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Do you “swear” ? Be honest!?? I think we sometimes don’t know what we say are actually “swear” words. Here are some sites that have a list of them:
List of Swear Words & Curse Words – Starting With A noswearing.com
Hyperhero’s list of swearwords, hyperhero.com
Why Do We Swear?
“Published on Nov 26, 2016
There are certain words I just can’t write in this sentence. Profanity. Swear words. But… why? Benjamin Bergen explains the science of swearing.
Thanks For Listening.
verb pro·fane \prō-ˈfān, prə-\
Popularity: Top 20% of words
Examples: profane in a sentence
Definition of profane
: to treat (something sacred) with abuse, irreverence, or contempt : desecrate
: to debase by a wrong, unworthy, or vulgar use..
In front of “kids”?
It’s Okay To Swear Around Your Kids, Says Science scarymommy.com
“Like it or not, when you become a parent, you become a role model. And in order to be the best example for your kids, you’re often forced to change your behavior. It’s not always easy, but a new book from a professor of cognitive science is here to ease your load. Because according to him, it’s okay to swear around your kids. F___ yes!…”
Leonardo DiCaprio was uncomfortable with cruel Django Unchained character 17/12/2012 newshub.co.nz
“..He says, “It was this incredibly interesting horrific character. I mean, there was absolutely nothing about this man I could identify with. I hated him and it was one of the most narcissistic, racist characters I’ve ever read in my entire life.”
DiCaprio reveals he almost chose to soften his character – but was persuaded to stick to his tough approach by Foxx and Jackson, who both play slaves, because there really were slave masters like that throughout American history.
He continues, “One of the pivotal moments for me was this initial read through, I wondered if it needed to be this violent and this atrocious to other human beings and it was Sam and Jamie who said, ‘If you sugarcoat this people are gonna resent the hell out of you. You got to push this guy to the outer extreme.’ That is what ignited me into going the way I did into the character. Once I read about the sugar plantations (in history), we’re just scratching the surface of what happened in this country.”
DiCaprio was also hesitant about using the ‘N’ word repeatedly, as dictated by Tarantino’s script, but Jackson let him know none of his black co-stars were offended by the racially derogative term because it was the language of that time.
Foxx explains, “At one point he (DiCaprio) was feeling it was tough saying his lines, ‘nigga, nigga’ and Samuel pulled him aside and says, ‘Hey motherf**ker, this is another Tuesday for us. Let’s go!’ They were really trying to go back to that time.”..”
Donald Trump Swearing ***Graphic Language*** , from youtube.com
Unpresidential Profanity: The Reason Trump Doesn’t Give a Damn<
Posted to Politics February 08, 2016 by David Eldridge insidesources.com
“..Even Fox News’ Bill O’Reilly, who calls Trump a friend, said the blue language is inappropriate: “Advice to Trump: Using profanity on campaign trail is not presidential. Most use it, including me, but we are not running for [president],” O’Reilly tweeted Friday.
But linguists who study the way Americans curse say that in a culture more saturated than ever with blunt language — from Martin Scorcese films to HBO series to pop music lyrics and uncensored tweets — Trump isn’t breaking new ground. He’s simply reflecting a new norm.
Jesse Sheidlower, author of “The F Word,” said cultural definitions of what is or is not taboo shift — sometimes dramatically — over time…”
Swearing on YouTube: Should You Cut the Profanity?
“Published on Dec 11, 2014
While you may curse, use swear words, and say all sorts of profanity with your friends, should you use it in your YouTube videos? There’s certainly benefits to not swearing in your videos if you’re hoping to have as many opportunities available to you as possible (like brand deals), but some creators may feel like they then have to pretend to be someone they’re not. What do you think? Do you eliminate swearing from your videos or do you keep it in?
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Jerry Seinfeld Explains How To Be Funny Without Sex Or Swearing
How Matt Santoro Developed His Unique Brand on YouTube
Profanity – A Biblical Assessment by Wayne Jackson christiancourier.com
“..He wonders how it is that one identifies “profanity.” The Bible only warns against the evil use of language in a general way, but it doesn’t specify which words are to be avoided. Is it a cultural question?
This is an excellent item for study. It is true that this issue is not addressed in a solitary, compact biblical context. There are, though, helpful principles in Scripture that assist in clarifying this bewilderment. Think about these points for a moment…”
Sal: I used to swear “a lot” growing-up due to anger issues and the culture. I remember one swear word in Filipino (parents’ native language) as my parents would say it all the time whenever my siblings or I would do something bad. They would get mad if we repeat it..lol! I didn’t realize how bad it was until I went to college after becoming a Christian (see personal testimony) and my “friends” would tell me that I need to cut it! One friend challenged me to put a quarter in the church offering every time I swore. This was a great challenge as a “poor” college student. I slowly decreased my swearing as I realize I didn’t really have enough money anymore! Lol! My profanity/swearing didn’t go right away. I remembered many years ago I was doing a “church” volunteer activity and a lady from church “challenged” me that the words I was using isn’t used in her household. I never realized what I was saying was “profane”, which was opened my eyes more on the “need” to grow out of this. When I catch myself saying anything “negative” overall now, I try to ask God for forgiveness and double the “negative” with a “positive” (e.g. I would sing/say “Praise the Lord”!) I’m getting better each time..thank you God for helping me!
What are your thoughts? Should “we” swear or not? Why? Feel free to share your sources or websites that you might have to support your answer..
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As a tribute to the Star Wars (Disney made) new series in 2015, I made this music video…
Music: “Star Wars” movie theme (whistling) creativemusicartsy.wordpress.com
Star Wars Movies | StarWars.com
There is a correct order to show your children the Star Wars movies October 24, 2014 theweek.com
“…Let’s say you grew up watching the Star Wars trilogy, then had children sometime after 1999, when George Lucas started releasing the prequels.
When your kids are old enough, what order should they watch the films in? The order they were released — Star Wars (A New Hope) (1977), The Empire Strikes Back (1980), and Return of the Jedi (1983), then The Phantom Menace (1999), Attack of the Clones (2002), and Revenge of the Sith (2005)? Or the order the events happened in the Star Wars universe: Phantom Menace (I), Attack of the Clones (II), Revenge of the Sith (III), New Hope (IV), Empire Strikes Back (V), and Return of the Jedi (VI)?
Rod Hilton, a computer programmer in Colorado, has given this a lot of thought, and he probably has the best solution. His (correct) instinct is to start with New Hope (IV), because if you start with Phantom Menace (I) you lose the essential shock of learning Luke’s parentage in Empire Strikes Back. But he also wants to end on a high note — so, none of the prequels. Here’s Hilton’s “Machete Order,” named after his blog, Absolutely No Machete Juggling:
Next time you want to introduce someone to Star Wars for the first time, watch the films with them in this order: IV, V, II, III, VI…”
Star Wars From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia en.wikipedia.org
“…is an American epic space opera franchise, centered on a film series created by George Lucas. It depicts the adventures of various characters “a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away”.
The franchise began in 1977 with the release of the film Star Wars (subtitled Episode IV: A New Hope in 1981),..”
Star Wars: Episode IV – A New Hope (1977) imdb.com
“Luke Skywalker joins forces with a Jedi Knight, a cocky pilot, a wookiee and two droids to save the galaxy from the Empire’s world-destroying battle-station, while also attempting to rescue Princess Leia from the evil Darth Vader. “
=> Spotlight: Celebrity-Carrie Fisher’s “success”! goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com
“THE MIKE DOUGLAS SHOW” (1977) (PART 1) (WITH CARRIE FISHER, HARRISON FORD, & MARK HAMILL) from youtube.com
“Published on Aug 31, 2014
Part 1 of 2.
Two months prior to the airing of this episode of “The Mike Douglas Show”, the mega-blockbuster film “Star Wars” debuted in U.S. movie theaters. Host Mike Douglas and co-host Richard Thomas are joined by the three top “Star Wars” cast members — Carrie Fisher, Harrison Ford, and Mark Hamill.
This is a rare chance to see these three “Star Wars” actors in their younger days, prior to the time when “super stardom” enveloped the trio.
This show was taped at Mike Douglas’ Philadelphia studios on July 20, 1977.
©1977 Westinghouse Broadcasting Company, Inc.
©2000 Rhino Home Video
MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW:
RARE 1977 interview with Harrison Ford on Star Wars , from youtube.com
“Uploaded on Oct 18, 2011
Star Wars: Episode V – The Empire Strikes Back (1980) imdb.com
“..After the rebels have been brutally overpowered by the Empire on their newly established base, Luke Skywalker takes advanced Jedi training with Master Yoda, while his friends are pursued by Darth Vader as part of his plan to capture Luke. ..”
Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back – Trailer
Sal: We need to get “equipped” (see Good News Ministry) and “taught” by mentors (those who have walked the walked) before we personally/individually take on the “enemy”. Season to “train” and season for “active duty” for war…
Yoda training Luke pt1 from youtube.com
Star Wars: Biblical Wisdom from Yoda. | Theology within Film theologywithinfilm.wordpress.com
“..During Luke’s training with Yoda on Dagobah, Luke starts to lose hope when he is distracted by thoughts of his friends. Yoda consistently works Luke toward being able to pull the X-Wing out of the swamp using the Force, but Luke is distracted. ..”
*there is power in the mind to overcome distractions we face in our daily lives!
Star Wars: Episode VI – Return of the Jedi (1983) from imdb.com
“After rescuing Han Solo from the palace of Jabba the Hutt, the rebels attempt to destroy the second Death Star, while Luke struggles to make Vader return from the dark side of the Force. ..”
Sal: The famous fight seen (see Star Wars Episode VI: Return of the Jedi – Luke Skywalker vs Darth Vader – Edited , from youtube.com )reminds me of the “spiritual battle” between “good” and “evil” within.
Update: Just watched it again (January 2nd 2016) and got this “relevation”-I was watching the scene where the evil guy tries to make Vader and his son Luke kill each other. He keeps telling Luke to “hate” (“let the hate flow through you…haha!”) and be “angry”. Fortunately, Luke remembers his teaching (mentored by Obi-Wan Kenobi and Yoda) to fight with “love“!
Spoiler Alert: Luke wins his dad’s heart through love and forgiveness..
5 Christian Messages Found in Star Wars crosswalk.com
It’s Never Too Late for Redemption
“At the very end of The Return of the Jedi, just when it seems that all hope is lost, something incredible happens. Darth Vader, the longstanding antagonist of the series, sacrifices himself to save his son and defeat the emperor. Vader had believed he was too far gone to ever find redemption. He had done so many terrible things, betrayed so many people. How could he ever be forgiven?
Luke, on the other hand (no pun intended), never lost faith in Vader. In fact, he believed so strongly he was willing to pay the ultimate price for his forgiveness. There are many people like Vadar who look back on their mistakes and think it’s too late, but they are wrong. I doesn’t matter how far we’ve strayed or how mangled we’ve become, Jesus gave his life so that we could be forgiven (John 3:16). God doesn’t need to save you, He already has…”
*see Luke 17
-Behind the Scenes of Original Trilogy
Behind the Scenes of Star Wars: The Original Trilogy ILM Special Effects Makers. , from youtube.com
“Published on Jan 3, 2016
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This was taken from the Star Wars: The Complete Saga as a special feature for the Original Trilogy of Star Wars.
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Star Wars: Episode I – The Phantom Menace (1999) from imdb.com
“Two Jedi Knights escape a hostile blockade to find allies and come across a young boy who may bring balance to the Force, but the long dormant Sith resurface to reclaim their old glory. ..”
Star Wars: The Phantom Menace christiananswers.net
“…On the flip side, there is also a “dark side” which is easier to tap into because anger, fear, and aggression all lead to it. Only by staying calm, patient and passive can one avoid turning to the dark side. Obviously we need to teach our kids what the Bible has to say about all of this. We need to teach them that there is a real force and His name is Jesus Christ and in fact all things were created by Him (John 1:3; John 1:10) and through Him all things truly consist (Colossians 1:17)! Furthermore, they need to know that sin, which we have all committed, (Romans 3:23) leads to the “dark side” and we must accept Christ as Lord of ours lives to get us into heaven (Romans 6:23)…”
Star Wars: Episode II – Attack of the Clones (2002) .imdb.com
“Ten years after initially meeting, Anakin Skywalker shares a forbidden romance with Padmé, while Obi-Wan investigates an assassination attempt on the Senator and discovers a secret clone army crafted for the Jedi. ..”
Star Wars Episode II: Attack of the Clones – Trailer
Star Wars: Episode II—Attack of the Clones
compiled by Jeffrey Overstreet Copyright Christianity Today International 2002 1 Jan crosswalk.com
“.. In this chapter, young Anakin Skywalker starts giving in to his foolish impulses, rejects the counsel of his teachers, and responds to the temptations that lead him on the path of the Dark Side. His primary weakness is his infatuation with the beautiful Senator Padme Amidala…”
Sal: What temptations do you have?
Star Wars: Episode II – Attack of the Clones (2002) Bloopers Gag Reel , from youtube.com
Star Wars: Episode III – Revenge of the Sith (2005) imdb.com
“..During the near end of the clone wars, Darth Sidious has revealed himself and is ready to execute the last part of his plan to rule the Galaxy. Sidious is ready for his new apprentice, Lord… See full summary » ..”
Episode III Lightsaber Training , from youtube.com
Star Wars Ep 3 Revenge of the Sith Final Battle Clip , from youtube.com
“You turned her against me..”.-Anakin & “.. You’ve done that yourself…Your anger and lust for power have already done that..”-Obi Wan
Episode III The Final Battle – Darth Vader Vs Obi-Wan Kenobi – Part 1 , from youtube.com
*see satan (a.k.a. father of lies), deceiver, etc..
Sal: I watched this movie again (via online) after watching Rogue 1 the other day (Friday, December 16th 2016). I was encouraged and had a revelation during the scenes (e.g. Star Wars VII The Force Awakens- Rey vs Kylo Ren Lightsaber Fight Scene from youtube.com , of “using the force” (see 1 Corinthians 12).
Star Wars: The Force Awakens (2015) from imdb.com
“..Three decades after the defeat of the Galactic Empire, a new threat arises. The First Order attempts to rule the galaxy and only a ragtag group of heroes can stop them, along with the help of the Resistance. ..”
Star Wars: The Force Awakens Trailer (Official)
Sal: Another revelation or thought was during the scene when Rey “commands” the Star Trooper to release her and drop his weapon..lol! I saw this as believers needing to practice using their authority as God’s children against the evil and dark forces…in Jesus’ name!
Star Wars: The Force Awakens (2015) Full Cast & Crew imdb.com
Carrie Fisher Interview with Gary on The Force Awakens , from youtube.com
“Published on Dec 4, 2015
Carrie Fisher played Princess Leia in the first “Star Wars” in 1977 and returns this month in “Star Wars: The Force Awakens.” | Carrie Fisher, who will forever be known for playing Princess Leia Organa in the original “Star Wars” trilogy, has died, family spokesman Simon Halls has confirmed to ABC News…”
Billie Lourd On How She Got A ‘Star Wars’ Role Without Help From Mom Carrie Fisher | TODAY , from youtube.com
Star Wars Undercover Boss: Starkiller Base – SNL, from youtube.com
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story (2016), from imdb.com
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story starwars.com
“From Lucasfilm comes the first of the Star Wars standalone films, “Rogue One: A Star Wars Story,” an all-new epic adventure. In a time of conflict, a group of unlikely heroes band together on a mission to steal the plans to the Death Star, the Empire’s ultimate weapon of destruction. This key event in the Star Wars timeline brings together ordinary people who choose to do extraordinary things, and in doing so, become part of something greater than themselves. In theaters December 2016.
Released: December 16, 2016
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story Trailer (Official)
Rogue One review: this is the first Star Wars movie to acknowledge the whole franchise is about war Updated by Todd VanDerWerff@tvoti Dec 16, 2016, 11:14am EST vox.com
It’s often incoherent and messy. But it’s also beautiful and has a strong central theme.
“..But if the film is politically relevant, it’s only accidentally so, not intentionally. I say that not just because Rogue One was completed long before Donald Trump’s election or even Brexit, but because Edwards uses a kind of scattershot approach to political content in his films — he’ll give you just enough of an idea of what he’s going for, but he’s uninterested in pushing any further than that.
An early shot in Rogue One features Stormtroopers patrolling the streets of a city rife with tension between various factions, rolling around in a tank. At various moments, it calls to mind the US occupation of Iraq and police militarization of American cities. But it’s not entirely clear whether Edwards has thought about what these similarities might mean in the larger tapestry of Rogue One beyond “Do you get this reference?” It’s political commentary as Family Guy joke…”
*see Neutral Perspective: Iraq War was justified or not?
An Epic Scene in Rogue One Will Change How You See Darth Vader Megan McCluskey Dec. 16, 2016 time.com
This post contains spoilers for Rogue One.
Star Wars Animated Series | StarWars.com from starwars.com
9 Ways Star Wars Parallels the Bible by Paul Kent onfaith.co
The Death Star and pride? Luke Skywalker and Moses? Star Wars mirrors Scripture more than you think.
“..His life goal is to spur interest in the Bible for readers of all ages and backgrounds. Paul has loved the Star Wars saga since he saw the original movie poster at age 11. He is the author of The Real Force: A 40-Day Devotional. We asked him to list 9 ways in which the Star Wars series parallels the Bible..”
Star Wars, Literary Parallels and the Bible April 11, 2013 logosmadeflesh.com
“..Have you noticed how the second Star Wars trilogy (episodes I-III) parallels the first (episodes IV-VI)? Here are a few examples..”
-Behind the Scenes
‘Star Wars’ locations that actually exist
By Griffin Shea, for CNN Updated 11:00 AM ET, Wed December 21, 2016 cnn.com
10 Star Wars Fan Theories That Will Blow Your Mind , from youtube.com
Did Han Solo really survive on dumb luck, or was the Force with him? Why do the Ewoks think C-3PO is their god? Was Luke Skywalker standing next to a grave at the end of The Force Awakens? Star Wars fans have burning questions. Sometimes, they also have the answers. This video is a review of our favorite mind-blowing Star Wars fan theories, the ones that change the whole picture of what’s going on in the movies.”
Star Wars Featurette: The Birth of the Lightsaber , from youtube.com
“Published on Apr 9, 2014
Star Wars creator George Lucas, actor Mark Hamill, and sound designer Ben Burtt discuss the concept and creation of the lightsaber.”
What’s your favorite Star Wars movie/series?
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The other day (Friday, September 4th 2015), I was driving to a particular location that I thought would be easy to find. I used my camera and took a pic of a map I googled, but would find out later it wasn’t the most accurate pic.
I would end up driving almost an hour to finally reach my destination, which I was at a point where I was very frustrated (the hot weather also played a factor). I look back and ask God to forgive me for my impatience. Fortunately, I’m at a point in my life where I’ve grown a lot more patient and didn’t “hurt” anybody, which I would have regretted if I did.
What happened was the pic (above) I took of the map wasn’t big enough to show the entry ramps before or after, so the location was too narrow to see a “bigger perspective”. One of the lessons I learned was to take two or more pics to show the “surrounding area”..
I stopped at two locations looking for directions…
1st-Forgot the name of the gas station and the exact location, but somewhere in Blaine around here (hwy 65 & 109th Avenue.) ..
The guy told me to continue east on 109th Avenue and look for Lexington Avenue, which leads me back to 35 W. I saw the map and realized I was very close to the prison if I continued west more on 109th. I left my physical map at home, which I need to remember to bring it next time.
Above is the hand written note that this nice “young” woman jot down for me. I’m very thankful to God for bringing this woman to help me and that He humbled me in a time of frustration to ask for “help”
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, “–Colossians 3:12
Thank you to both people that helped me.
Got any similar stories of being lost? What was the feeling? Did you ask for help? Did you find your destination? How? Share your stories to encourage others as we all have had similar experiences 🙂
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“YOU offended me! Have you ever been offended? We all have, but how can we counterattack that? We don’t, we give it to God. Yeah right, it isn’t that easy! Before I became a Christian my 1st year college, I was easily offended. This was due to my past from being “hurt” so many times in various ways (e.g. bullying). I can’t pin point exactly when I started getting offended, but I just remember when I was growing-up-I grew very insecure (see self-image) because of the people around me were very “critical” of my outward appearance. I look back now and I can’t blame them because of our “negative” media that keeps giving them the “wrong” message, which is another blog (see Good News Sociology).
Getting back to when I was growing-up, a “close one” would always criticize me in almost everything I did. I seem to not be able to do anything “right” in her eyes. I tried to do well in school, but I just wasn’t “smart-enough”. I was very “slow” in things I did. I look back and have to attribute part of this with my family’s psychological history (another story in itself) and health nutrition as I realize I ate a lot of “junk-food” (somewhat due to my economic background and poor “eating” choices I was very ignorant at the time). This particular individual was just “negative” most of the time with me, so I was always “fearful” every time I encountered her. I grew to be always trying to “please” her by “trying” my hardest to do better (e.g. academically), which I never could achieve. Now, I know the only One I should try to “please” is my Heavenly Father, which is much easier through prayer.
Another “social issue” I was easily offended growing-up was racism. Yes, I grew-up in the “diverse” city of St. Paul, but it was a different type of racism compared to living up here in rural Morris, Minnesota. I somehow couldn’t “fit-in” with any particular group of friends. I already wrote about the specifics in another site. For the sake of jumping to another link, which you probably have already above. In short, I would get “teased” by every racial group I hung out with growing-up. A so-called “friend” (Caucasian-American) made a remarked that I “look like the enemy” during Dessert Storm (war in Iraq sometime in the early 90’s. Even though it was a joke, this put a scar in my mind growing-up (would be reminded of this on 9-11. It might seem “little”, but with the many other “racism” experiences (too many to mention here) I’ve gone through, it was just another added to many different scars (e.g. almost hit with a foot long wine bottle while playing tennis by a couple of “white guys-almost skinheads”, Neo-Nazi group visited my workplace-Taco Bell, called “gook” while delivering newspapers, etc..) added to me.
To be fair, it wasn’t just a “white on Chink/Gook/”Dessert Nigga”/Mexican/etc.., I was teased by my own “racial” group (Asian) in high school. I joined the Asian Club because I needed a place of “belonging”. Well, one of my peers teased me by saying I “don’t look Asian” because of my big eyes. Then I started to want to hangout within my own “ethnic-group” (Filipino over the years later, but somehow I couldn’t “fit-in” because I didn’t know the language (Tagalog). My parents didn’t teach my siblings and I their native language because they thought we would have trouble assimilating in the American culture. I personally think it’s important to learn the native language of the parents to have some sense of cultural identity and it’s good for brain development, which is why I currently love teaching English as a second language.
Well, I can keep sharing many “little” to “big” things I’ve been offended, but that would take a book! I just wanted to give some examples above so “you” readers can somehow relate. Now, let’s make a list of the things how I’ve offended others. This would probably take a second volume! We sometimes forget that we’ve also probably “offended” others too as we focus on ourselves (looking for people to feel sorry for ourselves). If you know me good and have been offended (more likely if you’ve known me longer) by me, please forgive me too :(. We sometimes don’t realize that we all have offended one another, which is why it’s important to dialogue and share with each other honestly and openly. For example, a good “friend” that I worked with at the local college (summer program) was offended by me when I jokingly told her she was “lazy” (after eating lunch together and she didn’t bring-up her tray to the dish room at Food Service in campus). I told her “sorry” after she openly-honestly told me her reason for this offense (she grew up being called “lazy” by her family, so she would work harder). PLEASE contact me (e.g. phone, email, in person is better!) if I offended you because sometimes I didn’t know! Let’s be real with one another and stop being “Minnesota Nice” and “sugar coat” the things we say to one another. We can’t expect to know all of each others’ past, but we can be “more sensitive” (this is where the Holy Spirit comes in) and “compassionate” (this will increase as one grows in their personal relationship with their Heavenly Father) to one another. We are (most of us) mature adults and we need to act like it! This is probably why married couples or couples/friends in general fight with each other because of a misunderstanding or miscommunication. Don’t give Satan a foothold!..
Take care of it right away (see Ephesians 4:26) or the walls (as mentioned in the teaching above and the sermon message at my local church this morning too) will be built too high to take down.
How can we overcome offense? I’ve learned (still learning) to do this more as I’ve grown in my personal relationship with God. For example, I got offended by certain individuals in various places (e.g. home, work, church, etc..), so the way I “combat” it is through prayer. The more I pray for certain individuals, my compassion for them increases. I know there are some other circumstances with people (e.g. enemies-people who have taken advantage on you) that requires more than prayer, which might require some “wisdom” (e.g. spiritual gifts) from other people (e.g. mentor, pastor, etc..).
We can’t “judge” or “stereotype” (e.g. NOT all Somolians are “evil” as the movie “Black Hawk Down” might stereotype these people group) any group because of the actions of a “few” of a group of people (e.g. race, nationality, political party, religion, institution, etc….). This would be another blog topic on how media can carelessly give or promote the “wrong” negative message about a particular group of people.
In the meantime, I want to leave you with this last video, which I was reminded while listening to the beginning part of the video above. If you haven’t seen this movie yet, I highly recommend you do. For those who haven’t seen this movie yet, the scene below is about a father trying to give some advice to his son as he plans to share how he’s been “offended” by his wife and wanting a divorce….
“Heavenly Father, I pray for each of us who have been offended by someone(s). We ask for your love and healing touch from the various offenses (e.g. physical, emotional, spiritual abuse, etc..) we’ve experienced in the past. We too have probably offended someone too and we ask You to forgive us. Give us wisdom and strength on how to ask these individual(s) for forgiveness. We ask You to continue “molding” us to be the “man”/”woman” you want us to be. In the meantime, show us how we can be your light to others that are hurting around us too. We ask all this in Your (Jesus’) name… …And all God’s people say?…Amen!”
ACTION: Let’s all help be peacemakers in the world out there with what we’ve learned!
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I just had this recent life “episode” of overcoming offense that I need to share with “everybody” as I feel we can all learn from this. I feel we all can relate to these “life circumstances” and that we can help each other out on this to “increase” peace in our increasingly troubled society/world. Here is the background of this story without giving too many “confidential” details. A “friend” (younger than me) of mine recently (last week) was very frustrated about his on-going weight issues as he was recently in the hospital for a “heart condition”. He was checking his weight one morning and I was going to “double” check it as I serve like a “nurse” at his particular place of residence. Well, he unfortunately gained weight and he started yelling (swearing) at me. I understood his “frustration” and I replied “angrily” that you can have another “staff” check you later this morning. He then would continue to vent his frustration and I would reply patiently to have his weight check by another staff as “another feedback”. He then left and went back to his bedroom. I wanted to bring “light” to this situation to encourage him, so I emailed him some “health” articles telling him he was “right” about an earlier situation (eating a particular food) and another article to “prevent” a future weight increase. He somehow misinterpreted one of the articles I shared and this got him more angry at me-wasn’t my intention. Well, he called me “names” via text and email. I wasn’t going to reply right away as I wanted him to “cool” off and not add more to the “increasing fire”. Instead of just “ignoring” passively, I started to pray for him more as I asked God/Heavenly Father to “soften his heart” every time I would think about this (sometimes frustratingly or angrily) throughout the day after this situation. Later in the day I found out he was back in the hospital…again! I then started to pray for him more (as I thought about how life is very short. Also, a similar story of a high school friend I didn’t “forgive” and later died of a car accident 😦 ) and was going to reply to him now to encourage him to “get better”. As I was about to do this, he actually called the phone where I was at and started apologizing for his “actions” as he was trying to explain how frustrated he was. After our long conversation of reconciliation after forgiveness, I would pray for continued healing and better health and peacefully said our “good night”.
A book that I partly read that I thought about during this “episode” last week was this->
The Bait of Satan
(see how Satan works!) if interested in getting equipped for daily “life challenges” like this…
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