Deep Thought: What’s an “ideal” father?

First, personally define “father”?

Now, let’s look up the definition according to the dictionary..

Father | Definition of Father by Merriam-Webster merriam-webster.com
“..Definition of father
1 a : a man who has begotten a child; also : sire 3
b capitalized
(1) : god 1
(2) : the first person of the Trinity (see Trinity 1)
2 : forefather

the founding fathers

3 a : one related to another in a way suggesting that of father to child
b : an old man —used as a respectful form of address
4 often capitalized : a pre-Scholastic (see scholastic 1a) Christian writer accepted by the church as an authoritative witness to its teaching and practice — called also church father
5 a : one that originates or institutes

the father of modern science

b : source

the sun, the father of warmth and light —Lena M. Whitney

c : prototype

the father of all libraries in the country

6 : a priest of the regular clergy; broadly : priest —used especially as a title
7 : one of the leading men (as of a city) —usually used in plural

a council of the city fathers
..”

Are you able to use any of the definitions above for your “dad” (e.g. biological, adoptive, “man” who raised you, etc..)?

Some people probably would say “no” if you live in America..

Fatherless Children Statistics and Other Data on Fatherhood | NFI
“..There is a father absence crisis in America.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 19.7 million children, more than 1 in 4, live without a father in the home. Consequently, there is a father factor in nearly all social ills facing America today…”

What’s your personal story? Was it due to divorce?

The 10 Most Common Reasons People Get Divorced headshot By YourTango huffingtonpost.com
“..communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail. Here are some other culprits our experts blame for the high divorce rate.

1. Getting in for the wrong reasons.

Marrying for money — we’ve all heard that that is a ticket to a quick divorce, but what about when you marry because it’s what you think you should do?

I’ve met many divorced women who say the problems that made them leave were there right from the beginning but “everyone expected us to live happily ever after” or “we had already spent so much money on the wedding” or “we had just built our dream home.” So, remember, until you say “I do,” you always have the choice to say “I don’t!” ..”

The Leading Cause of Divorce – YouTube

The 8 Main Causes of Divorce | Redonkulas.com – YouTube

Divorce Facts Men Need To Hear…

*interesting stats on the importance of having to be there for the kid

Absent Dad

The Consequences of the Absent Dad allprodad.com
“…This is an encouragement to educate and to motivate men to hear the call to battle on behalf of their children. We understand all the obstacles that are set up against you. While there may be obstacles, the consequences to the children remain. Only their dad can change the odds. Some of those consequences are increased chances of depression, behavioral issues, insecurity, bad grades, and higher dropout rates. Both boys and girls are equally susceptible. The natural order of the family is for the man to have authority (not power) to lead and when that authority is abdicated, a vacuum is created that will certainly be filled elsewhere. ..

Dealing With Anger From Having an Absent Father firstthings.org
“..“I can so identify with where LeBron is coming from,” says Kenneth Braswell, executive director of Fathers Incorporated. “I am a black man whose pent-up rage for my absent father drove me to do what I believed to be the right thing, for the right reason and with the right justification. Then I found out it was all wrong.”

Braswell believes, and research concurs, that there are hundreds of thousands of boys and men in America harboring pain and anger as a result of father absence…”

Absent Fathers, Affected Children – YouTube

Daughters

Impact of Absent Fathers on Girls – YouTube

Suggestions, feedback, personal stories, etc..?

more coming…

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