving her husband, of realizing she stayed and that God did not make her or do that to her, and of actually wanting to be happy and experience joy and peace. Until then, she will have the same conversation and ask the same question to the next person who comes her way. In fact, she probably moved on from me and went to someone else moments later, telling the same story. …”
“In seeking to honor God through turbulent times, Ashleigh found herself at the right place at the right time to meet the right person so that her prayers could be answered. God’s sovereignty spoke through the circumstances and Ashleigh was able to move forward with confidence in God…”
Beth Moore: If My Husband Had An Affair… (James Robison | LIFE Today) , from youtube.com
Can any wife ever forgive a husband who was secretly gay all along? Sarah still can’t, 14 years after the confession that broke her heart dailymail.co.uk
“..She had been engrossed in some paperwork when her estranged husband Peter phoned out of the blue — the first time since their split two years before. In fact, she was more surprised by his making contact than by what he had to say. This despite the fact he was admitting to being homosexual — and having had affairs with men throughout their ten-year marriage….”
Anna Duggar Opens Up About Her Husband’s Betrayal , from youtube.com
“..Published on Dec 16, 2015
Anna speaks out about the moment she learned of Josh’s infidelity and how she’s been doing since the news broke.
JILL & JESSA: COUNTING ON continues Sunday at 9/8c on TLC…”
divorce and its effects on children , from youtube.com
The Politics of Divorce: When Children Become Pawns
Dr. Schwartz’s Weblog By Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. May 16, 2007 mentalhelp.net
Richard Cohen, M.A. ex-gaytruth.com
“..Richard Cohen was the youngest of three children born to a Jewish couple in Philadelphia. He was a child with a “sensitive nature” and lived in a family defined by its “constant fighting and tears.” His father would come home from work and scream at everyone. When his dad would tear into his older brother, the brother’s aggression would be unleashed on the younger Richard. “Fighting between my parents and fighting among us kids was our daily diet. My role was that of a peacemaker. I was always trying to bring order and peace to this chaotic home.”..”
Paul Ludford – my journey towards healing theforgivenessproject.com
“.. As regards to forgiveness- I’ve forgiven myself for the pain, fear and anger I’ve inflicted on myself and others around me during many years of self-denial. Buried painful memories always manifest themselves somehow and I knew no better until I looked and got help.
Forgiving my dad may come over time, but at the moment I see his self-satisfying sexual abuse of me inexcusable and unforgivable – he took advantage of a young boy for his own pleasure stealing my innocence and childhood. I didn’t have the resources, knowledge and life experiences to deal with the sexual monster my dad was…”
Diagnosing an Emotionally Destructive Relationship
Air Date: June 30, 2014 familylifetoday.com
“.. Licensed clinical social worker Leslie Vernick talks about the abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother and lists some of the tell-tale signs of an emotionally abusive relationship…”
How Can You Honor Parents When You Feel They Don’t Deserve It?
Ten ideas for repaying insult with blessing.
By Sabrina Beasley McDonald familylife.com
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Above is a beautiful flower/plant, do you agree? Ey, beauty belongs to the “eye of the beholder”! Well, it’s actually a weed-“creeping Charlie”. I wouldn’t know this was a week until my neighbor pointed it out. I thought it was a beautiful flower and didn’t mind it growing all over my lawn. Unfortunately, my neighbor thought the opposite. She didn’t want it getting it in her yard and asked if she could spray my yard to further growing and overtaking her yard too.
Well, I “liken” this “weed” to “bad stuff” or “sin” in our daily lives. As I was pulling ..
…the root of these “weeds” to prevent it spreading all over my beautiful landscape, I thought of this analogy. We can just “pluck” the flower/plant/weed that we see above ground, but it’ll continue to grow. It’s more effective to get the “root” or “source”. I then question, what is the cause or “root” of all the “bad” (sin) stuff we do off and on in our daily lives? For example, an alcoholic drinks and gets drunk. Why is this person getting drunk in the first place? From my personal “indirect” experiences with living (knowing) with “alcoholics”, they seem to be trying to hide and forget their past darkness (e.g. abuse) or “post traumatic experience” (a.k.a. P.T.S.D.). What can help them? “Healing” (only God-Dr. Jesus) can get rid of that “root” that “we” (humans) ourselves can’t by our own power. I thought of this after struggling trying to get one of the roots (above pic), which required a “bigger” tool..
Can you relate? Have you tried other alternatives (e.g. counseling, psychologist, etc..)? Try asking “God” (a.k.a. “Jehovah Rapha“-Healer)..
53 Bible verses about Sin, Causes Of – Knowing Jesus, bible.knowing-jesus.com
What Causes Us To Sin? Monday, March 19th, 2012 Sin gracethrufaith.com/
“…In Matt. 15:19 Jesus said sin begins in our heart, and in Jeremiah 17:9 we’re told that our heart is incurably wicked. These are references to the sin nature we all inherited from our first parents. Therefore, until we receive a new heart we’ll always be sinners…”
*see Genesis 2
What Is Sin? The Essence and Root of All Sinning desiringgod.org
Why Do People Sin? By Ron Boatwright netbiblestudy.net
“… People sin because we are deceived by sin. We are to, “Exhort one another daily, while it is called today, lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin” (Hebrews 3:13). We can even deceive ourselves by denying we have sinned. “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us” (1 John 1:8). Because of the deceitfulness of sin, we are to, “Beware lest you also fall from your own steadfastness, being led away with the error of the wicked” (2 Peter 3:17). We are warned, “Let no man deceive you with vain words” (Ephesians 5:6). Yes, sin is deceiving.
People sin because there is temporary pleasure in sin. Moses chose “rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season” (Hebrews 11:25). Because of the pleasures of sin, we are tempted and enticed. “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust has conceived, it brings forth sin, and sin when it is finished, brings forth death” (James 1:14-15).
Sal: I didn’t know I was a sinner until I came to a local church in Morris where a guest speaker shared his testimony and the need to repent to God for forgiveness. I never or ever paid attention to a message like this, so I came up front during a “salvation invitation” and gave my life to Christ right on the spot!
*see personal testimony
Joshua 9 New International Version (NIV) biblegateway.com
The Gibeonite Deception
“….. They continued, “Let them live, but let them be woodcutters and water carriers in the service of the whole assembly.” So the leaders’ promise to them was kept…
.. 23 You are now under a curse: You will never be released from service as woodcutters and water carriers for the house of my God.”..”
“..There is a trend in the church today to try to blame every sin and problem on some sort of generational curse. This is not biblical. God’s warning to visit iniquity on future generations is part of the Old Testament Law. A generational curse was a consequence for a specific nation (Israel) for a specific sin (idolatry). The history books of the Old Testament (especially Judges) contain the record of this divine punishment meted out.
The cure for a generational curse has always been repentance. When Israel turned from idols to serve the living God, the “curse” was broken and God saved them (Judges 3:9, 15; 1 Samuel 12:10-11). Yes, God promised to visit Israel’s sin upon the third and fourth generations, but in the very next verse He promised that He would show “love to a thousand [generations] of those who love me and keep my commandments” (Exodus 20:6). In other words, God’s grace lasts a thousand times longer than His wrath.
For the Christian who is worried about a generational curse, the answer is salvation through Jesus Christ. A Christian is a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). How can a child of God still be under God’s curse (Romans 8:1)? The cure for a “generational curse” is repentance of the sin in question, faith in Christ, and a life consecrated to the Lord (Romans 12:1-2)…”
“…Breaking generation curses:
What is a generational curse and how can we break it?
Hey what’s up family today we are talking about The idea of generational curses comes primarily from Exodus and verses similar to that referring to the effects of sin being passed down to the 3rd and 4th generation. And so today I want to answer three questions. What is it? How does it get into our families? How can we break it?
1. What is it? It’s a specific pattern (teen pregnancy, divorce, pornography, anger, abuse, adultery, alcoholism) that is deposited into the family where the family members will be more predisposed to repeating because of heightened exposure to it. ..”
Romans 7 Released From the Law, Bound to Christ biblegateway.com
“..4 So, my brothers and sisters, you also died to the law through the body of Christ, that you might belong to another, to him who was raised from the dead, in order that we might bear fruit for God. 5 For when we were in the realm of the flesh,[a] the sinful passions aroused by the law were at work in us, so that we bore fruit for death. 6 But now, by dying to what once bound us, we have been released from the law so that we serve in the new way of the Spirit, and not in the old way of the written code.
The Law and Sin
7 What shall we say, then? Is the law sinful? Certainly not! Nevertheless, I would not have known what sin was had it not been for the law. For I would not have known what coveting really was if the law had not said, “You shall not covet.”[b] 8 But sin, seizing the opportunity afforded by the commandment, produced in me every kind of coveting. For apart from the law, sin was dead. 9 Once I was alive apart from the law; but when the commandment came, sin sprang to life and I died. 10 I found that the very commandment that was intended to bring life actually brought death. 11 For sin, seizing the opportunity afforded by the commandment, deceived me, and through the commandment put me to death. 12 So then, the law is holy, and the commandment is holy, righteous and good.
13 Did that which is good, then, become death to me? By no means! Nevertheless, in order that sin might be recognized as sin, it used what is good to bring about my death, so that through the commandment sin might become utterly sinful.
14 We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[c] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
21 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!
So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature[d] a slave to the law of sin…”
Would love to hear your personal stories, feedback, etc..
As we approach Christmas, my heart goes out to those without their love ones. I can ‘t imagine going through the holidays without someone you’ve been with for many years. I’ve been thinking about this at times during the holiday season and wanted to find someway to encourage those who will be spending the holidays without their love ones. There is a popular Christmas song that goes…”It’s the best time of the year..”. It might be for others, but may NOT be all the time for those that are without their love ones.
One of the most precious gifts is the simple act of listening.
Jane and Roger Palmer’s 19-year-old son, Patrick, died unexpectedly in the fall of 2003 from acute bronchial pneumonia. He went into a coma and died in his sleep while at college. Jane says, “Just being there and listening is so important. Well meaning people at times feel that they must do something, quote scriptures, or have the answers.”
Instead of answers, Jane says the grieving are comforted by people with understanding hearts whose sheer presence says, “I care.”
How to Remember a Loved One at the Holidays By Nancy Copeland-Payton beliefnet.com
“”…This holiday season, gift yourself with time set aside to intentionally remember and celebrate your loved one. Choose one or more of the following remembrances to observe alone or to share with others who also loved the one you lost. ..”
Annie’s “How to Cope with Grief and the Holidays” Page, annieshomepage.com
Grieving During The Holidays © Ferna Lary Mills rfgifts.com
Surviving the Holidays After a Loved One’s Death christiannewswire.com/
I always get depressed over the holidays
Written by Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC powertochange.com
“Advice: Many people suffer from bouts of depression or the blues at different times during the year. During the holiday season people encounter memories of loved ones they have lost through death or divorce or friends who have moved away. People experience stress and difficult family reunions over the holidays. Depression is a growing problem. In fact, psychologists have said that we live in an “age of depression.”
…I know personally that when I am obeying Christ and trusting in His love for me, I have an inner joy that overflows, a zest for living, and a love for other people. Practically, here are some steps to help you cope and overcome the depression that might set-in after the holidays:..”
Coping with Grief at Christmas Stacie Ruth Stoelting cbn.com
“Written in honor of Mark’s late father-in-law, Different Kind of Christmas resonates with those who have ever had to go through the holiday season after losing a loved one. Join Mark in honoring the legacy they left behind by celebrating the life of those who are no longer with us.
What are some ways to comfort them?