First, personally define “father”?

Now, let’s look up the definition according to the dictionary..

Father | Definition of Father by Merriam-Webster merriam-webster.com
“..Definition of father
1 a : a man who has begotten a child; also : sire 3
b capitalized
(1) : god 1
(2) : the first person of the Trinity (see Trinity 1)
2 : forefather

the founding fathers

3 a : one related to another in a way suggesting that of father to child
b : an old man —used as a respectful form of address
4 often capitalized : a pre-Scholastic (see scholastic 1a) Christian writer accepted by the church as an authoritative witness to its teaching and practice — called also church father
5 a : one that originates or institutes

the father of modern science

b : source

the sun, the father of warmth and light —Lena M. Whitney

c : prototype

the father of all libraries in the country

6 : a priest of the regular clergy; broadly : priest —used especially as a title
7 : one of the leading men (as of a city) —usually used in plural

a council of the city fathers
..”

Are you able to use any of the definitions above for your “dad” (e.g. biological, adoptive, “man” who raised you, etc..)?

Some people probably would say “no” if you live in America..

Fatherless Children Statistics and Other Data on Fatherhood | NFI
“..There is a father absence crisis in America.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 19.7 million children, more than 1 in 4, live without a father in the home. Consequently, there is a father factor in nearly all social ills facing America today…”

What’s your personal story? Was it due to divorce?

The 10 Most Common Reasons People Get Divorced headshot By YourTango huffingtonpost.com
“..communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail. Here are some other culprits our experts blame for the high divorce rate.

1. Getting in for the wrong reasons.

Marrying for money — we’ve all heard that that is a ticket to a quick divorce, but what about when you marry because it’s what you think you should do?

I’ve met many divorced women who say the problems that made them leave were there right from the beginning but “everyone expected us to live happily ever after” or “we had already spent so much money on the wedding” or “we had just built our dream home.” So, remember, until you say “I do,” you always have the choice to say “I don’t!” ..”

The Leading Cause of Divorce – YouTube

The 8 Main Causes of Divorce | Redonkulas.com – YouTube

Divorce Facts Men Need To Hear…

*interesting stats on the importance of having to be there for the kid

Absent Dad

The Consequences of the Absent Dad allprodad.com
“…This is an encouragement to educate and to motivate men to hear the call to battle on behalf of their children. We understand all the obstacles that are set up against you. While there may be obstacles, the consequences to the children remain. Only their dad can change the odds. Some of those consequences are increased chances of depression, behavioral issues, insecurity, bad grades, and higher dropout rates. Both boys and girls are equally susceptible. The natural order of the family is for the man to have authority (not power) to lead and when that authority is abdicated, a vacuum is created that will certainly be filled elsewhere. ..

Dealing With Anger From Having an Absent Father firstthings.org
“..“I can so identify with where LeBron is coming from,” says Kenneth Braswell, executive director of Fathers Incorporated. “I am a black man whose pent-up rage for my absent father drove me to do what I believed to be the right thing, for the right reason and with the right justification. Then I found out it was all wrong.”

Braswell believes, and research concurs, that there are hundreds of thousands of boys and men in America harboring pain and anger as a result of father absence…”

Absent Fathers, Affected Children – YouTube

African-American Community

The Black Fatherhood Project

25 million U.S. kids grow up without Dads

CNN
Published on Sep 27, 2012
NBA stars Amare Stoudemire and Etan Thomas will speak to 300 men in Rikers Prison about the honor of being a father.

Tyrese: There’s a black fatherhood crisis

HLN
Published on Dec 3, 2012
There’s a crisis in the black community when it comes to fathers living outside the home. A recent study indicates that the number of African-American dads who don’t live with their children is nearly double that of white fathers.HLN’s Mike Galanos talks with actor and father Tyrese, along with daddy blogger Eric Payne, about what needs to be done to change the family dynamics. For more informaton please visit http://www.hlntv.com/video/2012/06/14…

Makes Me Wanna Holler.com – How To Be A Man, A … About E.Payne makesmewannaholler.com

Bishop T.D. Jakes Speaks On The Importance Of Fatherhood In The …

Roland S. Martin
Published on Dec 26, 2011
Roland Martin and Bishop T.D. Jakes talk one-on-one about the importance of fathers in the African-American community, the Bishop Eddie L. Long scandal and what Black men look for in leadership.

Daughters

Impact of Absent Fathers on Girls – YouTube

Movies

The 40 Best Movies to Watch on Father’s Day BY KRISTEN YOONSOO KIM
MAY 21, 2019 elle.com
From father-daughter comedies to heartbreaking art films and classic dad-bait action thrillers, here are the best movies that celebrate dads.

“..The Lion King (1994)
..

There are so many Disney movies in which a mother is the key parental figure, but this jungle-set Hamlet adaptation is a heart-wrencher for the tragic loss of Simba’s father, Mufasa. It is impossible to watch the stampede scene without fully sobbing—a great Father’s Day activity if you ask me. But it won’t be a downer all the way through: Hakuna Matata will get you through….

*see Movie Reflection: “Lion King” goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Reconcile with your Dad

-Movie
*see Movie Reflection: “Field of Dreams” goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Ray Kinsella’s father returning to Field of Dreams, again, for 30th Anniversary Sat., June 15, 2019 thegazette.com
Actor returning to the heaven he found in E. Iowa
“..Brown played John Kinsella, a former minor league player and late father of Ray Kinsella, played by Kevin Costner. The two never reconciled after a rift when Ray was 17. They argued over the guilt or innocence of John’s idol, Shoeless Joe Jackson, one of eight White Sox players accused of throwing the 1919 World Series in a gambling deal, in what became known as the Black Sox Scandal.

Now an adult, Ray is the novice farmer who heard a voice saying the movie’s other famous tagline, “If you build it, he will come.” Believing the “he” to be Jackson, Ray builds the ball diamond, against all the warnings that he’d go bankrupt tearing up the cornfield.

Spoiler alert: At the movie’s end, Ray discovers the “he” actually refers to his father, who has emerged with the other ghost players for a game there. After an awkward meeting between father and son, as John turns to disappear back into what’s left of the cornfield, Ray mends their broken hearts with a simple invitation: “Hey, Dad? You wanna have a catch?”
..”

Hey Dad. Do you want to have a catch?

We asked “If you could say anything to your Dad right now, what would it be?”

If you could say anything to your dad (dead, alive, etc..) right now, what would it be ?

MercyMe’s Bart Millard thought his father was going to kill him Brad Schmitt, Nashville Tennessean Published 9:00 a.m. CT Feb. 13, 2018 | Updated 6:43 p.m. CT June 16, 2018 tennessean.com
“..His dad switched from a razor strap to a wooden paddle halfway through the beating.

Bart Millard, only 8 or 9, was terrified.

He’d been beaten before, often. But this time was different…

Millard’s dad wasn’t always a monster. In fact, Arthur Wesley Millard Jr. was a beloved high school football hero, one of only two All-Americans from his rural Texas town of Greeneville, about 45 miles northeast of Dallas.

Everyone called him “Bub,” and even though he was a big bear of a guy, he was more teddy than grizzly.

Until the accident.

While flagging cars for the Texas highway department, Arthur Millard got hit by a diesel truck, a collision that put him in a coma for eight weeks…

*see Health: How to “deal” with concussions? goodnewshealthandfitness.wordpress.com

“Growing tensions

When he regained consciousness, “Bub” was a different guy. His attitude and temperament darkened. Combative with orderlies, crude with nurses, Arthur Millard eventually was restrained.

Three years later, the couple’s second child, Bart, was born. Tension in the house grew, and Millard’s parents divorced when the boy was only 3…”

*see Movie Reflection: “I Can Only Imagine” goodnewseverybodycom.wordpress.com

Sal: After reading the article above and watching the movie awhile ago, I connected the two and maybe his dad’s car accident played a part on his dad’s abusive behavior. I watched a video from Dr. Phil on how this husband was very “rude” to his wife, and they found out there was something that had to deal with his brain (injury before). This is a lesson about the importance of “understanding” one another.

Music

TobyMac – Family (Lyrics)

How LL Cool J Learned to Forgive His Father | Oprah’s … – YouTube

Reconciling

CONFRONTING MY DAD – YouTube

A Pastor Reunited with His Father || STEVE HARVEY – YouTube

TV. Shows

The Top 10 Black TV Fathers of All Time Michael Harriot
6/19/16 2:04am theroot.com

Father’s Day Everyday

Suggestions, feedback, personal stories, etc..?

more coming…

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