How to Overcome Offense (through forgiveness)February 9, 2014 at 2:26 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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I just had this recent life “episode” of overcoming offense that I need to share with “everybody” as I feel we can all learn from this. I feel we all can relate to these “life circumstances” and that we can help each other out on this to “increase” peace in our increasingly troubled society/world. Here is the background of this story without giving too many “confidential” details. A “friend” (younger than me) of mine recently (last week) was very frustrated about his on-going weight issues as he was recently in the hospital for a “heart condition”. He was checking his weight one morning and I was going to “double” check it as I serve like a “nurse” at his particular place of residence. Well, he unfortunately gained weight and he started yelling (swearing) at me. I understood his “frustration” and I replied “angrily” that you can have another “staff” check you later this morning. He then would continue to vent his frustration and I would reply patiently to have his weight check by another staff as “another feedback”. He then left and went back to his bedroom. I wanted to bring “light” to this situation to encourage him, so I emailed him some “health” articles telling him he was “right” about an earlier situation (eating a particular food) and another article to “prevent” a future weight increase. He somehow misinterpreted one of the articles I shared and this got him more angry at me-wasn’t my intention. Well, he called me “names” via text and email. I wasn’t going to reply right away as I wanted him to “cool” off and not add more to the “increasing fire”. Instead of just “ignoring” passively, I started to pray for him more as I asked God/Heavenly Father to “soften his heart” every time I would think about this (sometimes frustratingly or angrily) throughout the day after this situation. Later in the day I found out he was back in the hospital…again! I then started to pray for him more (as I thought about how life is very short. Also, a similar story of a high school friend I didn’t “forgive” and later died of a car accident 😦 ) and was going to reply to him now to encourage him to “get better”. As I was about to do this, he actually called the phone where I was at and started apologizing for his “actions” as he was trying to explain how frustrated he was. After our long conversation of reconciliation after forgiveness, I would pray for continued healing and better health and peacefully said our “good night”.
A book that I partly read that I thought about during this “episode” last week was this->
The Bait of Satan
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