Deep Thought: Why is sexual abuse common?

-Church

What’s the State of the Church’s Child Abuse Crisis? February 25, 2014 /
by Sarah Childress Senior Digital Reporter, FRONTLINE Enterprise Journalism Group pbs.org
“..The first report that church officials received about Father Shawn Ratigan, compiled by a Kansas City Catholic school principal in May 2010, was troubling.

Ratigan had taken hundreds of photographs of children, Julie Hess, the principal, wrote to church officials. He had tried to interact with kids on Facebook, and sometimes had physical contact with children in ways that appeared to other adults to be “boundary violations.”A pair of girl’s underwear was found in a planter in his backyard…”
‘Spotlight’ portrayal of sex abuse scandal is making the Catholic Church uncomfortable all over again By Michelle Boorstein November 9, 2015 washingtonpost.com
“..“Sexual abuse of minors is a problem that affects many institutions in our society,” wrote Cesareo, head of the body charged with making sure the church enforces the rules it created after the scandal exploded. “In 2002, the Catholic Church recognized that it was not immune to this issue.”

Survivor advocates have bristled in the past when church leaders have declared the abuse crisis in Catholicism over, or have tried to remove focus from the institution itself. When Pope Francis this summer met in Philadelphia with survivors and included some people whose perpetrators were outside the church, many survivors who spoke out were angry at what they saw as a diluting of responsibility…”
Corey Haim Murdered Exposing Pedophiles in Hollywood , 14 September 2010 bbc.com
“..The Catholic Church has faced a raft of allegations of child sex abuse by priests and an inadequate response by bishops. Here is a round-up of some of those events:..”

-Family

The Healing Years documentary: healing from child sexual abuse 7 min excerpts


“Published on Sep 18, 2010

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“A message of hope, healing and empowerment.”
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“This powerhouse of a film.. banishes shame & celebrates women’s power.”
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Features Former Miss America, Marilyn Van Derbur and her courageous story of healing from the child sexual abuse by her father, Janice Mirikitani, President of Glide Memorial Church, her inspiring story of healing and launching much needed support groups for women survivors of sexual abuse, also substance abusers, and Barbara Hamilton, who ended generations of child sexual abuse in her family by healing in her later years. Distributed by Tubemogul.”

Joyce Meyer Opens Up About Being Raped by Her Father Over 200 Times-“I Never Felt Safe” Posted on April 27, 2016 Kelsey StraeterKelsey Straeter faithit.com
“…Even as Joyce started to open up about her dark past, she always referred to it as “sexual abuse”—but in a recent interview posted on her website this week, she admits that term is truly not enough anymore. It was rape.

“Literally, what he did was rape me, every week, at least once a week, until the time I was 18. My father, who I was supposed to be able to trust, who was supposed to keep me safe, raped me a minimum of 200 times,” she said.

“He didn’t force me physically, but through lies, and manipulation, and fears, and threats, I was still forced,” she added. “My father did rape me, numerous times, at least 200 times.”..

The main reason she is being so transparent in her testimony now is because she’s grateful that God’s grace and freedom have released her from the “pretending game” she had to play for so much of her life.

Though the pain and suffering ran deep for many years, Joyce has now been able to find healing through the love of God, who has shown her what a true father’s heart looks like. She even fell in love with her adoring husband, Dave, who reaffirmed that a man’s hands can be gentle, respectful and kind.

“How can that have happened to me, and me be standing here today, if God is not alive and well?” she said. “I want people to know how good God is, and that your struggle is worth it, your journey is worth it. Don’t give up.”

Joyce now loves her life as a mother, grandmother and worldwide Christian speaker, and she hopes that in sharing her story, others may find healing….”

Joyce Meyer Overcomes Abuse


“Published on Sep 5, 2016

Joyce was abused by her father during her childhood and teenage years – here’s her story of healing and forgiveness.

Filmed and produced by Joyce Meyer Ministries. Edited with permission by Lens Stories for RealDeal Trust. All Rights Reserved.”

-Hollywood

Corey Haim’s A-list rapist may finally be named — what took so long? 1 day ago (9.20.16) by Caroline Goddard sheknows.com

“..Feldman has been discussing the sick environment of Hollywood child sexual abuse for years, even detailing the abuse both he and Haim suffered in his memoir, Coreyography. Most recently, last spring he told The Hollywood Reporter about parties for preteen actors where predators groom their next victims, and said that he and Haim had attended many. And he’s not the only one speaking out.

Elijah Wood said he was protected from such predators because his mother would not allow him to attend the parties, and although he later denied firsthand knowledge of rampant sex abuse in the industry, he gave some very telling quotes to the Sunday Times.

“Clearly something major was going on in Hollywood. It was all organized. There are a lot of vipers in this industry, people who only have their own interests in mind,” he said.

“There is darkness in the underbelly. If you can imagine it, it’s probably happened.”

More: Corey Feldman details Hollywood sex abuse conspiracy

Even Alison Arngrim, who played Nellie Oleson on Little House on the Prairie, said the abuse was an open secret in Hollywood…”
Actor Corey Feldman Exposes Pedophile Hollywood Elite , from youtube.com
Corey Haim Murdered Exposing Pedophiles in Hollywood , from youtube.com
Corey Feldman’s 1993 report of sexual assault found in Santa Barbara sheriff’s office Maria Puente, USA TODAY Published 5:58 p.m. ET Dec. 6, 2017 | Updated 11:25 a.m. ET Dec. 7, 2017 usatoday.com

Corey Feldman’s 1993 report of sexual assault found in Santa Barbara sheriff’s office instagram.com

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“..The #SantaBarbara, CA Sheriff’s Office has located tapes of former child actor #CoreyFeldman testifying in 1993 about the identities of multiple child sex predators in the entertainment industry.

FoxNews.com reported Wednesday morning that after denying that the tapes existed, the sheriff’s department has now located the audio files, which were recorded during the trial of #MichaelJackson on charges of #childmolestation.

Santa Barbara Sheriff’s Office public information officer Kelly Hoover emailed a statement to Fox News that said, “Following the recent inquiries into the Sheriff’s Office interview of Mr. Feldman in 1993, the Santa ..”

The Hollywood Sex Abuse Documentary That You Almost Couldn’t See Adam B. Vary
BuzzFeed News Reporter buzzfeed.com
“..

The documentary creates a stark and sobering portrait of a loose network of Hollywood professionals — some outsize personalities like Collins-Rector, others Hollywood insiders with far smaller profiles — who use their positions of power and influence to sexually abuse and exploit underage (in the film’s case, male) actors whose nascent careers they’re supposed to be supporting. The movie, directed by the Oscar-nominated filmmaker Amy Berg (Deliver Us From Evil), premiered to some fanfare last November at the DOC NYC festival. But despite Berg’s pedigree and its startling, headline-grabbing subject matter, no top-tier distributors picked up the film for release…”

An Open Secret
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“..Published on May 6, 2015

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Pedophiles in Hollywood Conspiracy + Charlie Sheen + UK Stars + MUCH MORE , from youtube.com
“..Published on Dec 29, 2014

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Elijah Wood Clarifies Comments on Hollywood Pedophilia By DANIEL VICTORMAY 24, 2016 nytimes.com
“…The actor Elijah Wood clarified his remarks on Monday after suggesting in an interview with a London newspaper that sexual abuse of child stars was more widespread in Hollywood than had been reported.

After the interview with The Sunday Times drew international headlines and questions, Mr. Wood put out a statement emphasizing that his comments weren’t based on personal experience.

“Let me be clear: This subject of child abuse is an important one that should be discussed and properly investigated,” Mr. Wood said. “But as I made absolutely clear to the writer, I have no firsthand experience or observation of the topic, so I cannot speak with any authority beyond articles I have read and films I have seen.”..”

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-Mission Field

Paul Young – Pt 1 – Sexually Abused Missionary Kid


“Published on Apr 8, 2011

Paul tells his story of being sexually abused on the mission field from the age of 4 by the tribes his parents were trying to reach, and then by other kids at missionary boarding school. He discusses the consequent sexual addiction, porn use, and adultery that ensued.”
*shack movie

-Shame

Sexual Abuse: I Am A Survivor


“Published on Feb 16, 2012

The aftermath of sexual abuse can be devastating. For Hannah, it manifested itself through alcoholism, eating disorders and even cutting herself… all before she turned 18. This is her story.”

=>Homework

What Does the Bible Say About Guilt And Shame? – OpenBible.info

Answer

Why Do People Sexually Use or Abuse Children? 1in6.org
A very important question, asked by many people.
And a question – a search or quest, even – that some will struggle with for years.
“…..
Fearing they somehow brought it on themselves, and hoping that understanding the other person will prove it wasn’t their fault.
Still loving the person who used or abused them, and hoping that understanding why they did it will bring healing to their relationship.
Hoping that understanding why the person who used or abused them will help them to prevent other children (perhaps their own), from ever being sexually abused.
Feeling that life is unfair, unjust, random and/or meaningless, and hoping that understanding how someone could sexually abuse a child will bring some order and meaning to life.
Focusing on the other person, including why they did it, can be a way of avoiding one’s own responsibility, as an adult, for dealing with harmful effects in one’s own life, including self-destructive and harmful behaviors. (We mention this possible reason with no criticism of those to whom it applies. It’s not uncommon, and totally understandable, among those still struggling with major negative effects.)

Importantly, people may not be fully aware of some reasons why they’re asking why the other person (or people) did this to them. They may not recognize some hopes they have for the benefits that such understanding could bring. That’s totally normal. Over time the full significance of this question in your life may become clearer – or completely change as other aspects of your life change…”
Why would an adult sexually abuse a child? stopitnow.org
“..Some adults sexually abuse a child to feel the power and control they don’t feel in their relationships with other adults. Sometimes, adults who have intimate sexual relationships with other adults may sexually abuse children in moments of unusual stress, such as after the loss a job or during a divorce. Some adults are primarily sexually attracted to children, and some never act on those feelings. Some adults act impulsively when presented with an unexpected opportunity to sexually abuse a child. Other people, particularly youth with high social status or with social or emotional delays, may not even fully understand the harmful impact of their actions…”
An Ongoing Sex Drive Directed Toward Children

What Causes Someone To Molest?
childmolestationprevention.org
“..
A few sexual abusers will sexually touch a child because they are profoundly intellectually disabled, or they have developed a brain disorder, or they are psychotic. Close supervision and, when appropriate, medications to control the disorder often stop child molesters in this group.

George does not fit here.

Some abusers will sexually touch a child because they have an antisocial personality disorder. Think “anti-society.” People with this disorder may be social, even glib. So why do we call them “antisocial?” Because they believe that the rules of society do not apply to them. They break many of society’s rules. Essentially, antisocials lack feelings for others. In the mind of an antisocial, all of the rest of us, including children, exist to be used. The child molesters in this group appear most often in horrific accounts you see on television and in the newspaper.
..”

-Healing

The Secret to Being Healed from Sexual Abuse



“Published on Nov 22, 2015

Have you or someone you love been sexually abused? Healing is on the way! #MotivationalMonday #RealPeople #RealStories

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Homosexual Acts a Sin? Judge Not!

The whole homosexual issue has been on the news a lot lately-especially with the recent elections! I’m just glad the elections are over….lol! Well, the topic on whether same-sex marriage should be allowed or not was a “hot issue”! I’m not here to talk about politics because I got away from that during my college years as I decided I don’t want to get involved in this as a career…thanks God! I can’t speak for God or for Christians, but my “two cents” I want to give is it doesn’t matter what “we” think about homosexuality, it’s what God “thinks”. How do we know what God thinks? Therefore, who are “we” to judge or what say do we have? ..Judge NOT!..

Romans 2

God’s Righteous Judgment


2 You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. 2 Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. 3 So when you, a mere human being, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment? 4 Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance?

5 But because of your stubbornness and your unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God’s wrath, when his righteous judgment will be revealed. 6 God “will repay each person according to what they have done.”[a] 7 To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. 8 But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger. 9 There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile; 10 but glory, honor and peace for everyone who does good: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile. 11 For God does not show favoritism….

That’s God’s decision to know what to do if we just all submit and obey. We can all read the Bible and “interpret” it in our selfish (must respect each other’s individual bad or good experiences and understand one another’s view due to their experience) way, but what  I know based on what I’ve read is He is against “sexual immorality” (see Bible verses), which I’m no indifferent as I’ve committed many of these sins myself: adultery, perversity from my mouth, impure thoughts, pornography, and many other sexual inappropriate behaviors that I still continue to struggle with that are “despicable” to God that I’m not proud of. So what is “sexual immorality” (see previous blog on Struggling with Sexual Temptation)?

“12 All who sin apart from the law will also perish apart from the law, and all who sin under the law will be judged by the law. 13 For it is not those who hear the law who are righteous in God’s sight, but it is those who obey the law who will be declared righteous. 14 (Indeed, when Gentiles, who do not have the law, do by nature things required by the law, they are a law for themselves, even though they do not have the law. 15 They show that the requirements of the law are written on their hearts, their consciences also bearing witness, and their thoughts sometimes accusing them and at other times even defending them.) 16 This will take place on the day when God judges people’s secrets through Jesus Christ, as my gospel declares.

…17 Now you, if you call yourself a Jew; if you rely on the law and boast in God; 18 if you know his will and approve of what is superior because you are instructed by the law; 19 if you are convinced that you are a guide for the blind, a light for those who are in the dark, 20 an instructor of the foolish, a teacher of little children, because you have in the law the embodiment of knowledge and truth— 21 you, then, who teach others, do you not teach yourself? You who preach against stealing, do you steal? 22 You who say that people should not commit adultery, do you commit adultery? You who abhor idols, do you rob temples? 23 You who boast in the law, do you dishonor God by breaking the law? 24 As it is written: “God’s name is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.”[b]”Romans 2

No One Is Righteous (Romans 3)

“..“There is no one righteous, not even one
11 there is no one who understands;
there is no one who seeks God.

…19 Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God. 20 Therefore no one will be declared righteous in God’s sight by the works of the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of our sin……

Righteousness Through Faith

“21 But now apart from the law the righteousness of God has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. 22 This righteousness is given through faith in[h] Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. 25 God presented Christ as a sacrifice of atonement,[i] through the shedding of his blood—to be received by faith. He did this to demonstrate his righteousness, because in his forbearance he had left the sins committed beforehand unpunished— 26 he did it to demonstrate his righteousness at the present time, so as to be just and the one who justifies those who have faith in Jesus.”

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