The other night, I sadly watched a segment on NBC Dateline about an unfortunate college partner abusive relationship turned murder…
Published on Dec 4, 2012
“College freshman, Alexandra Kogut, was brutally beaten to death in her dorm room. Police say the 18-year-old suffered sever trauma to her upper body. Her longtime boyfriend, 21-year-old Clayton Whittemore, was arrested and charged with her murder.Clayton was visiting Alex that weekend and Alex sent a mysterious tweet hours before police say she was killed. It said simply âshouldâve knownâ. What was she trying to say? For more informaton please visit http://www.hlntv.com/video/2012/10/02…..”
Dateline, Twitter take on Kogut slaying Todd Clausen, Staff writer 10:34 p.m. EST January 4, 2015 democratandchronicle.com
“…During the case, the defense argued that Whittemore lost control of himself because he was in the throes of an “extreme emotional disturbance” the night he killed Kogut. The disturbance, they said, was fueled by Whittemore’s abuse-filled childhood…”
After watching this episode, I questioned myself-“If Whittemore had some prior counseling of his abusive father in his upbringing, could all this been prevented?”
It seems like people who grew-up in a abusive environment, some take it to their own future partners/relationships? What can be done?
“…”Our theory was, his anger was building, building and perhaps fueled by alcohol,” District Attorney Sandra Doorley said on the show. “We never discounted his past, but that doesn’t excuse what he did.”…”
Was alcohol Whittemore’s “escape” to his abusive post-traumatic past?
“…And while the college has opened a center to raise awareness of dating violence, and a Purple Pink Foundation began to do much of the same, according to the show, those close to Kogut never thought Whittemore was capable of such an act. Purple was Kogut’s favorite color…”
Domestic violence as prevalent for college students as sexual assault, BY Jake New, Inside Higher Ed December 2, 2014 at 11:32 AM EDT pbs.org
“On Black Friday, Nadia Ezaldein, a University of Chicago student, was working at a Chicago Nordstrom when her ex-boyfriend entered the store, found her in the accessories department, and shot her to death. It was her 22nd birthday.
A day earlier, on Thanksgiving, Shannon Jones, a student at Cornell University, was allegedly strangled to death by her boyfriend during an argument. Police described the murder as a “domestic incident.”
The two cases are not the only abusive relationships to end in the death of a college student in recent months. In October, Cecilia Lam, a San Francisco State University student and advocate for the prevention of domestic violence, was shot and killed by her ex-boyfriend. Last month, Diamoney Greene, a student at the University of South Carolina, was killed by her boyfriend. Both killings were murder-suicides…..”
Autopsy shows Millersville freshman was beaten to death, boyfriend charged
By Associated Press February 9, 2015 4:55 pm college.usatoday.com
“..Orrostieta told police he and Hall, 18, of Chadds Ford, had argued at a party Saturday night and she had hit him, the affidavit said. They made up before returning to the dorm at around 1:30 a.m. and arguing again, the affidavit said. Stedman declined to say if there was a history of abuse in the relationship…”
Are you a college student? Do you have any similar stories/experiences like the “victims” above?
‘You ole trout mouth’: Chris Brown attacks ‘muppets’ Adrienne Bailon and Tamar Braxton after they criticise him on The Real show By Paul Chavez for MailOnline Published: 22:29 EST, 3 November 2014 | Updated: 04:08 EST, 4 November 2014 dailymail.co.uk
Former MLB player Milton Bradley’s history of domestic violence is most disgusting thing you’ll read today Apr 18, 2015 By Danielle Young, Lifestyle Editor newpittsburghcourieronline.com
Brittney Griner, Glory Johnson and the WNBA’s domestic violence problem By Justin Wm. Moyer April 24 2015
“…Or, in the case of the Women’s National Basketball Association: not. After two engaged WNBA stars — Phoenix Mercury star Brittney Griner and the Tulsa Shock’s Glory Johnson — were arrested after a domestic dispute Wednesday, some are asking why the WNBA has not been scrutinized as closely as the NFL, the NBA and other professional sports leagues for what may be an endemic problem….”
Ex-NFL star Ray Rice’s domestic violence charges dismissed
Reuters By Steve Ginsburg
May 21, 2015 12:27 PM sports.yahoo.com
” (Reuters) – A New Jersey judge on Thursday dismissed domestic violence charges against Ray Rice brought against the former National Football League star for knocking unconscious the woman he later married after Rice completed a pretrial intervention program….
What Church Leaders Can Do to Address Domestic Abuse By Lynette Hoy Published 12/1/2011 Domestic Violence Rating: counselcareconnection.org
“…HOY: Domestic violence is the number one public health issue facing women and children in the U.S. today. Seventy-five percent of calls to 911 are related to domestic violence. The following statistics demonstrate the pervasiveness of this crime: ..”
“…HOY: Churches have an opportunity to be at the forefront of intervention and prevention of abuse! Pastors and church leaders may be the first to hear about abuse or identify a victim. Not only can they help the victim access help, safety, and resources, but leaders can hold men accountable for changing abusive and controlling types of behavior.
Domestic violence and abuse are sinful patterns that need to be confronted. Pastors and leaders can address the wrong theology about headship issues, which may exacerbate power and control issues that lead to abuse in relationships. Men with power, control, and anger issues need to be confronted. The church can be an effective change agent. They can educate men and women in the roles of husbands and wives. They can emphasize love and respect in marriage. Women need to be taught how to apply assertiveness and boundaries in their relationships. ….
“..Dr. Christian Conte presents two extremely helpful anger management techniques. For more information about Dr. Conte, visit http://www.drchristianconte.com..”
Through Christ, I watched a man of anger & violence find peace hopefortheheart.org
My Abusive “Christian” Marriage todayschristianwoman.com
“… Counselors and pastors made many appeals for Tom to be accountable to other men for handling his rage. These attempts to stop the abuse were unsuccessful, and, nearly two years after Tom threw me into our daughter’s room, I made the decision to separate. I wanted restoration, and I knew that if Tom and I separated, divorce was possible—but I needed to do what was best for my daughter’s and my health and safety. I wondered how divorce would affect my daughter. I also knew how the church viewed divorce and wondered if my church would accept my decision. And worse, I wondered how God would respond to me…”
Abuse Support from community.drphil.com
Conflict Resolution Model For Managing Anger from youtube.com
“www.past-transgressions.com – When you are going through a conflict, identifying the reasons behind your loved one’s anger is the most important task. This presentation discusses the ideal conflict resolution model and focuses on the things you need to do before starting the actual conflict resolution process.”
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