Deep Thought: Are men more sexually attracted “visually” while women are more “relational”?

A lady commented with this question-“why mean are perverts?”. I remember chatting with another lady about how men are more “visual” oriented and women are more “relationship” oriented..

The Difference Between the Male and Female Brain netnanny.com
“…Women See Relationships, Men See Body Parts
Anne Moir and David Jessel, in their book Brain Sex: The Real Difference Between Men and Women, write:

Women are not, in the main, turned on by pictures of nudes . . . Women may be aroused by pictures of couples coupling-because what they are seeing, in however sterile a sexual context, is a relationship in action. Women are not excited by a picture of male genitalia by itself . . . Men like female genital close-ups in porn magazines because it is a thing to which they can imagine doing things. Sex for men is vastly impersonal-pornography is simply meat for men. Do they ever wonder who the nude is? Not for a moment. They wonder what they would do to her.

Men want sex, and women want relationships. Men want flesh and women want love. Just as boys wanted balloons, toys, and carburetors, the girls have always wanted contact, and communion, and company.

The female mind is organized to place priority on relationship, the male on achievement. Men keep a tally of their sexual conquests. The female brain is not organized to keep sex in a separate compartment. This is a male model-as if his brain has a specific filing cabinet for sex, completely unrelated to emotion.
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VISUAL

Sex Differences in Response to Visual Sexual Stimuli: A Review ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
“…This article reviews what is currently known about how men and women respond to the presentation of visual sexual stimuli. While the assumption that men respond more to visual sexual stimuli is generally empirically supported, previous reports of sex differences are confounded by the variable content of the stimuli presented and measurement techniques. We propose that the cognitive processing stage of responding to sexual stimuli is the first stage in which sex differences occur. The divergence between men and women is proposed to occur at this time, reflected in differences in neural activation, and contribute to previously reported sex differences in downstream peripheral physiological responses and subjective reports of sexual arousal. ..”

Other

Gender Difference in Brain Activation to Audio-Visual Sexual Stimulation WS Chung; SM Lim; JH Yoo; H Yoon
Disclosures medscape.com
“..). The two AVS types were: (1) mood type, erotic video clips with a concrete story and (2) physical type, directly exposing sexual intercourse and genitalia. fMRI images were analyzed and compared for each stimulation with a Mann–Whitney U test, with statistical significance set at P<0.05. Men preferred the physical type of AVS to the mood type (mean arousal score 2.14 vs 1.86 in females) and women preferred the mood type (mean arousal score 2.14 vs 1.86 in males.."
Gender, Sex and Sexuality. The ambiguity and difference.

Sex Differences in Response to Sexual vs. Emotional Infidelity (THE SAAD TRUTH_84)


“..Published on Nov 8, 2015

The two sexes respond differently to these two forms of infidelity for very clear evolutionary reasons.

My Psychology Today article wherein I discuss this sex difference: http://bit.ly/1MFJr9
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EMOTIONAL

Are Women More Emotional Than Men? 5 Studies Examining Common Gender Stereotypes
Brent Stirton
Seth Millstein
July 8, 2014 • News bustle.com
“…In other words, most men would apparently rather experience physical pain than be alone with their own thoughts. That’s a pretty bleak assessment of the male psyche, and even the most charitable interpretation — that men are more “sensation seeking” than women — is drenched in gender normativity and stereotypes…”
Men Are Actually More Emotional Than Women, They Just Hide It Better elitedaily.com
“..Women are emotional, true. But according to a recent study, men may very well be more emotional than their female counterparts. The only difference is men hide it better.

In this study, conducted by neurologists at Mindlab, men are actually much more sensitive than women when it comes to being presented with emotional stimuli.
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Misc

Why did God make woman so opposite of man? November 4, 2014 / biblicalgenderroles biblicalgenderroles.com
“…But God did not just give women breasts for feeding children, he gave them breasts for the pleasure and comfort of man. Human females are the only mammals who have constantly protruding breasts, even when they are not pregnant or nursing children.

Because men are so visually wired by God, he made a woman’s body for beauty, not for toughness and endurance the way a man’s body is built.

But besides these practical differences, God also created woman for spiritual and symbolic reasons. God created man in his image, to exercise God’s leadership, provision and protection qualities. But man needed a person, not just some animal, which would allow him to exercise these traits. Woman was perfectly designed by God to fulfill this role as the recipient of man’s leadership, provision and protection, and to provide him with the perfect helper and companion.
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What are your thoughts, suggestions, feedback, etc..? Any personal stories?

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How to “fight” all the sexual temptations in this world?

Sex is everywhere (e.g. media), which one can’t avoid nowadays unless you live in a “enclosed” bubble…

Subliminal Messages Are Everywhere! With Scientific Studies In Description


“Uploaded on Nov 15, 2009

Documents and studies of mass subliminal manipulation and mind control:…

…By Rifleman0007
Mind-altering messages are everywhere – media, press, every-day pictures. The purpose of those is to implant certain pleasurable messages into your subconscious mind, associating them with products. Then out of nowhere you feel a need and pleasure for that particular product, have strange thoughts out of nowhere, or feel urgent need to buy/get something…

Pornography

-Suggestive Immoral Ads

Life Is Short. Have An Affair.
Posted: 07/21/2015 2:22 pm EDT Updated: 25 minutes ago huffingtonpost.com

What other ways the “media” brainwashes us through these subliminal “sexual messages?

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How to “fight” it? I decided to do this blog after having an interesting conversation with a “married” friend of mine. She told me the struggles and how she’s having a hard time. I’m no expert, but I can share my own personal tips.

First, one needs to constantly meditate in something “positive” (e.g. God’s Word) daily. If you any questions about how to do this, feel free to contact me. I try to do this morning and evening. I also “try” to remember to daily “put the Armor of God” (e.g. when your dressing-up for the day, just imagine it)….

http://prayer.goodnewseverybody.com/intercessory.htmlThe Armor of Godhttp://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=ephesians%206&version=NIV

Got any of your own personal tips to share to help “us” fight this together?

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Struggling with Sexual Temptation

Yes, this is a very interesting topic, which I’ve been meaning to write about a long time ago. It’s been a really increasing “issue” in our society and it’s very rarely talked about.  I decided to share my personal “on-going” story on how I deal with “sexual temptation”, which we can all agree it’s been a “epedimic”! Our actions (e.g. sexually abuse) can “negatviely” affect others, which is why I call it an “epedimic”.

First of all, I would have to share some personal background on how I got to where I am right now. I used to struggle with pornography (see http://issues.goodnewseverybody.com/pornography.html) at a young age (probably during my years of puberty, so around 14-16-can’t remember the exact age).

Well, the reason for sharing my past is that I notice that a lot of the people I’ve “chatted” with has opened-up to me that their “early years” play a significant role in their “sexual tendencies”. For example, an extreme story is of a lady who is 22nd now and she was so-called “rape” at age 7 by her dad’s “so-called friends”. She’s now very sexually active and told me she was actually “ok” with what happened when she was young.

Anyways, I can share more stories that are less “extreme” to the one above, but many get curious about their sexual identity or “activity” during the transitioning “puberty stages”. I’m not an expert on this topic, but based on my own experience and hearing from others-it seems like a “significant” season in peoples’ lives. I feel it’s important for “kids” around this age to be educated about this stuff.

Sexual Purity Into the Light – A Testimony in HD – YouTube

Escaping Sexual Sin: Consider the Consequences cbn.com
“…Through Paul, God is warning us not to be deceived into thinking that sin does not have disastrous consequences.

Please take a few moments right now, and invite the Holy Spirit to show you how sexual sin would seriously damage your life.

First, consider how it would affect your relationship with the Lord. Would you want to jeopardize your relationship with Jesus, who loves you more than anyone and gave His life to set you free from sin and death?..”

Kay Arthur – Pt 1 – Her Story of Sexual Sin & Freedom in Christ

I was just Tempted to Sin Hardcore BUT Overcame Through Christ …

Ok, what do we do now? We are sexual beings-some are more active than others. I’m here to just share my own personal tips and hoping you can learn from this. I welcome any other ideas (e.g. suggestions, comments, questions, etc..).

A Biblical Guide for Overcoming Sexual Temptation – YouTube

I knew I didn’t want to keep doing what I was doing as a young “immature” kid, so when I found my Christian faith. I learned to avoid temptation. The number one for me growing up was media (e.g. television). I haven’t had cable since 2006, which has been very helpful. Unfortunately, pornography is everywhere (e.g. computers). I “try” to avoid any pornography (e.g. pop-ups in computer websites) as I delete it or just run/flee..


Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.
1 Corinthians 6

However, it’s not easy as we read it in the Bible (God’s Word), so what has helped me since I became a Christian is several disciplinary tactics. I “try” to meditate (morning and evening) in God’s Word as it helps me “renew my mind” (keep my mind pure).
I then “try” to daily put the “Armor of God” (see Prayer: Intercession, Spiritual Warfare, etc…
) as life’s a battle everyday! Have others you can be accountable to, which means sharing your “dark secrets” with each other and cover each other in prayer. Lastly, keeping faithful or keeping that convenant/promise I made to my Heavenly Father that I will keep that “sexual purity” until marriage!

Still not convinced sexual temptation doesn’t effect others. Check this out…

Human Sex Slaves/Human Trafficking

Others:

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