Neutral Perspective: Masturbation is “good” and “bad”?

GOOD

10 Reasons To Make Masturbation Part Of Your Wellness Routine by Alexandra JamiesonMay 5, 2015 10:42 AM mindbodygreen.com
“..Through working with thousands of women as a health coach (in addition to my own personal experience), masturbation has been both an uncomfortable topic to talk about — while also being a powerful healing technique. It’s time to finally embrace it.

Masturbation has gotten a bad reputation, mainly because religion and culture tell us it’s a sin. The Bible doesn’t explicitly talk about masturbation, although there is some stern warning against “spilling your seed on the ground.” The Catholic Church decided that masturbation (sometimes referred to as “onanism” after Onin, a Biblical character) was a sin deserving of eternal damnation.

By the time World War I came around, onanism was being called “self-abuse” and described in medical texts as more dangerous to young boys than lying or stealing. Girls and women aren’t even mentioned, as if “the fairer sex” couldn’t even possibly do something so dirty.

So it stands to reason that most of us would feel some traces of shame, guilt, or even fear when practicing this very natural act. But take heart from the animal world and modern science! Dozens of mammal, bird, and insect species have been documented to masturbate in captivity and in the wild. From penguins, to dolphins, horses, and even porcupines, mother nature has no judgment when it comes to wrapping your hand, wing, or fin, around your own personal magic wand. ..”

NEUTRAL

Masturbation Debate (Part 1) , from youtube.com
“..Published on Aug 17, 2012

One of the most common topics that gets debated in our ministry is masturbation. Is it a sin? Does the Bible say anything about it? Does it even matter when talking about sexual purity? These and many other questions come up over and over. This 3-part series will help shed light on this issue from a biblical perspective…”

WOMEN

Masturbation: Is It Wrong? Dr. Juli Slattery todayschristianwoman.com
Yes . . . and no. Guidelines for sorting out a complicated question.
“.. 1. What are you thinking about?

While masturbation itself isn’t immoral, the sexual fantasies that usually go with it may be. Most women only masturbate when they are thinking about or looking at something sexual. Sexual fantasies about someone you are not married to are, as Jesus stated, “adultery of the heart.”

“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman [or man] with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)

If you are single, fantasizing even about some fictional sexy guy is promoting lustful thoughts. If you are married and fantasizing about another man, you are violating, in your mind and heart, your promise to give yourself sexually only to your husband. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with a married woman fantasizing about her own husband…

2. What is your motive?

The Bible makes it clear that God is very concerned about our motives. For example, giving money to your church might be a wonderful act of worship or an empty gesture, depending upon the attitude of your heart. The same can be true of masturbation.
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3. Is it mastering you? (No pun intended.)

The apostle Paul taught that “nothing should master” us. In other words, we shouldn’t be controlled or addicted to anything…

4. Am I honoring God with my body?

“Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)….

BAD

Can Christians Masturbate?


“Published on Jun 9, 2013

This video uses common Protestant theology to show that masturbation for Christians does not need to be such a guilt-ridden, condemning act as it is often treated.

For my regular subscribers, please note that I am not using a skeptical method of analyzing doctrine but am staying within the bounds of commonly accepted Protestant beliefs.
(Essence of Spring by Jeff Woodall licensed by http://www.ambientsoundgarden.com)”

Christian girls talking about sex and masturbation


“Published on Jul 18, 2014

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Negative Effects of Masturbation
September 24, 2012 by Andrew Michell howtostopmasturbation.com
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Does masturbation have negative effects? Scientists published this very revealing graph in the Archives of Sexual Behavior here. You can see that as masturbation increases the satisfaction with life decreases. The more a person masturbates the more dissatisfied a person may become. This leads to depression, unhappiness, lack of motivation, and other problems. (click to enlarge picture)

If masturbation is so healthy as so many claim then why are so many people here complaining of pain and negative effects from masturbating? Religion has nothing to do with it because even non religious people experience the same pains and negative side effects. Actually %100 of the data from this study came from Sweden, which is the most atheistic country* in the western world! The more often atheists masturbate the worse they feel. Some will reply “But masturbation is okay unless you are doing it 10 times a day.” Look at the graph. People who feel the worst masturbate only 10 times a month. ..”

Others:

Health: Benefits of Masturbation? goodnewshealthandfitness.wordpress.com

What are your thoughts?

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Why do people cheat on their partners?

There seems to be a theme lately on this topic, which is why I decided to do this. I’m currently not in a relationship, so I really don’t have any credibility. However, I can share some instances where I’ve been tempted to “go along” with someone trying to cheat their partner. I’ll share that later. Here are some headlines I’ve noticed lately by the “mainstream media”..

Sports

Why Did WNBA Stars Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson Annul Their Marriage?, 06.11.155:20 AM ET from thedailybeast.com
“…Johnson, No. 25 for the WNBA team the Tulsa Shock, and Brittney Griner, No. 42 for the Phoenix Mercury, have announced the annulment of their wedding a mere 28 days after it occurred.

The announcement comes one day after the couple announced that Johnson was pregnant on Instagram and just weeks after they were both arrested for an April domestic violence incident in their Goodyear, Arizona home…

But the couple’s story also touches on one of the most underresearched public health problems in the LGBT community: domestic abuse in same-sex relationships between two women…

Comparatively little is known about domestic violence in the LGBT community but initial research on the subject has indicated that rates of physical violence are roughly the same for same-sex couples as they are for opposite-sex couples….


Brittney Griner’s sad tale: Estranged wife cheated with man
July 26, 2015 9:57pm
MARK W. SANCHEZNY Post perthnow.com.au

Does the media have an influence on “cheating” each other ? How so?

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Casting Crowns – Slow Fade

Have you ever been tempted to cheat? Why? How to battle temptation?

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Casting Crowns – Broken Together (Official Music Video)

-Peace

How to Recover From Husband’s Adultery with Prostitutes marriagemissions.com
“QUESTION: I’ve only been married 4 years. I just learned my husband committed adultery on at least 2 occasions with a prostitute. He says he is sorry and wants to salvage the marriage. I have conflicting emotions from moment to moment. If we as Christians are supposed to forgive others for their sins, why does God allow for divorce when a spouse is unfaithful?…

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Getting out of self-focus

I have been pondering about this topic lately on “getting rid of self-focus” (e.g. self-pity). When we tend to focus on ourselves (e.g. pondering about our past: mistakes, hurts, etc..), we forget about whose (e.g. God, family, friends, etc..) around us. Do you ever get this? Do you feel this can be a distraction (e.g. staring down or hitting more obstacles that can be avoided in life) to “moving-on” or “moving ahead” in (a fulfilling) life?

Distractions In Life – Everything


“This is a slideshow I made being deeply moved by the Lifehouse Skits’ posted here, on Godtube and many other video-hosting sites. Sometimes, when we fail, we ignore God’s helping hand and instead seek these things, unknown to the fact that they bring us down even lower. We fall to them, we get attached to them and ultimately, get destroyed by them. Only God’s unfailing love can wash us from these sins and inspire us to move on. Only in God’s presence can we find true joy, peace and everlasting love.”

What are some ways to re-direct this “focus”?

more..
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Deep Thought: Who are the “victims” of marital disputes?”

Personal Story

When I was growing up in St. Paul, my parents fought all the time. They told me it was natural as parents as they try to convey their issues and work it out together. There were times where I got really bothered hearing them fight. In fact, it affected my social life going to school. I was very quite, shy, and passive somehow when I was with my friends or classmates. It seem like I was holding-up this anger inside and I didn’t know where to release it-really didn’t have anyone to confide or talk to about how I felt.

I remember several times my mom would say “I want a divorce” or “I don’t know why I married your dad”. This really hurted me because I didn’t want to see my dad or mom to separate. I remember saying this a couple of times as I matured, “You two brought us (my siblings and I) to this world together, so you need to stay together to bring us into the world! Then you can get divorce, but till then you need to finish the job you started”. Looking back at this, I personally feel parents have to be careful what they say in front of their kids. I wished my mom had another adult she could express our feelings to. I feel parents need that extra support or sometype of fellowship of other adults that are close to share; instead of their kids. Parents need to model for their children. Children are the real victims of their parents actions: adulther, divorce, abuse, etc…It’s sad that they can’t just speak up on how they feel!

…scroll all the way down below for more resources on =>”Children” -“Victims”
http://issues.goodnewseverybody.com/adultery.html

Movies

Fireproof ending.wmv

Courageous – The Father’s Resolution (Scene)


“Uploaded on Jan 22, 2012

Watch the intimate scene that is moving the hearts of Father’s all over the world, including Soldiers like myself, fighting in Afghanistan. It’s a call to action, to recommit and resolve to their roles as a Godly Father, Husband, and Men of God.

You can follow us on our Fight of Faith, and our resolution for change at:
http://www.HisFightofFaith.com & http://www.HerFightofFaith.com

For more information on Courageous, please visit:
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War Room: Prayer Scene


“Published on Dec 8, 2015

If you’ve seen WAR ROOM and heard Miss Clara’s prayer at the end, you know there’s power when we pray to God—the power of the Holy Spirit at work in our lives and in our world. Need a reminder?

BLU-RAY & DVD AVAILABLE DECEMBER 22
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Prayer

Prayer For Marriage Restoration – Prayer For Restoration Of Marriage

Stories

To the Sons and Daughters of Divorce Article by Paul Maxwell Regular Contributor desiringgod.org
“…Children with divorced parents have experienced a different kind of violent, traumatic collision. And every child of divorce must likewise walk a path of healing. It will, of course look different for different sons and daughters, but no one can deny that the emotional and relational bleeding needs attention, likely long after the papers are filed.

A chorus of adults with long-divorced parents will dismiss in unison: “I’m not broken, thanks very much. I’m not a project. I’m fine. It’s not even a big deal. I’m not a victim, and it certainly doesn’t deserve this much attention.” I totally get that. Depending on the day, I might say the same thing if I read my first two paragraphs.

My parents divorced when I was nine. I’m not a victim, but the break still broke me. It wounded me in ways I could not control. Years later, because I didn’t have the resources to work through things as a nine-year-old boy, certain forms of brokenness seem native and normal to me.

“The break that happens between mom and dad in divorce happens within the child.”

Divorce “attacks the self, because the self is formed within the belonging and meaning provided by the family. When it is destroyed, the threat of lost place and lost purpose becomes a reality. Without place or purpose, one becomes a lost self” (Andrew Root, Children of Divorce, ..”

-Men


Child of Divorce testimony


“Uploaded on Nov 2, 2006

Testimony from a Christian about how God helped him through his parents divorce.”

Day 1: Forgiveness for committing adultery? | We Are Messengers


“Published on Mar 27, 2017

Darren from We Are Messengers starts off with a POWERFUL story showing us exactly what forgiveness looks like.

Joyful Noise 2017: Share by Darren Mulligan of We are Messengers

Music

Casting Crowns – Broken Together (Official Music Video)


“…Listen to Broken Together on Spotify: http://hyperurl.co/m5qoh9
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Lyrics: (Psalm 139, Philippians 4:6-7, Habakkuk 3:17-19, James 1:5-8)

What do you think about when you look at me
I know we’re not the fairytale you dreamed we’d be
You wore the veil, you walked the aisle, you took my hand
And we dove into a mystery

How I wish we could go back to simpler times
Before all our scars and all our secrets were in the light
Now on this hallowed ground, we’ve drawn the battle lines
Will we make it through the night

It’s going to take much more than promises this time
Only God can change our minds

Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together
If you can bring your shattered dreams and I’ll bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us
The only way we’ll last forever is broken together

How it must have been so lonely by my side
We were building kingdoms and chasing dreams and left love behind
I’m praying God will help our broken hearts align
And we won’t give up the fight

© 2013 Sony/ATV Tree Publishing (BMI) All rights on behalf of Sony/ATV Tree Publishing administered by Sony/ATV. / My Refuge Music (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) / Songs of Universal, Inc. (BMI) / G650 Music (BMI)

Music video by Casting Crowns performing Broken Together (Official Music Video). (C) 2014 Provident Label Group LLC, a unit of Sony Music Entertainment..”

Casting Crowns – Slow Fade

-Women

Adult Children of Divorce – 1

♦44♦ Testimony Marriage Restored From Divorce {Michael & Julian}

Cheri Keaggy on Her Divorce (A Story of God’s Restoration and Healing)

-Both

Testimony–Marriage restored after a divorce by following God’s principles

-Children

How to Deal With Your Parents’ Divorce

The Effects of Divorce on Childrens Mental Health Through the Life Course First Hand


“Published on Aug 4, 2011

The psychological effects of divorce may touch divorcees, children, family and friends. Speak to a divorce lawyer today about coping with divorce. Read more at http://www.floridadcf.org”

Testimony of 6 year old girl whose parents divorced


“Published on Sep 22, 2015

My wife and I are sharing this short yet powerful testimony of a little girl who is struggling with the battle taking place between her Dad and Mom. As I watched it today, I was very inspired, as well as saddened, for although the little girl’s heart’s desire is right . . . she did not know how to fix a seemingly impossible dilemma. So many of God’s children are struggling, and although they may sincerely desire for their marriage healed and restored, they often do not realize what it is they are literally fighting against, nor where the fight is coming from . . . My wife and I know all to well from personal experience what this battle is like. For we wrestled for years to overcome, yet it seemed no matter how hard we “tried,” nothing seemed to really work. Looking back now, I clearly see that we were “fighting” in the flesh, rather than the power of God’s Spirit ! For our Father in heaven has given each of us great Light from His Word, and above all, this assurance . . . “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal (weak and human), but mighty (full of power and possible) through God . . . to the pulling down of strongholds; casting down imaginations, and every high thing (those spirits, and powers of the air) that exalts itself against the knowledge (knowing – John 17:3) of God . . . And bringing into captivity every thought to the perfect obedience of Christ !” II Corinthians 10:4-5 & ref: Ephesians 2:2 “We wrestle not against flesh and blood (not our spouse, nor even our own), but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness* of this world . . . against spiritual wickedness in the heavens . . . Wherefore my brother and sister, take unto you the whole armour of God (Deity – II Peter 1:4), so that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day . . . and having done all, to stand ! . . . . Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with the Truth (John 17:17), and having on the breastplate of righteousness (Jeremiah 23:5-6) . . . And your feet shod with the preparation (ointment) of the Glad Tidings of Peace . . . And above all, taking the shield of faith . . . and faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God (Romans 10:17) . . . wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one (Satan, the devil) . . . And take the helmet of your Salvation (that deliverance, freedom and healing wrought and complete for you by the Lord Jesus Christ), and the Sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God . . . !” Ephesians 6:12-18 “For it is not by might, nor by power . . . but by My Spirit saith the LORD of hosts !” Zechariah 4:6 “And the Words that I speak unto you, they are Spirit, and they are Life !” John 6:63 and ref: Isaiah 55:8-11 We pray that this little girls testimony will touch you. And I encourage you also to watch the story of the miracle which the LORD did in our lives, and is more than willing also to do in yours, if you will seek Him with all your heart, and fight the good fight of faith !

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KCg93… – The Dragon Revealed – a True Story Please contact us if we can be of help. And remember, With God, “all things are possible to him that believeth . . . !” Mark 9:23

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“Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand.”-Matthew 12:25

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