Restoring RelationshipsDecember 22, 2011 at 3:44 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment
Tags: Christmas, family, healing, holidays, past, peace, philosophical, political, prayer, reconciliation, relationships, Scrooge, Thanksgiving
With the Christmas holidays coming, people will be “looking forward” to getting together with love ones –family members. Is this really true? I mean, do we all actually look forward to seeing other family members? Maybe some, but I don’t think it’s true for all based on people I’ve talked with the past 2 months.
Before Thanksgiving last month, I ran (location is anonymous to protect the privacy and identity of this lady) into this lady and I asked her-“Got any big plans for the up-coming Thanksgiving holiday?”-with a smile eager to get a “positive” answer. She responded, “Well, I won’t call it big, but just getting together with family”. Then she went on with a unhappy (less enthusiastic) voice, “We just plan to get together and eat, then can’t wait to we just get out!”. She explained to me that family get-togethers are not really something to “look forward” to due to the “hostility” amongst her family. I can understand where she’s coming from as I too have seen similar “hostility” amongst my own family-relatives, which is sad to say. If you read this, I would love your prayer for peace-reconcilliation within my family-relatives. Salamat (thanks)! A close of friend of mine, who is now deceased, once shared with me about how his family don’t get along because of different beliefs on some “philosophical” (e.g. political) issues.
A couple of weeks later, I chatted with another lady about her own family. She has a sister that just brings up the “negative” in family conversations. We talked about there seems to be at least one in every family. The family gets together with all smiles and there seems to be just one that brings up the “negative” (e.g. past ) that majority just want to not bring up!
I then was reminded of the recent theatrical performance (“Gospel According to Scrooge”) I saw earlier this month in Alexandria, Minnesota. Scrooge “bah hum bug” people during the holidays because of his traumatized past-father was sent to jail because of financial bankruptcy before Christmas ..
I’m learning in life that individuals act the way they are because of past circumstances and they take (e.g. grudge) that with them; thus “negative” behavior towards others around them. We “positive” people need to learn how to understand their situation and be patient with them (e.g. take time to listen to them). Just by doing this can bring healing to them to have them just “open-up”. Then I highly recommend praying with them for healing afterwards.
There was a scene in the play where the family was all cheery and happy until a relative (Uncle Scrooge) shows up, but was changed because of prayers of his family..
Relationships can be restored through prayer (e.g. healing from past wounds) and hard work! It’s not going to be easy, but don’t give up!