Holidays without your love ones?

As we approach Christmas, my heart goes out to those without their love ones. I can ‘t imagine going through the holidays without someone you’ve been with for many years. I’ve been thinking about this at times during the holiday season and wanted to find someway to encourage those who will be spending the holidays without their love ones. There is a popular Christmas song that goes…”It’s the best time of the year..”. It might be for others, but may NOT be all the time for those that are without their love ones.

Grieving Through the Holidays livinglifecounseling.com
Giving Holiday Hope to the Grieving By Mary May Larmoyeux familylife.com
Encouraging those who have lost a loved one.
“..
The gift of listening

One of the most precious gifts is the simple act of listening.

Jane and Roger Palmer’s 19-year-old son, Patrick, died unexpectedly in the fall of 2003 from acute bronchial pneumonia. He went into a coma and died in his sleep while at college. Jane says, “Just being there and listening is so important. Well meaning people at times feel that they must do something, quote scriptures, or have the answers.”

Instead of answers, Jane says the grieving are comforted by people with understanding hearts whose sheer presence says, “I care.”
…”

How to Remember a Loved One at the Holidays By Nancy Copeland-Payton beliefnet.com
“”…This holiday season, gift yourself with time set aside to intentionally remember and celebrate your loved one. Choose one or more of the following remembrances to observe alone or to share with others who also loved the one you lost. ..”
Annie’s “How to Cope with Grief and the Holidays” Page, annieshomepage.com
Grieving During The Holidays © Ferna Lary Mills rfgifts.com
Surviving the Holidays After a Loved One’s Death christiannewswire.com/
I always get depressed over the holidays
Written by Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC powertochange.com
“Advice: Many people suffer from bouts of depression or the blues at different times during the year. During the holiday season people encounter memories of loved ones they have lost through death or divorce or friends who have moved away. People experience stress and difficult family reunions over the holidays. Depression is a growing problem. In fact, psychologists have said that we live in an “age of depression.”

…I know personally that when I am obeying Christ and trusting in His love for me, I have an inner joy that overflows, a zest for living, and a love for other people. Practically, here are some steps to help you cope and overcome the depression that might set-in after the holidays:..”
Coping with Grief at Christmas Stacie Ruth Stoelting cbn.com

Mark Schultz – Different Kind of Christmas (Live)


“Written in honor of Mark’s late father-in-law, Different Kind of Christmas resonates with those who have ever had to go through the holiday season after losing a loved one. Join Mark in honoring the legacy they left behind by celebrating the life of those who are no longer with us.

What are some ways to comfort them?

Good News Death
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Laid off: ,Out of a job?

A “friend” just told me yesterday that he will be laid off from his job within the next two months, which can be very discouraging for everyone who has been in his shoes. One starts feeling depressed and many questions come to their mind (e.g. what did I do wrong? Was it because of this situation?). Also, one starts believing false lies about themselves (e.g I’m not good enough. I’m a loser. I seem to not be able to do anything right, etc…). How do I know? I had the exact feelings 7+ years ago. I was laid off from my job that I have right now. I even looked back what I wrote at that time…

“.. October 2008 Reflection

All of last week (October 6th-10th), it was in the news 24/7 about our “shrinking downfalling economy”. Weeks ago there was a natural disaster in Texas-Hurricane Ike, which “America” (media) has seem to have forgotten our fellow friends down there. It kind of shows where our priorities we put in our life-money! Anyways, I fell I’ll be adding more to this site for awhile during this so called “heading towards a depression”.

I want to encourage you all that God has a purpose for each individuals through this “difficult season”. I learned this towards the end of last year when I was first layed-off from my job (for a week only as I was called back-in to fill-in a staff leaving for “maternity leave”, which my “full-time”: benefits too was taken away) right before Thanksgiving of 2007. I was then off from work for 3-4 weeks in May, which during this whole time since November-I was seeking God on “what’s next” => pursue a “teaching licensure” in ESL (see GoodnewsEverybody: Liberal Arts-English). …

Here are some resources I found online to equip you at this particular “season”. I mean “season” because your just in a time period that won’t last long. We all go through phases/seasons in life, just keep persevering and don’t give-up!

Laid Off — Now What? career-advice.monster.com

Losing your job can be disorienting and difficult, but you have the power to take action. Yes, the layoff is the end of one chapter in your working life, meaning you need to build yourself back up and find that new beginning. These articles will help you make the most of your situation and come out in the best position possible:….

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Stories of Professionals

Business

6 Inspiring Stories From People Who Unexpectedly Lost Their Jobs
Jarani Taja, Paid to Exist
Jul. 25, 2013, 2:30 PM businessinsider.com
“…”.. The stories I’m about to share serve as a reminder that even in our darkest times, all is not what it seems.

That even faced with great adversity, you will undoubtedly prevail. That although you might not see it yet, there’s something much bigger in store for you. That the universe is invisibly aligning, and the light at the end of the tunnel is just around the bend. …”..”

  • Michelle Apperson, Teacher Of The Year, Gets Lay-Off Notice From Sacramento School District Amid Budget Cuts
    Posted: 06/15/2012 3:17 pm EDT Updated: 06/15/2012 3:17 pm EDT huffingtonpost.com
  • Famous Failures – YouTube

    Quit

    God told me to quit my job (Testimony) – YouTube

    Testimony: Quit both jobs and FAST for SIX DAYS!! How … – YouTube

    5 Clear Signs God wants you to quit your Job – YouTube

    It Had To Happen | Pastor Steven Furtick

    Move up a level!

    Prayer For Job Promotion – Now Is The Time To Step Up At … – YouTube

    Dream Job?

    I Asked God For My Dream Job and Got It! – CBN.com – YouTube

    How to Manage Finances?

    Another “positive” outcome from being laid-off was that it forced me to budget and buy only “necessary” goods and live more of a healthier life. I realized I wasted money on a lot of “junk” food, so I would cut down or eliminate on this section of my grocery list.

  • How to Manage Finances If You’re Suddenly Laid Off mint.com
  • “…Savings come in several forms, including retirement, smaller goal-oriented savings, large purchase savings, and emergency funds. Your emergency savings help you navigate around potential disaster if you’re suddenly laid off.

    Determine How Much You’ll Need

    At one time, 3 to 6 months set aside was the standard advice. That’s no longer the case. Many financial experts now suggest 6 or even 9 months worth of living expenses are needed to offset the loss of income. That might seem like an enormous goal, but with longer average periods of unemployment, less than 6 months of savings might not be enough….
    Dave Ramsey “Budgeting” Money Makeover – 1/10

  • Laid Off? Here’s How to Get Your Finances in Order
    Don’t let emotions overrun your financial security.
    By Daniel Bortz
    Oct. 17, 2012 | 9:45 a.m. EDT
    money.usnews.com
  • “…To get your finances in order, the first step is filing for unemployment. Most states facilitate the process by enabling people to apply online. The average unemployment benefit in 2011 was $300 per week, which may seem paltry compared to what you were previously making, but it at least helps lessen the load of your expenses. In most states, workers can receive unemployment benefits for up to 26 weeks. Due to the high unemployment period—as of September, the average length of unemployment was 39.8 weeks—some states have extended the benefits past 26 weeks.

    To qualify, you had to have been let go from your job due to no negligent action of your own. If you were fired, you can contest the termination with your state’s Department of Labor, says Joe Heider, a certified financial planner at Rehmann Financial in Cleveland, Ohio. Those who qualify for unemployment can expect to receive the first check within two to three weeks.

    However, Christopher P. Parr, a certified financial planner and president of Parr Financial Solutions in Columbia, Md., warns people not to get too comfortable while collecting unemployment to the point where they don’t push themselves to find a new job….

    Good News Financial
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    Life Purpose?


    (see Jeremiah 29:11)

    Sometimes being laid off can be “positive” 🙂 When I got laid off in 2008, it forced me to look for other career possibilities. I was volunteering at the local school teaching English as a Second Language & G.E.D (high school diploma) in my 4th year or so, which I decided to pursue teaching. I ended up taking classes via online for a year or so and got a teaching certificate, which paved the way to my current part-time job teaching the same evening a week.

  • Unemployment: How the Lord Provided When My Husband Lost His Job
    September 24, 2013/ Jamerrill Stewart thebettermom.com
  • “..Recycling metal. My husband is a car guy and has always had extra metal, or even an extra car or two, lying around. He was able to take loads of scrap metal to recycle and make $200-$300 per load. He wasn’t able to do this every week, but when he did get enough metal together it was a huge blessing.

    Yard sales. I pulled together a yard sale and made $250 in one weekend. It was amazing how people bought up items that I considered junk. Anything in our house that wasn’t nailed down was purged in a good yard sale.

    Money in the mail. One day my husband came back from the mailbox with an envelope full of money. His co-workers were so upset over the fact that my husband was fired, and right before the holidays, they took up a collection. It was over $500 cash, plus one man sent an $89 check from his church.

    I got a job. It wasn’t what I wanted to do. I wasn’t being a whiner. I just had so clearly felt the Lord led me to lay down my nursing job, and here I was a year later looking for work again. It was a faith-struggle for me at the time. Nonetheless, the unemployment we were counting on fell through and I knew that eating was important. Even though nurses were having trouble finding jobs at that time in our area, I was able to make one phone call and have a nursing position again. It wasn’t full-time, but it was enough to help us through….

  • Dave Dravecky’s Last Pitch

    His big comeback came to a horrifying end when this San Francisco Giant pitcher broke his arm during a game
    , from cbn.com
  • Being laid off also encourage me to explore my other gifts, talents, skills, etc… I recommend reading this book called “Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren. How do you know what is your calling or purpose in life? The analogy in the beginning of the book that encourage me is the line that said, “if you want to know what an invention is, you have to ask the inventor/creator” (paraphrase-> see Rick Warren – Purpose Driven Life Audiobook Ch. 1 from youtube.com).

    This season in my life back in 2008 also built my faith and gave me more compassion for people who have been unemployed.

    Promises for Those Struggling with Unemployment, livingbyfaithblog.com
    What Does the Bible Say About Job Loss? – OpenBible.info from openbible.info
    9 Prayers to get that breakthrough Job (Profitable employment) prayersfire.com

    Have a prayer request?…

    Good News Prayer
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    Got any personal stories somewhat similar to the ones above to encourage others out there?

    Is it really the “Most Wonderful Time Of The Year “?

    It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
    http://www.youtube-nocookie.com/v/gFtb3EtjEic?version=3&hl=en_US&rel=0

    Is it really the “Most Wonderful Time Of The Year”? I recently “really” doubted this earlier this month while volunteering to do a shift with a couple of my co-workers for the Salvation Army at a local (Morris, Minnesota) store. I grew up passing those bell ringers all the time before my family went shopping each holiday season. I finally volunteered doing this for the first time last year at a local grocery store. My co-worker and I enjoyed it so much that we decided to do it again this holiday (2011) season. It’s an interesting perspective when ringing the bell watching (staying “still” during the “busy” holiday season is a lot different than “participating” in going with the “busy” and “hustle” of the crowds of people in this increasingly “commercialized” holiday!) shoppers pass by. This year my co-worker and I noticed how “sad” people were this year compared to last year. Is it because of the so-called “tougher” economic times (despite better reports this year than last year when it came to shopping??)? Is it because certain individuals going through some personal challenges (e.g. financial challenges, flood victims in the Philippines, those without love ones due to health, past away, or unfortunate circumstances, etc..)?…

    Santas fighting facebook.com

    12 Days of Christmas. 12 Drunk Santas Fighting. Santacon NYC 2012

    George Bailey’s prayer
    http://www.youtube-nocookie.com/v/vRn26I2Bzd8?version=3&hl=en_US

    Is it because of the “pagan” origins of Christmas (as we are uncertain the date of Jesus’ actually day of birth, but that doesn’t matter)?…

    When my parents immigrated here to the US in the early 70’s, we didn’t have much. We had a small two bedroom apartment in Oakdale, Minnesota. We had one bed that most of us slept together while my younger brother slept in a crib in the other bedroom. As we got older, we got “better” financially and moved to a townhouse in St. Paul. We couldn’t afford a Christmas tree, so I remember finding a big branch of a tree and we took it home to make a “makeshift” (we stuck it in a bucket of toys to stand it easier) Christmas tree. Then as we got older as kids my parents were able to afford to buy “better” gifts. I would look forward to opening Christmas gifts, but would then go “downhill” if I didn’t get the presents “I wanted” (see selfish). Is it because?…

    Making Room for the Unexpected – Inspirational Videos
    http://media.salemwebnetwork.com/godtube/resource/mediaplayer/5.6/player.swf

    Have we lost focus of the “true” meaning of CHRISTmas?…

    The Christmas Story – as told by the cutest kids! – Cute Video
    http://media.salemwebnetwork.com/godtube/resource/mediaplayer/5.6/player.swf

    Jesus, “He’s” the “real” reason for the season. Find out how He is and this will help all of us find that joy (e.g. “count your blessings” -not just Thanksgiving!-before you go to bed, which I do during my nightly time of meditation) throughout “every” season!

    Is Christmas “merry” for you this season?

    Andy Williams – It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year – YouTube

    Is it “really” the “MOST” “wonderful” time of the year?

    “Merry Christmas!???” I’ve been getting this a lot lately, like every year. However, it just don’t feel like “merry” this year for some reason. It is probably for many different reasons (e.g. been to 4 funeral services the past 2 months, learning more and more that Jesus wasn’t born the 25th (read down below the site), growing in my “daily” personal relationship with Heavenly Father and knowing Jesus is all “season” (everyday) for me and not just during a “holiday” this season. It also hurts me to hear sad news (e.g. Violence Against Iraqi Christians Escalates-pbs.org: Iraq) that makes me more grateful of “freedom of religion” living in this “unperfect” (no nation is perfect) nation. Does this cause me to just “forget” this day of celebration? I choose to live this day “joyfully” (with “careful” awareness of others around me) like any day in life because life is too short to be wasted by being “stubborn”, “angry”, “depressed”, etc… Enjoy each single “second” with family, friends, and/or love ones because tomorrow is never promised with the uncertainties of our current world. I say the “spirit of giving” (doesn’t have to me always materialism) should not just be a one-day event, but an “everyday” event as one lives for Christ (see “Christ-like”-especially with all the “negativity” in the world. Instead of conforming to the increasing “negativity” of our world, why not do the opposite and “try” to be a light? How can we all each individually do this or why would we want to do this?

    more…
    http://holidays.goodnewseverybody.com/christmas.html

    I use this time of the season to also reflect why we celebrate Jesus’ birth even though he wasn’t born on this particular day..

    Should Christians Celebrate Christmas?
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GlPLhSLXrB8

    psa197
    Published on Oct 29, 2012
    http://www.worldslastchance.com/ – Should Christians Celebrate Christmas? It is very inconsistent for Christians who claim to follow the Bible alone to celebrate pagan holidays (e.g Christmas).

    “And the times of this ignorance Yahuwah winked at; but now commandeth all men everywhere to repent.” (Acts 17:30)

    Official WLC Channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TheWLCvideos
    *see Now You Know: Various Christmas Symbolism goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

    Should Christians Celebrate Christmas and Easter?

    Santa | Parents Explain to Their Kids Santa Isn’t Real | Cut – YouTube

    Was Jesus really born on December 25th (Christmas Lies)

    Was Jesus born on December 25? | When was Jesus Born? – YouTube

    When Was Jesus REALLY Born? Is Christmas December 25th Not The Birthday Of Jesus?

    Should Christians celebrate Christmas? – YouTube

    Jesus Birth being celebrated all-year round

    The Nativity Story 1/10

    The Star, Trailer

    *see Now You Know: Who was/is Jesus…to “you”? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

    Good news Everybody
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/234776209988117/

    Are the holidays a joyous time?

    Making Room for the Unexpected – Inspirational Videos, from Godtube.com

    “We’re told that the holidays are a time for celebration, joy and happiness, but some find it to be a season of sadness, loneliness and frustration. What are your expectations for this holiday season?”

    I thought the holidays are supposed to be the most joyful time of the year? Why isn’t this so? I think it’s because of the way we “focus”? We envy or compared others with our situation. If the have it, we want it too. Well, the world doesn’t work that way. We are all different and we all go through different circumstance. Others receive differently then we do. I was listening to this guy on t.v. on “one of many ways” to deal with death of a love one during the holiday season. Besides reflecting the “good times” with this individual with others that knew him or her, take sometime to refocus on “other” people by volunteering. Look for a group of those “less fortunate” (e.g. visit someone sick in the hospital or befriend someone with a disability, feed or give to the hungry/poor at a local food shelf or homeless shelter, etc…) and help them, teach literacy to someone (ESL or help them get their GED), etc..The list goes on, just reflect on what you are blessed with and ask yourself how you can be a blessing to someone in need.

    Q: What are you bless with?
    Q: What are other ways we can bless-give to someone “less fortunate” than us in “need”?

    This will help you to “refocus” away from your “negative” situation into a “joyful-positive” situation.

    Q: What are some other ways to be more joyful during the holidays?

    more…
    http://christianlife.goodnewseverybody.com/joy.html