Deep Thought: Can I forgive my significant “other” that just hurt me?June 14, 2016 at 3:32 am | Posted in Deep, forgiveness, marriage, spouse, Thought, Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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We hear about forgiving our enemies when it comes to a political warfare or even bullies we grew up with. However, can we forgive those that we had a personal relationship (e.g. spouse, ex boyfriend/girlfriend, former friend, relative/family member, etc..)?
It Will Take Time to Forget Her Unfaithfulness
You will always look back on this as one of the hardest periods in your life, but again, that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to learn ‘how to get over my wife’s affair’, it just means it harder. The old mantra, forgive and forget, can NOT be applied to this situation. No matter how hard you try, the experience of this affair will remain in your mind…”
John & Lisa Bevere | How To Heal Your Marriage, from youtube.com
Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship
We are always called to forgive; but forgiveness should not be seen as a remedy to another’s character
“…Before we go any further, we must acknowledge that men can also be the victims of emotional abuse—but the statistics are difficult to interpret because men are even less likely than women to report emotional abuse.
We are always called to forgive; but forgiveness should not be seen as a remedy to another’s character, rather a soothing balm to protect our own hearts from bitterness.
But we see sisters and brothers letting destructive people into their lives, laboring under the fundamental misunderstanding that forgiveness equals being a doormat. It’s common as Christians to put ourselves in harm’s way, stay in abusive relationships and fail to set healthy boundaries—all under the banner of “forgiveness.” I know from experience.
Forgiveness and reconciliation are very different, yet often confused, perhaps because of the widespread teaching that God forgives us and doesn’t remember our sins. Are we to follow in His steps when we continue in toxic, abusive relationships?…
Dr. Bill Maier on Forgiveness and Restoration
By Bill Maier focusonthefamily.com
Saw her “live” in concert here in Morris years ago..
Cheri Keaggy on Her Divorce (A Story of God’s Restoration and Healing) , from youtube.com
“..Cheri tells her personal story of brokennes and restoration. Her story is similar to many other women’s stories who initially found their hopes and dreams shattered because of divorce.
For many, this is the greatest loss they have ever faced. It devastates them, and they desperately need emotional and spiritual help. They struggle with loneliness and shame. Many of them need to face the pain and begin to forgive themselves and others in order to move forward in life.
This 8-session Christian divorce recovery series covers topics such as loneliness, forgiveness, fear, rebuilding your life, dating, and moving past the shame and guilt to healing and wholeness. The complete Live Again kit comes with a DVD containing the eight 30-minute video sessions, 1 Leader Guide, 1 Participant Guide, and 1 Live Again Journal. Additional Participant Guides and Live Again Journal may be purchased separately. For more information, visit http://www.rose-publishing.com/Live-A…..”
To the Hurting Married Christian Woman: Why Women Stay
Elisabeth Klein Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer 2012 14 Jun crosswalk.com
“…Unless she gets to a place of moving on, of forgiving her husband, of realizing she stayed and that God did not make her or do that to her, and of actually wanting to be happy and experience joy and peace. Until then, she will have the same conversation and ask the same question to the next person who comes her way. In fact, she probably moved on from me and went to someone else moments later, telling the same story. …”
Marriage Restoration Testimony – Ashleigh D. (Jesus saves marriage!)
“In seeking to honor God through turbulent times, Ashleigh found herself at the right place at the right time to meet the right person so that her prayers could be answered. God’s sovereignty spoke through the circumstances and Ashleigh was able to move forward with confidence in God…”
Beth Moore: If My Husband Had An Affair… (James Robison | LIFE Today) , from youtube.com
Can any wife ever forgive a husband who was secretly gay all along? Sarah still can’t, 14 years after the confession that broke her heart dailymail.co.uk
“..She had been engrossed in some paperwork when her estranged husband Peter phoned out of the blue — the first time since their split two years before. In fact, she was more surprised by his making contact than by what he had to say. This despite the fact he was admitting to being homosexual — and having had affairs with men throughout their ten-year marriage….”
Anna Duggar Opens Up About Her Husband’s Betrayal , from youtube.com
“..Published on Dec 16, 2015
Anna speaks out about the moment she learned of Josh’s infidelity and how she’s been doing since the news broke.
JILL & JESSA: COUNTING ON continues Sunday at 9/8c on TLC…”
divorce and its effects on children , from youtube.com
The Politics of Divorce: When Children Become Pawns
Dr. Schwartz’s Weblog By Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. May 16, 2007 mentalhelp.net
Richard Cohen, M.A. ex-gaytruth.com
“..Richard Cohen was the youngest of three children born to a Jewish couple in Philadelphia. He was a child with a “sensitive nature” and lived in a family defined by its “constant fighting and tears.” His father would come home from work and scream at everyone. When his dad would tear into his older brother, the brother’s aggression would be unleashed on the younger Richard. “Fighting between my parents and fighting among us kids was our daily diet. My role was that of a peacemaker. I was always trying to bring order and peace to this chaotic home.”..”
Paul Ludford – my journey towards healing theforgivenessproject.com
“.. As regards to forgiveness- I’ve forgiven myself for the pain, fear and anger I’ve inflicted on myself and others around me during many years of self-denial. Buried painful memories always manifest themselves somehow and I knew no better until I looked and got help.
Forgiving my dad may come over time, but at the moment I see his self-satisfying sexual abuse of me inexcusable and unforgivable – he took advantage of a young boy for his own pleasure stealing my innocence and childhood. I didn’t have the resources, knowledge and life experiences to deal with the sexual monster my dad was…”
Diagnosing an Emotionally Destructive Relationship
Air Date: June 30, 2014 familylifetoday.com
“.. Licensed clinical social worker Leslie Vernick talks about the abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother and lists some of the tell-tale signs of an emotionally abusive relationship…”
How Can You Honor Parents When You Feel They Don’t Deserve It?
Ten ideas for repaying insult with blessing.
By Sabrina Beasley McDonald familylife.com
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