Deep Thought: What’s an “ideal” father?

First, personally define “father”?

Now, let’s look up the definition according to the dictionary..

Father | Definition of Father by Merriam-Webster merriam-webster.com
“..Definition of father
1 a : a man who has begotten a child; also : sire 3
b capitalized
(1) : god 1
(2) : the first person of the Trinity (see Trinity 1)
2 : forefather

the founding fathers

3 a : one related to another in a way suggesting that of father to child
b : an old man —used as a respectful form of address
4 often capitalized : a pre-Scholastic (see scholastic 1a) Christian writer accepted by the church as an authoritative witness to its teaching and practice — called also church father
5 a : one that originates or institutes

the father of modern science

b : source

the sun, the father of warmth and light —Lena M. Whitney

c : prototype

the father of all libraries in the country

6 : a priest of the regular clergy; broadly : priest —used especially as a title
7 : one of the leading men (as of a city) —usually used in plural

a council of the city fathers
..”

Are you able to use any of the definitions above for your “dad” (e.g. biological, adoptive, “man” who raised you, etc..)?

Some people probably would say “no” if you live in America..

Fatherless Children Statistics and Other Data on Fatherhood | NFI
“..There is a father absence crisis in America.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 19.7 million children, more than 1 in 4, live without a father in the home. Consequently, there is a father factor in nearly all social ills facing America today…”

What’s your personal story? Was it due to divorce?

The 10 Most Common Reasons People Get Divorced headshot By YourTango huffingtonpost.com
“..communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail. Here are some other culprits our experts blame for the high divorce rate.

1. Getting in for the wrong reasons.

Marrying for money — we’ve all heard that that is a ticket to a quick divorce, but what about when you marry because it’s what you think you should do?

I’ve met many divorced women who say the problems that made them leave were there right from the beginning but “everyone expected us to live happily ever after” or “we had already spent so much money on the wedding” or “we had just built our dream home.” So, remember, until you say “I do,” you always have the choice to say “I don’t!” ..”

The Leading Cause of Divorce – YouTube

The 8 Main Causes of Divorce | Redonkulas.com – YouTube

Divorce Facts Men Need To Hear…

*interesting stats on the importance of having to be there for the kid

Absent Dad

The Consequences of the Absent Dad allprodad.com
“…This is an encouragement to educate and to motivate men to hear the call to battle on behalf of their children. We understand all the obstacles that are set up against you. While there may be obstacles, the consequences to the children remain. Only their dad can change the odds. Some of those consequences are increased chances of depression, behavioral issues, insecurity, bad grades, and higher dropout rates. Both boys and girls are equally susceptible. The natural order of the family is for the man to have authority (not power) to lead and when that authority is abdicated, a vacuum is created that will certainly be filled elsewhere. ..

Dealing With Anger From Having an Absent Father firstthings.org
“..“I can so identify with where LeBron is coming from,” says Kenneth Braswell, executive director of Fathers Incorporated. “I am a black man whose pent-up rage for my absent father drove me to do what I believed to be the right thing, for the right reason and with the right justification. Then I found out it was all wrong.”

Braswell believes, and research concurs, that there are hundreds of thousands of boys and men in America harboring pain and anger as a result of father absence…”

Absent Fathers, Affected Children – YouTube

Daughters

Impact of Absent Fathers on Girls – YouTube

Suggestions, feedback, personal stories, etc..?

more coming…

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Movie Reflection: The Case for Christ Movie

Lee Strobel: The Case For Christ – YouTube

The Case for Christ (2017) historyvshollywood.com
Starring Mike Vogel, Erika Christensen, Faye Dunaway, Robert Forster | based on the autobiography ‘The Case for Christ’ by Lee Strobel

“…Did Lee Strobel really have an alcohol problem before he became a Christian?
Yes, he drank in excess regularly. In a Lee Strobel interview, he says that as an atheist, he had concluded that the best way to live his life was as a hedonist. “Just pursue pleasure, this is all you get in this world. So, that was my number one goal in life,” says Strobel, “to bring maximum pleasure into my life. And so I lived a very immoral, and drunken, and profane, and narcissistic, really self-destructive kind of a life. That was my life.”..”

Interviews

“The Case for Christ” movie – YouTube

Reviews

“The Case for Christ” Movie Review

Faith of the Fatherless:The Psychology of Atheism from youtube.com
“ignatiuspress
Published on Dec 3, 2013
Book Trailer – FAITH OF THE FATHERLESS: The Psychology of Atheism
Professor Vitz argues that psychoanalysis actually provides a more satisfying explanation for atheism. http://www.ignatius.com/Products/FFL-…

In this updated, expanded edition, starting with Freud’s “projection theory” of religion – that belief in God is merely a product of man’s desire for security – Professor Vitz argues that psychoanalysis actually provides a more satisfying explanation for atheism. Disappointment in one’s earthly father, whether through death, absence, or mistreatment, frequently leads to a rejection of God.

A biographical survey of influential atheists of the past four centuries shows that this “defective father hypothesis” provides a consistent explanation of the “intense atheism” of these thinkers. A survey of the leading defenders of Christianity over the same period confirms the hypothesis, finding few defective fathers. Vitz concludes with an intriguing comparison of male and female atheists and a consideration of other psychological factors that can contribute to atheism.

Professor Vitz does not argue that atheism is psychologically determined. Each man, whatever his experiences, ultimately chooses to accept God or reject him. Yet the cavalier attribution of religious faith to irrational, psychological needs is so prevalent that an exposition of the psychological factors predisposing one to atheism is necessary. “

Others:

The Case For Christ – Lee Strobel (full documentary/movie)

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Movie Reflection: “I Can Only Imagine”

I Can Only Imagine | Trailer | In Theaters Now

Behind the Scenes

Interviews Pre-Release

Dennis Quaid Reveals How Playing an Abusive Dad Affected His Kids

‘I Can Only Imagine’ Actress Shares Faith

I Can Only Imagine – Liberty University Convocation
https://youtu.be/00rdjyYIN9Az
Liberty University
Published on Mar 6, 2018
“On March 5, 2018, at Convocation, North America’s largest weekly gathering of Christian students, Bart Miller, Lead Singer of Mercy Me, joined by John Erwin and Madeline Carroll discussed the story behind the upcoming film “I Can Only Imagine.”

“If you find your gift and not use it for yourself, but to glorify God”-Director
“Lined up with what God has called me for”, “..This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
and this is their vindication from me,”
declares the Lord…”
Isaiah 57:14 , God is able, stand true to your convictions compass to your soul
-actress

Using your God -given gifts, talents, skills, etc.. what’s your “calling” in life (passion )?
*see Deep Thought: Life Purpose- Just “graduated”..what now? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

I Can Only Imagine Scene: Millards Don’t Sing

Quotes

I Can Only Imagine (2018)
Quotes
imdb.com
29 Leadership Quotes And Lessons From I Can Only Imagine The Movie briandoddonleadership.com
“..The following are 29 Leadership Quotes And Lessons From I Can Only Imagine The Movie:….”

Don’t Quit!

I Can Only Imagine Scene: Bart Meets Brickell

Dreams

I Can Only Imagine Scene: Dreams Don’t Pay The Bills


What’s your dream?

“I Pray for you all the time and I hope you find what your looking for”


What’s your prayer?

“Use your past as inspiration”

-Abuse

=>Emotional

“Arthur: Dreams don’t pay the bills. Nothing good comes from them. All it does is keeping you from knowing what is real.”imdb.com


Let That Pain Become Your Inspiration – I Can Only Imagine Movie …

=>Physical

*see Social Issue: How to STOP Partner Abuse? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com
&
Abused: How do you heal from your traumatic “childhood” past? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Forgiveness
*see Deep Thought: Power of Forgiveness shown in my life so far… goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

What ‘I Can Only Imagine’ Teaches Us About Forgiveness lightworkers.com
“..Forgiving someone who has deeply hurt us might feel like one of the most difficult tasks we are faced with as Christians…”

‘I Can Only Imagine’ preaches a message of forgiveness without being preachy chicago.suntimes.com

“I forgive_______ ”

Good News Abused
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Music

Stories

MercyMe – Bart’s Testimony/intro to Dear Younger Me

I Can Only Imagine – How to Play on the Piano

Good News Music
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Deep Thought: Why is sexual abuse common?

Survivors of Sexual Trauma Reveal an Important Truth – YouTube

Various Places

-Church

=>Catholic

Report details sexual abuse by more than 300 priests in … – YouTube

Pope Francis accepts resignation of Cardinal Theodore McCarrick over sex abuse allegations
“..McCarrick has said he had “absolutely no recollection” of the alleged abuse of the teenager 50 years ago but has not commented on the allegations of abuse of adult men and another minor that were brought forward later.

“Pope Francis accepted his resignation from the cardinalate and has ordered his suspension from the exercise of any public ministry, together with the obligation to remain in a house yet to be indicated to him, for a life of prayer and penance until the accusations made against him are examined in a regular canonical trial,” a statement said.

The scandal surrounding him has stunned the American Church because he was a widely respected leader for decades and was a confidant of popes and presidents.

Last month, American Church officials said allegations he sexually abused a teenager almost 50 years ago were credible.

Since then, several men have come forward to allege that McCarrick had forced them to sleep with him at a beach house in New Jersey when they were adult seminarians studying for the priesthood…”

What’s the State of the Church’s Child Abuse Crisis? February 25, 2014 /
by Sarah Childress Senior Digital Reporter, FRONTLINE Enterprise Journalism Group pbs.org
“..The first report that church officials received about Father Shawn Ratigan, compiled by a Kansas City Catholic school principal in May 2010, was troubling.

Ratigan had taken hundreds of photographs of children, Julie Hess, the principal, wrote to church officials. He had tried to interact with kids on Facebook, and sometimes had physical contact with children in ways that appeared to other adults to be “boundary violations.”A pair of girl’s underwear was found in a planter in his backyard…”
‘Spotlight’ portrayal of sex abuse scandal is making the Catholic Church uncomfortable all over again By Michelle Boorstein November 9, 2015 washingtonpost.com
“..“Sexual abuse of minors is a problem that affects many institutions in our society,” wrote Cesareo, head of the body charged with making sure the church enforces the rules it created after the scandal exploded. “In 2002, the Catholic Church recognized that it was not immune to this issue.”

Survivor advocates have bristled in the past when church leaders have declared the abuse crisis in Catholicism over, or have tried to remove focus from the institution itself. When Pope Francis this summer met in Philadelphia with survivors and included some people whose perpetrators were outside the church, many survivors who spoke out were angry at what they saw as a diluting of responsibility…”
Corey Haim Murdered Exposing Pedophiles in Hollywood , 14 September 2010 bbc.com
“..The Catholic Church has faced a raft of allegations of child sex abuse by priests and an inadequate response by bishops. Here is a round-up of some of those events:..”

=>Cults

Children Of God Cult Survivor Speaks Out About Life Since Her Escape | Megyn Kelly TODAY

=>Mormon

Growing Up In The Satanic Illuminati: The Story of A Survivor

Polygamist Cult Founder’s Daughter, Rachel Jeffs, Gives Her First TV Interview | Megyn Kelly TODAY

=>Protestant

Protestant Ministers Guilty of Rape, Molestation, & Sexual … – YouTube

-Family

The Healing Years documentary: healing from child sexual abuse 7 min excerpts


“Published on Sep 18, 2010

more info at: http://www.bigvoicepictures.com

“An exhibition of abundant courage and great heart. Thank you.”
Maya Angelou

“A message of hope, healing and empowerment.”
William G. Steiner, Childhelp USA

“An excellent film…
Library Journal

“This powerhouse of a film.. banishes shame & celebrates women’s power.”
Laura Davis, co-author, Courage to Heal

Features Former Miss America, Marilyn Van Derbur and her courageous story of healing from the child sexual abuse by her father, Janice Mirikitani, President of Glide Memorial Church, her inspiring story of healing and launching much needed support groups for women survivors of sexual abuse, also substance abusers, and Barbara Hamilton, who ended generations of child sexual abuse in her family by healing in her later years. Distributed by Tubemogul.”

Joyce Meyer Opens Up About Being Raped by Her Father Over 200 Times-“I Never Felt Safe” Posted on April 27, 2016 Kelsey StraeterKelsey Straeter faithit.com
“…Even as Joyce started to open up about her dark past, she always referred to it as “sexual abuse”—but in a recent interview posted on her website this week, she admits that term is truly not enough anymore. It was rape.

“Literally, what he did was rape me, every week, at least once a week, until the time I was 18. My father, who I was supposed to be able to trust, who was supposed to keep me safe, raped me a minimum of 200 times,” she said.

“He didn’t force me physically, but through lies, and manipulation, and fears, and threats, I was still forced,” she added. “My father did rape me, numerous times, at least 200 times.”..

The main reason she is being so transparent in her testimony now is because she’s grateful that God’s grace and freedom have released her from the “pretending game” she had to play for so much of her life.

Though the pain and suffering ran deep for many years, Joyce has now been able to find healing through the love of God, who has shown her what a true father’s heart looks like. She even fell in love with her adoring husband, Dave, who reaffirmed that a man’s hands can be gentle, respectful and kind.

“How can that have happened to me, and me be standing here today, if God is not alive and well?” she said. “I want people to know how good God is, and that your struggle is worth it, your journey is worth it. Don’t give up.”

Joyce now loves her life as a mother, grandmother and worldwide Christian speaker, and she hopes that in sharing her story, others may find healing….”

Joyce Meyer Overcomes Abuse


“Published on Sep 5, 2016

Joyce was abused by her father during her childhood and teenage years – here’s her story of healing and forgiveness.

Filmed and produced by Joyce Meyer Ministries. Edited with permission by Lens Stories for RealDeal Trust. All Rights Reserved.”

-Government

=> AFRICA

~South Africa

The Lost Boys Of Bird Island By Mark Minnie & Chris SteynJESSICA CARDINY16 AUGUST, 2018 stessnews.com
“..Published in August 5 2018, the book recounts personal sexual assaults experiences as well as the revelation of a pedophilia network which took place in the 80s in South Africa…

In the book, the authors denounce that, boys would be kidnapped from the street and take to Bird Island, near Port Elizabeth via helicopter. There they were raped.

Accord to Steyn, both Mark Minnie former police officer and Chris Steyn investigative journalists received several death threats after the publication of the book.

The book also refers to the alleged acts of murders of key witnesses to cover up the crimes and the corruption and abuse of state resources by several members of the network…”

Renewed interest in Bird Island

SABC Digital News
Published on Aug 21, 2018
Following the publication of the controversial book “The Lost Boys of Bird Island”.. there’s renewed interest in the island, 58 kilometers north-east of Port Elizabeth. The SABC has unearthed a permit that was issued by the Monument Council in the 1980’s, granting PE businessman Dave Allan permission for a diving expedition to the Dodington, which sank near Bird Island. Allen is one of the men identified in the book written by journalist Chris Steyn and Mark Minnie. It implicates among others former National Party ministers Magnus Malan and John Wiley, and Allen in an alleged government pedophile ring in the 80’s. For more on the story, we are joined on the line by our reporter Jayed-leigh Paulse.

-Hollywood

Corey Haim’s A-list rapist may finally be named — what took so long? 1 day ago (9.20.16) by Caroline Goddard sheknows.com

“..Feldman has been discussing the sick environment of Hollywood child sexual abuse for years, even detailing the abuse both he and Haim suffered in his memoir, Coreyography. Most recently, last spring he told The Hollywood Reporter about parties for preteen actors where predators groom their next victims, and said that he and Haim had attended many. And he’s not the only one speaking out.

Elijah Wood said he was protected from such predators because his mother would not allow him to attend the parties, and although he later denied firsthand knowledge of rampant sex abuse in the industry, he gave some very telling quotes to the Sunday Times.

“Clearly something major was going on in Hollywood. It was all organized. There are a lot of vipers in this industry, people who only have their own interests in mind,” he said.

“There is darkness in the underbelly. If you can imagine it, it’s probably happened.”

More: Corey Feldman details Hollywood sex abuse conspiracy

Even Alison Arngrim, who played Nellie Oleson on Little House on the Prairie, said the abuse was an open secret in Hollywood…”
Actor Corey Feldman Exposes Pedophile Hollywood Elite , from youtube.com
Corey Haim Murdered Exposing Pedophiles in Hollywood , from youtube.com
Corey Feldman’s 1993 report of sexual assault found in Santa Barbara sheriff’s office Maria Puente, USA TODAY Published 5:58 p.m. ET Dec. 6, 2017 | Updated 11:25 a.m. ET Dec. 7, 2017 usatoday.com

Corey Feldman’s 1993 report of sexual assault found in Santa Barbara sheriff’s office instagram.com

*see freedom_faction
“..The #SantaBarbara, CA Sheriff’s Office has located tapes of former child actor #CoreyFeldman testifying in 1993 about the identities of multiple child sex predators in the entertainment industry.

FoxNews.com reported Wednesday morning that after denying that the tapes existed, the sheriff’s department has now located the audio files, which were recorded during the trial of #MichaelJackson on charges of #childmolestation.

Santa Barbara Sheriff’s Office public information officer Kelly Hoover emailed a statement to Fox News that said, “Following the recent inquiries into the Sheriff’s Office interview of Mr. Feldman in 1993, the Santa ..”

The Hollywood Sex Abuse Documentary That You Almost Couldn’t See Adam B. Vary
BuzzFeed News Reporter buzzfeed.com
“..

The documentary creates a stark and sobering portrait of a loose network of Hollywood professionals — some outsize personalities like Collins-Rector, others Hollywood insiders with far smaller profiles — who use their positions of power and influence to sexually abuse and exploit underage (in the film’s case, male) actors whose nascent careers they’re supposed to be supporting. The movie, directed by the Oscar-nominated filmmaker Amy Berg (Deliver Us From Evil), premiered to some fanfare last November at the DOC NYC festival. But despite Berg’s pedigree and its startling, headline-grabbing subject matter, no top-tier distributors picked up the film for release…”

An Open Secret
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An Open Secret- Available to screen near you today!


“..Published on May 6, 2015

Arrange a screening of AN OPEN SECRET today! CLICK HERE: https://gathr.us/films/open-secret

AN OPEN SECRET is now available via Theatrical On Demand with @GathrFilms in the US.

Simply schedule your own screening of AN OPEN SECRET at a theater near you now!

Connect with @AnOpenSecret & learn more about #AnOpenSecret via our website & social media.

Be Courageous. Report It. Life Gets Better…”
Pedophiles in Hollywood Conspiracy + Charlie Sheen + UK Stars + MUCH MORE , from youtube.com
“..Published on Dec 29, 2014

This video is sponsored by Preppers Shop UK – http://www.preppersshop.co.uk/ – Prepare, Defend, Survive.

Thanks to TheBlackChild YouTube channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UConU…

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Elijah Wood Clarifies Comments on Hollywood Pedophilia By DANIEL VICTORMAY 24, 2016 nytimes.com
“…The actor Elijah Wood clarified his remarks on Monday after suggesting in an interview with a London newspaper that sexual abuse of child stars was more widespread in Hollywood than had been reported.

After the interview with The Sunday Times drew international headlines and questions, Mr. Wood put out a statement emphasizing that his comments weren’t based on personal experience.

“Let me be clear: This subject of child abuse is an important one that should be discussed and properly investigated,” Mr. Wood said. “But as I made absolutely clear to the writer, I have no firsthand experience or observation of the topic, so I cannot speak with any authority beyond articles I have read and films I have seen.”..”

*see Now You Know: “Human trafficking”-facts, causes, prevention, solution, action plan, etc…, goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

A notorious mansion. An alleged assault by a Hollywood producer. A suicide. What happened to Brian Claflin?
By Gus Garcia-Roberts May 11, 2018 | 5:00 AM latimes.com
“..Goddard, a director, producer and theme park designer, has faced similar allegations. Last December, eight former members of a Santa Barbara youth theater group in the 1970s alleged that Goddard molested or attempted to molest them. A ninth was said to have told others before he died that Goddard sexually assaulted him as a child. Goddard denied their allegations…

Claflin’s chance to exit Utah came when he met a man from Santa Monica at a gay nightclub before his senior year. In the letter to a lawyer, Claflin wrote that the stranger told him he “was the most beautiful boy he’d ever met” and that he knew “some very rich and powerful people that wanted to meet me and could possibly get me a job.”

The mansion would become notorious as a site for sexual exploitation of underage boys. It was home to the three co-founders of Digital Entertainment Network (DEN), an early internet content streaming experiment with investment from wealthy Hollywood figures including Goddard, stock filings show.

In his statement, Claflin said Goddard and a friend of the filmmaker persuaded him to inhale nitrous oxide one night, which was the first time he had used drugs. He immediately felt dizzy and passed out, he wrote, and awoke to being further drugged while Goddard sexually assaulted him. “I was in a delirious state and remember saying NO, NO, NO, several times but they persisted,” he wrote. “I just sort of shut down and went somewhere else in my head. After a while I remember praying aloud to God to just make it/them stop.”.

A Florida-based attorney, Jeff Herman, had filed lawsuits against Goddard and “X-Men” director Bryan Singer, both former DEN investors, accusing them of sexually abusing boys in connection with that company, and at a London hotel room in 2006. Singer and Goddard denied the allegations…

He told friends about powerful men in Hollywood who wanted him dead because he knew too much. A week or so before his death, his parents Skyped with him as he barricaded himself in his bathroom, afraid of men he said were stalking him from his roof. On June 2, 2014, Claflin texted his father to “have a handgun nearby.”
..

In one of the suits against him by the two executives, Herman was deposed, and discussed Brian Claflin under oath. He said that Claflin was one of many people he heard from “around the world who said that they were abused by people in Hollywood.

He described Claflin as a witness with important information, having been an errand boy at the DEN mansion in Encino. Claflin was fearful that “somebody was going to try to kill him” because he knew too much about a “gay Mafia in Hollywood,” Herman said.

Brian Claflin’s parents said that they decided to take their son’s allegations public in support of several new accusers — including “ER” star Anthony Edwards — who alleged that Goddard molested them four decades ago.

.”

-Mission Field

Paul Young – Pt 1 – Sexually Abused Missionary Kid


“Published on Apr 8, 2011

Paul tells his story of being sexually abused on the mission field from the age of 4 by the tribes his parents were trying to reach, and then by other kids at missionary boarding school. He discusses the consequent sexual addiction, porn use, and adultery that ensued.”
*shack movie

-Occult
*see Deep Thought: Does “curiosity” really “kill the cat”? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Lawrence E. King Jr: Overachiever By Gordon Duff, Senior Editor – February 8, 2015 veteranstoday.com

The satanic abused children of San Francisco Presidio between the ages of 3 to 7 years old identified Lt. Col. Michael Aquino as “Mickey”.[67] Temple of Set, led by Lt. Col. Michael Aquino, U.S. Army, had been founded in Vietnam. In Vietnam, Lt. Aquino was military intelligence along with 15 year Army security (intelligence) specialist, Billy Stegall.[68]..Z”

“The children had led their mother to the place they had described where their father had taken them for encounters with naked adults and children (they denied ever being molested, but their drawings were full of decapitation and bloodshed). The children spoke of group encounters in other locations as well, involving both a defendant in the McMartin case and a suspect from a second preschool then under investigation.” Summit, R.C. (1994). “The Dark Tunnels of McMartin” Journal of Psychohistory[69]…
*see Now You Know: “Human trafficking”-facts, causes, prevention, solution, action plan, etc… goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

-Schools

=>Private

Private school teachers sexual abuse on Students – YouTube

Catholic school teacher accused of sexually abusing teen student …

=>Public

PD: Newport gym teacher sexually abused student – YouTube

Teacher sexually abuses a student – YouTube

Teacher Confesses To Sexually Abusing Students – YouTube

Two English Teachers Caught Having Sex With 16 Year Old Male Student

Student on student sexual assault is more common than we … – YouTube

-Shame

Sexual Abuse: I Am A Survivor


“Published on Feb 16, 2012

The aftermath of sexual abuse can be devastating. For Hannah, it manifested itself through alcoholism, eating disorders and even cutting herself… all before she turned 18. This is her story.”

Women Tell Us Why They Didn’t Report Their Sexual Assault – YouTub

=>Homework

What Does the Bible Say About Guilt And Shame? – OpenBible.info

Effects

Sexual Abuse and how it happens

The Impact of Child Sexual Abuse – YouTube

What happens to a child after he/she suffers sexual abuse? – YouTube

False Reports

Ex’s lawyer: Video shows woman beating herself up Posted: Aug 25 2016 05:47PM EDT .fox5dc.com
“..”The explanation for the black eye is now very different,” Foster said, referring to a black eye Hunt claimed was given to her by an abusive Mitchell.

Hunt described some of the alleged abuse to FOX 13 in June:

“There were so many times when I wanted to give up, but I couldn’t do it anymore and I think about how much he would have wanted this,” explained a tearful Mary Hunt.

The bad blood between them began after their nasty breakup. Mitchell accused Hunt of stealing millions of dollars worth of diamonds, jewels and gold from his home safe. Mary said he set her up.

But Foster says the bumps and bruises were self-inflicted.

“There is no evidence that he ever beat her,” said Foster. “This video now demonstrates that she is striking herself in the same area of the face and head that they allege Scott struck her.”..”

Answer

-Prevention

NSPCC: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse – YouTube

My Story of Surviving Sexual Abuse & How To Prevent this Silent Killer | Jenna Quinn | TEDxUTD

TEDx Talks
Published on May 16, 2017

Jenna Quinn is a sexual abuse survivor and the driving force behind “Jenna’s Law” that requires school districts, daycare centers, foster care centers, and child placing agencies to educate children and adults on how to recognize, prevent, and report abuse and sex trafficking.

Jenna Quinn is a child sexual abuse survivor, author, and the force behind Jenna’s Law. Jenna’s Law was the first child sexual abuse prevention education law in the United States named after a survivor to require that each school district adopt and implement a prevention policy that educates students, teachers, and parents on the likely warning signs of sexual abuse, sex trafficking, and how to report. Now, over half the country has passed some form of legislation since Jenna’s Law in 2009. With a master’s degree in communication studies, she is a sought-after speaker who has traveled nationwide, educating and sharing her inspiring story with legislatures, law-enforcement, abuse-prevention groups, schools, communities of faith, nonprofit organizations, and the general public for over twelve years. She has participated in both local and national radio, television, and news programs, and she has dedicated her life to preventing child sexual abuse through education and legislation.

For more information visit http://www.JennaQuinn.org

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

Why Do People Sexually Use or Abuse Children? 1in6.org
A very important question, asked by many people.
And a question – a search or quest, even – that some will struggle with for years.
“…..
Fearing they somehow brought it on themselves, and hoping that understanding the other person will prove it wasn’t their fault.
Still loving the person who used or abused them, and hoping that understanding why they did it will bring healing to their relationship.
Hoping that understanding why the person who used or abused them will help them to prevent other children (perhaps their own), from ever being sexually abused.
Feeling that life is unfair, unjust, random and/or meaningless, and hoping that understanding how someone could sexually abuse a child will bring some order and meaning to life.
Focusing on the other person, including why they did it, can be a way of avoiding one’s own responsibility, as an adult, for dealing with harmful effects in one’s own life, including self-destructive and harmful behaviors. (We mention this possible reason with no criticism of those to whom it applies. It’s not uncommon, and totally understandable, among those still struggling with major negative effects.)

Importantly, people may not be fully aware of some reasons why they’re asking why the other person (or people) did this to them. They may not recognize some hopes they have for the benefits that such understanding could bring. That’s totally normal. Over time the full significance of this question in your life may become clearer – or completely change as other aspects of your life change…”
Why would an adult sexually abuse a child? stopitnow.org
“..Some adults sexually abuse a child to feel the power and control they don’t feel in their relationships with other adults. Sometimes, adults who have intimate sexual relationships with other adults may sexually abuse children in moments of unusual stress, such as after the loss a job or during a divorce. Some adults are primarily sexually attracted to children, and some never act on those feelings. Some adults act impulsively when presented with an unexpected opportunity to sexually abuse a child. Other people, particularly youth with high social status or with social or emotional delays, may not even fully understand the harmful impact of their actions…”
An Ongoing Sex Drive Directed Toward Children

What Causes Someone To Molest?
childmolestationprevention.org
“..
A few sexual abusers will sexually touch a child because they are profoundly intellectually disabled, or they have developed a brain disorder, or they are psychotic. Close supervision and, when appropriate, medications to control the disorder often stop child molesters in this group.

George does not fit here.

Some abusers will sexually touch a child because they have an antisocial personality disorder. Think “anti-society.” People with this disorder may be social, even glib. So why do we call them “antisocial?” Because they believe that the rules of society do not apply to them. They break many of society’s rules. Essentially, antisocials lack feelings for others. In the mind of an antisocial, all of the rest of us, including children, exist to be used. The child molesters in this group appear most often in horrific accounts you see on television and in the newspaper.
..”

-Responding with Action

Protecting Kids from Sexual Abuse

CBS News
Published on Apr 12, 2010

As the sex abuse scandal thickens within the Catholic Church, some churches are taking action of their own to protect children. Elaine Quijano has the story.

-Healing

Healing From Sexual Abuse Can Start With One Word | Rena Romano | TEDxOcala

TEDx Talks
Published on Dec 8, 2017

After Rena Romano gained the courage to speak out about her experience of childhood sexual abuse, she discovered that few victims have the same supportive experience. This compelling talk reveals a new approach allowing each of us to aid sexual abuse survivors to lead healthy, happy, productive lives. “How you and I react and speak to sexual abuse survivors can make a difference in whether we shut down or get help,” Romano says. “If healing begins by telling, then we must make telling safe!” Discover how in this talk by a woman who learned by living it.
Author and Mindset Coach, Rena Romano is a Survivor and Advocate for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. She was a successful sales rep for 20 years in the male dominated Construction Industry. During her career, Rena discovered her successes strengthened as she had a perspective shift of her painful past. Her acknowledgement and celebration of her survival allowed her to achieve and maintain a positive mindset. A featured guest on “The Oprah Winfrey Show”, she shared her story to the world. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

The Secret to Being Healed from Sexual Abuse



“Published on Nov 22, 2015

Have you or someone you love been sexually abused? Healing is on the way! #MotivationalMonday #RealPeople #RealStories

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Neutral Perspective: Our Judicial System is fair and unfair?

FAIR

NEUTRAL

UNFAIR

10 of the Worst Wrongful Imprisonment Cases 11/9/2013 by MikeP Strange Stories oddee.com

Man spends three months in jail after cops mistook his vitamins for drugs
http://www.policestateusa.com/2015/joseph-burrell-vitamins/

http://www.kare11.com/story/news/crime/2015/11/12/repeat-drunk-driver-gets-5-years-in-prison/75646686/

-Juvenile Wrong Convictions

Detroit Man Wrongly Convicted of Murders When He Was 15 Freed After Serving 9 Years
CATHERINE THORBECKE,ABC News 1 hour 49 minutes ago (Wednesday, June 8th 2016) yahoo.com
” The murder convictions for Davontae Sanford, now 23, have been vacated by Judge Brian Sullivan, and all charges dropped against him, Maria Miller, an assistant prosecuting attorney at the Wayne County Prosecutor’s Office, told ABC News today.

Sanford was serving a 37-to-90-year sentence for a quadruple homicide he was convicted of in 2008, his attorneys said. Sanford was 14 years old when he pleaded guilty to four counts of second-degree homicide at the advice of a now-suspended attorney.

Heidi A. Naasko, a pro bono attorney for Sanford, told ABC News today that a hit man, Vincent Smothers, confessed to 12 murders two weeks after Sanford was sentenced in 2008. ..

The painful lessons of the Central Park Five and the jogger rape case
Jill Filipovic Fri 5 Oct 2012 17.32 EDT theguardian.com
The unfinished saga of the Central Park rape case shows that if police coerce suspects, the victims of a horrible crime multiply
“..”Police officers want to get the bad guy, but too often they pick what they believe to be the most plausible story and ratchet the facts into it. By the time the police are interrogating a subject, they’ve determined that the person is probably guilty of the crime. The goal of the interrogation isn’t to learn the truth: it’s to solidify guilt. “..

Sleep deprivation may sound relatively benign, but it’s been widely used as a powerful instrument of torture. Depriving a person of sleep removes their ability to think and act coherently. They have delusions and hallucinations, and the desire for sleep becomes so desperate that a person deprived of it will often do almost anything for reprieve – including, as happened in the Central Park case, admitting to murder. ..

The Central Park Five all took back their confessions upon being formally arrested. They were kids who had been kept awake for nearly two days and interrogated without attorneys present; they were told if they confessed, they could go home. The stories they told in their confessions were inconsistent with each other and with the physical evidence. Several of the boys said they stabbed the victim, but there were no knife wounds. Their stories varied on the location of the crime, the description of the victim and the timeline of the crime itself. There was little physical evidence tying them to the rape and beating. They were prosecuted and convicted anyway. ..

In the meantime, Matias Reyes, the man who actually raped and nearly killed the Central Park jogger, continued on his spree of serial rapes throughout New York City. Reyes had violently assaulted several women before the Central Park rape, including his own mother; the same year he committed the Central Park assault, he was also actively breaking into women’s apartments and stabbing out the eyes of his victims so that they couldn’t identify him after he raped them. He killed at least one of them…..

In 2002, while in jail for rape and murder, Reyes admitted to the Central Park rape. DNA evidence tied him to the crime. Tellingly, even after a judge vacated the convictions of the Central Park Five, police commissioner Ray Kelly stood behind the police work that put five innocent young men in jail:

“The judge’s ruling has neither exonerated the defendants nor found any collusion or coercion on the part of the police.”

Police officers are human and mistakes happen; that’s forgivable. Refusing to alter bad practices and placing your own interest in convicting someone ahead of truth and justice? That’s not…”

The Central Park Five Official Trailer #1 (2012) – Ken Burns … – YouTube

Source: Men exonerated in Central Park jogger case to settle suit for $40 million By Ray Sanchez and Allie Malloy, CNN

Updated 10:59 PM ET, Fri June 27, 2014 cnn.com
“..A dark chapter in recent New York City history stands to close with a proposal for the city to pay a $40 million civil rights settlement to five black and Hispanic men wrongfully convicted in the horrific beating and rape of a white female jogger in Central Park in 1989, a source with knowledge of the settlement told CNN on Friday…

The proposed agreement between the city law department and the five men — who served between seven and 13 years in prison — averages about $1 million per year of incarceration, according to the source…
One of the men, Kharey Wise, served 13 years in prison. Kevin Richardson, Antron McCray, Yusef Salaam and Raymond Santana Jr. each served about seven years…
In 2012, filmmaker Ken Burns, along with daughter Sarah Burns and her husband, David McMahon, produced an award-winning documentary about the infamous case. …

“It will finally give some closure and bring a measure of justice in this tragic case. The five men were just teenagers when they were wrongly convicted. … Their story has come to symbolize the immense challenges we continue to confront when it comes to race in this country, but it is also the story of five men maintaining their dignity in the face of injustice and now, of the collective power to acknowledge and correct our mistakes.”
Sarah Burns told CNN that it was time for the story of the Central Park Five “to be over.” ..

The victim, Trisha Meili, kept her identity hidden for 14 years until the publication of her book, “I Am the Central Park Jogger.”
“I guess there are lots of theories out there but I just don’t know and it’s almost too confusing for me to understand,” she told CNN in 2003, referring to the false confessions given by the five men. “I’ve had to come to peace with it by saying: ‘You know what? I’m just not going to know.'” “

Miscarriages of Justice ~ (1)Central Park 5 Case ~ Bad Confession (youth) Part 1 of (3)

Central Park 5 case concerns 5 youths that were running wild around central park assaulting persons.They were arrested and soon after a woman Trisha Miley was found raped and badly beaten and unconcious. They were interrogated and 4 out of 5 of them confessed to raping the woman. Subsequently a serial rapist and murderer Matiais Reyes operating in that area was caught and he admitted to raping that woman. It appeared the teenagers were innnocent. Post DNA…Why did they confess to a crime they didn’t commit. Disturbing and uncannily accurate confessions; and who is to blame? Did the police hold and interrogate them long enough to deceive and trick them into confessing. Were they merely parrots to police interrogators? ..

The Central Park 5 talk about their struggle for redemption!

-Rape

‘20 minutes of action’: father defends Stanford student son convicted of sexual assault Elle Hunt
@mlle_elle

Sunday 5 June 2016 23.19 EDT theguardian.com
“…The father of a former Stanford University athlete convicted on multiple charges of sexual assault has said his son should not have to go to prison for “20 minutes of action”.

Brock Turner, a former swimmer at Stanford University, was on Thursday sentenced to six months’ imprisonment and probation for sexually assaulting an unconscious woman.

The 20-year-old from Dayton, Ohio – who was convicted of three felonies, including assault with intent to rape – faced a maximum of 14 years in prison.

But Turner was expected to spend only three months of a six-month sentence in county jail after the judge, Aaron Persky, said positive character references and lack of a criminal record had persuaded him to be more lenient. Prison would have a “severe impact on him”, the judge said…”

-Jesus’ Trial

Jesus before Pilate.wmv


“Short clip from the Gospel of John.”


Jesus’ trial had nothing to do with justice. The only witnesses were his enemies who wanted him killed. The judge was only interested in avoiding problems with the local leaders and even he was uncomfortable with killing this man.

Jesus did not die for anything he had done wrong. It was our guilt and shame he was carrying.

Father, thank you that Jesus took my guilt and shame – and stood in my place so that I could be free.
*see https://www.facebook.com/SalPhotoVideography/photos/a.815115951836612.1073741924.443035202378024/839668542714686/?type=3&theater

On the Trial of Jesus, tektonics.org
“..a) Jesus Himself filled the disciples in after the Resurrection.

We consider this to be the most likely answer. Jesus was with the disciples for 40 days after the Resurrection – plenty of time to relate the sundry details of what happened once the more theological stuff was out of the way. And certainly, Peter would want to know what his Lord had been put through as he was waiting anxiously in the courtyard…”
12 Reasons Jesus’ Trial Was Illegal Part 1 rcg.org
Jesus Before Pilate – A Fabricated Trial? , from youtube.com
Scholar Sees 4 Views of Jesus in Accounts of Death
By PETER STEINFELS
Published: March 27, 1994 nytimes.com
“..He goes on to discuss how the Gospels’ portrayals of the role of Jewish authorities in Jesus’ trials were colored by later conflicts between Christians and Jews, with lethal consequences for the Jews. Similar Look at Nativity..”
Experts’ Evidence for Jesus’ Trial, from youtube.com
“Uploaded on Mar 31, 2011

Dr Dirk Jongkind, a Research Fellow at Tyndale House, pieces together the earliest manuscript evidence for the New Testament and shows how it tells the story of Jesus’ trial before Pilate. Find out more at our website: http://tyndalehouse.com”
Site of Jesus’ Trial FOUND! from youtube.com
“Published on Jan 5, 2015

Archaeologists in Jerusalem say they may have uncovered the remains of Herod the Great’s palace, the site where the trial of Jesus Christ may have taken place prior to his crucifixion. “

Texas Judge resigns after being caught texting instructions to prosecutors to help win convictions In Crime by Poor Richard/October 25, 2013/54 Comments/ poorrichardsnews.com
“Texas district Judge Elizabeth E. Coker is stepping down from the bench after being caught engaging in a massive perversion of justice. A whistleblower revealed that Corker was sending text messages to prosecutors with suggestions on questions to ask in court in order to secure a conviction.

from Houston Chronicle:
..

Her resignation also opens the door for a flurry of re-trials for anybody convicted in her court sessions. By trying to illegally secure convictions, Coker opened Pandora’s box, and now the state of Texas will have some massive legal knots to untangle…”

“On The 700 Club Wednesday, Feb 17.: An estimated 20-thousand innocent people sit in American prisons because of wrongful convictions. Marvin Anderson was one of those people. He was sentenced to 210 years for a rape that he didn’t commit. Find out how he was finally set free….” http://go.cbn.com/6591

Any other samples of legal cases out there that was “fair”, “unfair”, or “both”? Thoughts, comments, stories, feedback, etc.. on any of the content mentioned or not mentioned above?…

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Is there healing after a Stillbrith or Miscarriage ?

It was compassion for me to write on this topic today after a special child dedication at my local church of young parents that had a still birth or miscarriage in a prior pregnancy. I can’t personally understand what it is like for what parents have to go through since I’ve never been married or had a child. However, I have parents that lost their first child, which would’ve been my oldest sister. I never spoke to my parents about this as it’ll be a difficult subject to bring-up. However, maybe in the future someday and I’ll definitely give an update here. Till then, I can just share other people’s stories to encourage those out their in the grieving and healing process.

Stat

Each year, over 50,000 U.S. children die (U.S. National Center for Health Statistics, 2000). The death of a child is one of the most painful events that an adult can experience and is linked to complicated/traumatic grief reactions –
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2841012/

Hope
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1431051137108374/

I Will Never Forget You: Finding Hope and Healing Following Miscarriage or Stillbirth
http://www.christianliferesources.com/article/i-will-never-forget-you-finding-hope-and-healing-following-miscarriage-or-stillbirth-920

Stories

*saw these guys in concert last month (April 2015)..https://www.facebook.com/SalPhotoVideography/photos/ms.c.eJxFzlESwDAERdEddfAE2f~;G2lDye4YLk2IxGQQg9fXwD6sAAx57O8Mb3BIkGoIKdECWGb69Aa0JGogEtoYteVYveAH~;wEQZ9QuSDZKBeh0YiII~_e0ZOw6bBOA3aFyxXRF6Nsjl7.bps.a.1043509822330556.1073742006.443035202378024/1043511028997102/?type=1&theater
or

This Family Knew Their Time Would Be Limited With Their Unborn Child
https://sfglobe.com/?id=14971&src=sidexpromo&pid=2749&tg=dn_139

Miscarriage
Written by Linnea Ransom
http://powertochange.com/experience/life/miscarriage/

Movies

“Heaven Is for Real” Miscarriage Scene
https://youtu.be/bujocOVF2cc
*see Deep Thought: Is “Heaven” for real? goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Testimonies – God’s Plan for Pregnancy
http://www.godsplanforpregnancy.com/testimonies/testimonies.html

Feel free to share below your own story of healing or even current challenge to encourage other couples out there going through a similar challenge in their life.

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Ever felt you were a dissappointment?

“Son, I’m very disappointed with you!” Ever heard this before or something similar? ..from your parents, authoritative adults figure, etc… A father has a right to be disappointed with you if you did something wrong (e.g. getting spanked for disrespecting my dad in front of my friends as I kid) in his eyes, but does that mean he still loves you? Most “good” fathers will say-“yes, of course”, but there are some or many out there that doesn’t communicate that love. For example, I’ve had friends that were “physically” abused. When I hear stories like this, I get more grateful of my “imperfect” loving father. My father really didn’t tell me he loved me, but he “manly” showed it by his actions (e.g. made me breakfast in the morning before going to school, give me fatherly advice on life, etc..).

What about you? How did your father show his “manly” love to you? What was or has been your favorite father-son time?

They may not be really mad as you think, but they just don’t show that kind of love your looking for. Thus, one might “hide in the cave” thinking their father is still mad at them. Some might stay disappointed with you for the wrong reason, which is where you need to know where your Heavenly Father stands. How would you know where your Heavenly Father think about you? Well, I recommend seeking His answer through His Word. It’s hard to please your father or just anybody because no one is perfect. We all have high expectations from each other. For example, when I graduated from college, my mother shared my father’s disappointment where I was going with my college education. Fortunately, I paid my own way through college, so my father didn’t get too mad. I just shook my head without no sadness and just lifted my head up knowing that my Heavenly Father isn’t. Why, it’s because I remember His Word..

10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. …15 But when God, who set me apart from my mother’s womb and called me by his grace, was pleased 16 to reveal his Son in me…-Galatians 1

You see when I became a Christian my first year in college, I became a follower of Christ and not “man”. My mom was “disappointed” when I got water baptized my 3rd year in college because of our “religious” Catholic up-bringing. It’s over 10+ years later that my parents are no longer “disappointed” with my choices I made during college. They learned to accept it as I’m still their son in their flesh. They have seen how I’ve grown “positively” too as I credit my Christian walk. I”m not saying, I do everything “good”, but I’m doing a lot “better” then I was before I became a Christian (see on-going testimony).

However, it wasn’t like this growing-up. When I didn’t know the Lord (I did know “of” Him, but didn’t have that personal Heavenly Father to Son relationship). When a “close one” (older adult) was very critical of things (e.g. my way of dressing ) I did growing-up, I would grow to have a lower self-esteem. However, this “criticism” actually made me “work harder” in things I did. As similar to my dad, this particular “older adult” showed love in a different (e.g. “treated” me out many times) way. I was very quiet and shy most of my years growing-up. I think it was mostly because of my “negative” experience at home, school, workplace, etc.. Each has some long stories, which I can do another blog post for another time. Overall, I didn’t get much affirmation or positive remarks on what I did. I probably got more encouragement from my workplace and playing sports (I had my share of “negativity” too) then at home. My family was great, but it’s a different culture than America. Thus, my expectations through my comparing or envying others made it difficult. We are all blessed in different ways. That is why I’ve learned to list things I’m thankful each night before going to bed. It helps me not focus on my challenges of disappointments in any given day in life as I give it up in prayer. How have you dealt or deal with the “negativity” spoken or acted upon you? Just ignore it (see Chihuahua Puppy Barking Like a Wolf )

more..
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